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writes:Dear AllI split with my ex nearly a month ago now after 18 mths together. It was a mutual agreement basically because I felt it wasn't going anywhere with him having a lot of baggage. We have said we would stay in touch and remain friends but now I'm not sure it's such a good idea. We text each other a lot during the day and he wants to speak to me every night and we usually do but the conversation ends in an argument as to why we have broke etc etc. The icing on the cake was last weekend when I went out for drinks with a friend, we text each other through the night and then I went to a bar where he used to work but was sacked from. When we were together I didn't go in there because the manager had treated him like crap but I went in to see some friends on this particular night. He was really annoyed with this and started to bombard me with texts and calls all night thinking I was up to something. As the night carried on I started to ignore him but felt guilty. I didn't meet anyone and don't see what I did was so bad. He felt I went in there to be spiteful.I'm just worried this is getting out of hand. I want to still be friends with him but feel he still wants to be with me. I know the relationship has no future and will not work. What do I do?? My head is so messed up with this, I can't concentrate at work and feel like I'm breaking down.
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reader, Farm Girl  +, writes (4 August 2009):
 Being the two of you are not a couple, you owe him no explanations. If you guys always end up in arguments, that's confirmation that splitting up was the right thing to do.
You said yourself that the two of you split up because of his baggage. It's that same baggage that split you up that is causing you frustration now.
I'd walk away from the whole situation. He's only bringing you down, and for what?
Relationships and friendships are supposed to be fun, not depressing.
Good luck :)
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