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I grew up on a farm in a very small town in the Midwest, and I love animals. My life dream was to have a large stable to raise & train horses.
After 5 years in a relationship filled with alcohol,drugs, violence and solely supporting the household, I found out that the man I was supposed to marry had gotten my "best friend" and to be, maid of honor, pregnant. My life was in shambles!
Through some friends,I met the most interesting man. At first, he was everything that I didn't want. He was older than I by 21 years, and a "city boy". Yeesh! Did I hate city boys! Being that I had gone through what I had, I wanted nothing to do with another relationship, So, I saw him as "safe". Someone to talk to, someone to pass the time with. He somehow made me laugh, and seemed to have a way to drag me out of my misery.
One day, about 6 months later. I was in my friends house, looking out the window, watching "him". My friend says to me, "for Pete's sake, why the hell don't the two of you just go out sometime? If it isn't him gawking at you, it's you gawking at him!"
It was then I realized that that I was falling for him. We started hanging out more and more. One day when I was leaving work, I was almost to his house when it hit me, I hadn't been home in over a week.
I took lots of abuse from friends over this man. All the crap about his age and so on. All I knew is that when I was with him, I was happy! I quit doing drugs, I cut way back on my drinking, my self esteem had improved tremendously!
The only battle I had to confront was, telling my parents. I kept our relationship hidden from them for months. Then one day, I made a trip home and reluctantly told them. They were very quiet, my dad would hardly look at me. I started to cry. I got up and on my way out the door, I said to them," I love you guys very much, and I love him too! I want to be a part of the family, but if you cannot accept him as the man that I love, and not allow him in your home, I'll respect that." As I was heading for my car, my dad came out and grabbed me. He hugged me tighter that ever. He told me that he'd noticed how happy I'd been, and had seen the overall change in me. He said that if it's this is the man responsible for making his daughter happy, he'd accept him.
With my dad and boyfriend becoming very good friends, between the three of us, We have recently opened a feed and tack shop. I keep & train horses for other people and I also give riding lessons. I'm a country girl who's moved to the city, and my "city boy" is learning about the country.
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We have to start standing up for us Guys!
Q. Why is it that every one thinks that guys only want sex and if you say anything your going to make the woman mad,what about how i feel?i would like to see women thinking about us guys the way we realy think about them.im a guy who loves the one im ...
A. 10 December 2009: A reply to your post and a reminder to women. A relationship is a two way thing. I've seen many women take advantage of their man. He sends flowers on her birthday and anniversary, takes her to dinner, fixes her car, buys all sorts of gifts, ... (read in full...)
He's my friends ex, should I not see him?
Q. two weeks ago at this party I kissed my friends friend, we went back to a house after the party and things got a little more heated. I never thought anything more of it, but then he started texting me and now im going to get him on friday and im ...
A. 10 December 2009: I agree with Caring Guy. This could create more problems than it's worth. She's your friend. You're still young, guys will come and go and she'll still be there.
Don't mess with the friends ex's. That's not showing respect.... (read in full...)
I am in love with a 15 yo alcoholic
Q. I'm 15 and I broek up with my boyfriend about 3 moths ago because I had issues with the doubt that I was possibly not IN love with him and we've remained friends and I think I'm finally ready to move on and I tihnk I've fallen for someone, the thing ...
A. 9 December 2009: You said it yourself, 15 is too young to care for someone with depression. A drinking problem is nothing you want to get mixed up with either. Your age has nothing to do with it, it never becomes easy. All you would be doing is setting yourself... (read in full...)
Why do people hate virgins so much?
Q. Why do people hate virgins so much? What did we ever do to be treated the way we are? It just isn't right.I never criticize my friends decision to have sex,so why cant they just respect my choices.It's not as if I'm some kind of saint constantly ...
A. 9 December 2009: No need to go put on a dress. I married a man who says the sort of things that you do. He's not feminine in any way, just a real sweetheart!
Though neither of us were virgins when we came together. I wish that I would have been. It's truly amaz... (read in full...)
Shouldn't he remove her from his contact list?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for 8 months now. he broke off the relationship with his former girlfriend before we met, but because it was winter he still had his motorcyle and car stored in her garage. that bothered me because i felt there was ...
A. 8 August 2009: I'm by no means saying that he's fooling around with her, but I do agree that he should remove her from his list of contacts. Some people have a hard time cutting off all ties with an ex. It's as though they want to leave the door cracked open just ... (read in full...)
Should I believe him, or continue with my plans?
Q. Help! Me and my boyfriend of a year and a half broke up a few months ago, and ever since then we've been on-off. I still love him with all of my heart, and he says he does too, but the way he treats me says something completely different. If we get ...
A. 6 August 2009: Move on! He wants his cake and to eat it too. If he truly loved you he wouldn't say the terrible things he says. He wouldn't be putting up pictures of himself with other girls. Think about it, did he text you because he cares for you? Or did... (read in full...)
How much is too much to tolerate?
Q. My boyfriend of a year and a half wants to go visit his family far away. In order to do so, he insists that i do not stay at our apartment on my own - none the less in the CITY on my own and tells me that I have to go to my family's house in ...
A. 5 August 2009: Only you can make the decision of how much is too much. However, he sounds very selfish,controlling and insecure! This will only get worse as time goes on, Married or not!
Being that I'm one who doesn't like to be given an ultimatum, I'd pack my ... (read in full...)
Shes twice my age! Does this matter?
Q. Shes twice my age! is this an issue? ive recently started seeing an older women shes 40 im 20 i never even really considered actualy dating someone older was all a fantasy but its become real. we been meeting and chatting for a few months and we ...
A. 4 August 2009: Go for it!
If the two of you have fun together and really care for each other, that's all that matters.
You'll probably get a lot of flack from your friends and so will she, but if you can work through that, you're golden!... (read in full...)
He said he might date me if he broke up with his girlfriend. What do I do with my feeling for him?
Q. I dated my cousin who is 4 years older than me for a while until he broke up with me for another girl. Then I dated his friend. I just started talking again to a different one of his friends and I realized I like him. I said as much to him and he ...
A. 4 August 2009: So long as he's attached to someone else, there isn't much you can do. To go meddling in that relationship would be a bad idea, so don't go there.
You dated your cousin???? ... (read in full...)
I want to remain friends with my ex but I think he still wants to be with me. What should I do?
Q. Dear All I split with my ex nearly a month ago now after 18 mths together. It was a mutual agreement basically because I felt it wasn't going anywhere with him having a lot of baggage. We have said we would stay in touch and remain friends but now ...
A. 4 August 2009: Being the two of you are not a couple, you owe him no explanations. If you guys always end up in arguments, that's confirmation that splitting up was the right thing to do.
You said yourself that the two of you split up because of his baggage.... (read in full...)
Marrying a much older guy?
Q. Hi. Im 20 years old and im in a relationship with a man who is alot older than me. He is 53. I know it sounds rediculous but we really love each other and we are in seperable. He recently asked me if I wanted to marry him. I really want to marry him ...
A. 3 August 2009: I too am with a man who is much older. We are getting married this fall. Many people in society have a problem with relationships such as ours. If you think about it, it's very similar to how interracial relationships were looked at many years ago. ... (read in full...)
I really feel that it is love! But the age difference....
Q. Basically, i really love this guy, he tells me he likes me to, sometime i feel like hes leading me on, but hes afraid to let his feelings out because of the age gap between us, im 15 and hes 21, our birthdays are on the same month, mines before his, ...
A. 27 July 2009: Being one who's with a man that is much older, you wont hear me beating up on you! The bit of, "go find someone your own age", I strongly disagree with.
Love has it's way of grabbing you without your knowing it.
However, with you being 16, th... (read in full...)
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