I thought it was a girls-night-out, drank too much, and woke up next to a naked man...what should I do about telling my husband?
Q. I'm not sure what to do. My husband went away for a business trip that extended into last Saturday (because he had a late Friday meeting, and he was several hours away). My in-laws took the kids for the weekend for a visit. My girlfriend invited me ...
A. 16 March 2008: You've gotten some very good advice here. I'd like to add on just a bit.
The big question here is Stacy. Talk to her and find out what she has to say. You'll have a more complete picture of how you found yourself and another guy naked the next... (read in full...)
I am very "turned on" by my wife with another man, is this crazy?
Q. This is a little embarrassing, but have been wanting to ask someone about this for some time, but have never had the guts to ask any of my friends. My wife and I have a good friend (David). We've been friends with him for about 4 years. The 3 of ...
A. 16 March 2008: Intriguing and a bit unconventional, but definitely not crazy. However, you may want to reconsider giving her your blessing for the two of them going to San Diego without you. I've known a number of couples who are swingers and they tend to ha... (read in full...)
Is a younger man taboo?
Q. I met my son-in-laws brother a year ago, he is 16 years younger than me, he is the most intelligent, loving, amazing man I have ever met, he said age is nothing but a number, and just because my daughter and his brother are married does not make he ...
A. 16 March 2008: Love simply is ... regardlesss of race, religion, gender, politics and even age (as long as it isn't underage.) Although there's a difference between 30 and 46, but it's workable. Whatever is going on is real for both of you. As for what ... (read in full...)
I'm 17 weeks pregnant and I am having nightmares.
Q. I'm 17 weeks pregnant and I am having nightmares, not scary ones just creepy funky unbelievable ones, every hour on the hour I wake up, I'm so tired I feel like I could pass out all through the day. I've read that it's my hormones but I'm worried ...
A. 16 March 2008: Hormones are definitely a factor. Many dreams are "release dreams" which can be very bizarre and are just stuff being worked through and, hopefully, let go of while you sleep. Most of the time, we recall very few of our dreams. But hormonal ... (read in full...)
What does the word soulmate connotate to a man?
Q. Recently my new boss called me his soulmate. We have never been intimate, but we spend a lot of time together outside of work. What does the word soulmate connotate to a man? Further, he has never crossed any physical barriers with me. What...
A. 16 March 2008: No matter which way you look at it, he's suggesting he has a thing for you. Focus on him being your boss is a major "Hazard Ahead" warning sign. Proceed with caution and eyes wide open to all the possibilities. --H2H ... (read in full...)
Advice and thoughts on my girlfriend of 4 years breaking up with me for someone else.
Q. Ok well here is another break-up story. I never thought I would ever be writing this, but here it goes. I've been dating this girl for 4 years. She is 21 and I'm 26 so we've been dating since she was a senior in high school. we fell in love within a ...
A. 16 March 2008: Move on, she already has. It's a lesson to be learned. Let her be and it will be the pleasant memories of what the 2 of you have and shared for a time. Being *in love* is something that happens to you. It has a "will" of it's own. It comes,... (read in full...)
I'm not sure about my sexuality...
Q. Hi, I have a dilemma currently in my life. I'm not sure about my sexuality. I've always checked out guys as well as girls, but lately I find myself checking out guys more often but would never take that next step to go into a relationship with the...
A. 16 March 2008: You are simply you. Gay, straight, bi are just labels. Just like all the other labels that people use categorize others depending upon how they fit into their life.
All you can ever be is you.
Practically, you might consider looking into som... (read in full...)
It would be difficult to leave my husband, but could I be happy seeing this other guy?
Q. I have been married for 30 years, 3 children and 2 grandchildren. My husband needs to take medicine for Bipolar, which he refuses. He is not really any part of this house other than he works and comes home. That is all he thinks is neccacerry for a ...
A. 16 March 2008: You have to be true to yourself.
It's one thing to be there for someone through hell or high water, it's another to keep on being there when it's a one-way street. The first is loyal fidelity and the latter is masochism.
That's why I ... (read in full...)
Is this relationship salvageable?
Q. Okay, so it's kind of a complex situation. My boyfriend (on and off) of more than 5 years and I have decided we want to get married. I have just recently finished college and am currently looking for a decent job. He has just decided he doesn...
A. 16 March 2008: Asking if the relationship is salvageable is the wrong question. There's a "sacrifice" idea going on here.
You've just decided you want to have a life in common: a marriage. That means you both have to sacrifice for your mutual life together... (read in full...)
Why do I hurt so bad when I'm not with him?
Q. I'm like so in love with this guy right now and I like being in love but I feel sad sometimes like I can't be without him and when we are together everything is great but as soon as we part It makes me feel terrible why does it hurt so bad? Is love ...
A. 16 March 2008: It only hurts because of how intensely you feel when you're together.
The early stage of deep love is always like that and nothing else compares to it. Maybe he is the one for you.
One of my best friends, after knowing him for over 12 years, h... (read in full...)
Do I have a chance of being with him?
Q. How do I know if this boy likes me? Okay there is the boy in the 7th grade (im in 8th)named Robert and I like him but I don't know if he likes me. He doesn't seem interested but one day I was walking down the street and him and his friend were ...
A. 16 March 2008: Don't ask. It puts someone on the spot.
Instead just talk to him or make it easy for him to talk to you. And, of course, provide some encouragement like saying "Hi" to Robert the next time you see him with his friend.
Now, it could be that Ro... (read in full...)
He has a thing about trying to see my panties all the time!
Q. Whenever I'm alone at home with my boyfriend (whether his home or mine), he constantly tries to see my panties from under my skirt or by tugging down the side of my pants. When he just started doing it, it was fine, but he does it literally almost ...
A. 15 March 2008: Overreacting? No, it's simply your reaction.
It may seem "weird" to you, but he likes it and that's simply that.
And I don't think he overreacted when you accused him of being "weird."
It's just lack of mutual understanding on both si... (read in full...)
Could we be meant to be together sometime in the future?
Q. So i really dont know what to do here. Let me explain. I am 26 years old, single, and will be for a while. Im just not into the whole dating thing. I have a friend, who i talk to alot. We met about 3 years ago. She is alot older then i am, married ...
A. 15 March 2008: It could be....
It's a tough situation which I've been in more than once before myself.
The tricky part is the "could" and the pull of "in the future." What *is* is that there is a deep emotionally satisfying and mentally stimulating conn... (read in full...)
How can I relieve my frustration?
Q. is there some things i can do to relieve my sexual wants besides jacking off or having sex? my fiance is pregnant like 2 months in and i am so turned on but she isn't so i need some pointers as to what i can do to relieve this sexual want....
A. 15 March 2008: Is there something you are passionate about? Do you play sports? Do you exercise? Something that requires you to spend lots of emotion and/or physical energy?
Point is, find some way to expend the pent-up energy.
Having done that, it will be... (read in full...)
It would be difficult to leave my husband, but could I be happy seeing this other guy?
Q. I have been married for 30 years, 3 children and 2 grandchildren. My husband needs to take medicine for Bipolar, which he refuses. He is not really any part of this house other than he works and comes home. That is all he thinks is neccacerry for a ...
A. 15 March 2008: One thing that strikes me is your ending: how you kids would approve you leaving your husband. Providing financial support, or just "working and coming home" is enough only if you are keeping a mistress.
From what you say, he's not a husband:... (read in full...)
I got drunk and made an idiot of myself. What can I do now?
Q. I know this isn't a relationship question but I really don't know what to do! I went to my close friends party last night and I drank a bit too much. To make it worse I'd had nothing to eat that day which made me really drunk. But basically I made a ...
A. 15 March 2008: Just be you, it's the only thing you can really ever be.
All of us do things, drunk or not, that are embarrassing. So own it! It's something that you did, an action, not who you are.
You've already paid a high price for it -- you cried about ... (read in full...)
Am I being silly about my boyfriend's comments?
Q. I've been in a relationship with a guy I really like for about 6 months now. The problem is, at the beginning he was always talking about his ex's, mentioning silly abitrary things about them just because something reminded him of them. I didn't say ...
A. 15 March 2008: No, you are not being silly, just being real.
The problem is that he doesn't *seem* to understand how or why you feel the way you do.
So, why does he habitually act in a way that fosters insecurity in his girlfriends? Is he doing to protect... (read in full...)
A supportive husband
Q. My wife is 38 and a talented performer (singer and actress) who couldn't pursue her career when she was younger because she had a controlling first husband and abandoned her dreams. Now, she would like to pursue her "last chance" to make it. She ...
A. 15 March 2008: There is really very little choice here. She has a dream that she abandoned in her youth for the sake of a relationship. She wants, no, *needs* to pursue it now.
The "beauty enhancements" issue is tricky, especially since she's willing to work ... (read in full...)
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