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writes:is there some things i can do to relieve my sexual wants besides jacking off or having sex? my fiance is pregnant like 2 months in and i am so turned on but she isn't so i need some pointers as to what i can do to relieve this sexual want.
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reader, H2H +, writes (15 March 2008):
Is there something you are passionate about? Do you play sports? Do you exercise? Something that requires you to spend lots of emotion and/or physical energy?
Point is, find some way to expend the pent-up energy.
Having done that, it will be much, much easier to deal with your fiance's feelings. Asian tealeaf's reply gives a lot of good insight from a woman's perspective.
About the only thing I can think of to help your fiance feel better about how she looks now is something very subtle. You can spend time noticing and appreciating the beauty of her pregnant body ... but without saying any thing or making a big deal about it.
Women never really believe men when it comes to appraising their appearance. When they want an appraisal they can trust, they'll ask another woman.
But women do attend to men's non-verbal actions. If nothing else, your appreciation of her will help. Just don't expect her to understand that many men find pregnant women, especially one he loves and pregnant with his child, to supremely beautiful. Most just don't get it.
--H2H
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (15 March 2008):
 I like how you called it a want and not a need. :-) Anyways, try playing sports, try wearing yourself out through exercise. For some people, over time, the urges become less and less, but they might get worse before they get better (less and less.) Maybe get a hobby like painting models.Do things with your fiance that you mostly did when you first started dating her, such as seeing movies, going bowling, etc.
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reader, asian tealeaf  +, writes (15 March 2008):
 I think she feels insecure about her body and obvious weight gain... most women feel like fat whales. Lets face it, you can tell her all you want she's sexy, but truth be told, she feels fat. I'm 5 ft 2 96 pounds, had a kid with my man and while yes, I was SUPER horny and all we had sex all the time, I felt very self conscious about my body and though he insisted, when I was pregnant and I looked beautiful, when I looked in the mirror, the reality was in my face. I was fat and pregnant. No man will tell his wife, yea, you gained weight and you look fat, yea, you're waistline's bigger and your thighs are not as slim and your ass has grown larger, but honey, I still love you! You're asking for a homicide to be committed. The other factor though that you need to consider, is sometimes in some women, hormones are screwy during pregnancy and they are less hornier, they feel tired, and weary. So, perhaps just commit to close cuddling and affection that does not include sex. You know, it's not hard if you commit your mind to it. Your penis might be all hard and all, but keep your mind busy and focus on other aspects of your life, like preparation for the child and all. You might find yourself thinking less of sex if you preoccupy yourself with more important things than mundane matters such as sex. Sex is great and all, but it's not the end of your world because you're not having sex or, just have sex whenever she feels like it. Take whatever you can get and when you do, make sure you blow a gasket when you cum.If I were you I'd be practicing birth control after the baby is born, so you don't get her pregnant agin for a while anyhow, a couple years maybe more? or just don't have any more because if you think it's bad now, wait when the kids born and she is even more tired, and feels even worse about her body because her stomach's flabby, and her vaginas not so tight anymore, and she's preoccupied with the baby's needs. Hormones will be fucked up a year after child birth so she might not be too keen on it and maybe she will but with each progressive child, less time will be found for sex, and the excuses will grow longer. It's not like this for everyone, but I'm giving you the heads up sir. Work on your relationship and wear a jacket on your cock next time around or tie the tubes. Anyways, just make her know you accept her bodily changes and love her for everything she is and isn't. Hopefully things will return to normal for you!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008): Have you tried putting bromide in your coffee? That's apparently what they used to do to you when you were in the Army. Seriously though, there's nothing else I could think of!
Maybe your fiance will be more receptive once she's got used to the idea of being pregnant. There's no reason at all why sexual activity should stop because of pregnancy. The baby is well protected in it's own little world and no harm will come to it. Maybe that's what she's worried about and why she's turned off the tap (faucet to you).
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