Do you consider watching porn cheating?
Q. How can watching porn be cheating? Random question.. girls/guys some thoughts??...
A. 17 March 2011: Pornography; the word derives from the Greek p??????af?a (pornographia), which derives from the Greek words p???? (porne, "prostitute" and pornea, "prostitution"), and ???fe?? (graphein, "to write or to record," derived meaning "illustration," cf. ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to start!
Q. Just to clear things up, I am fifteen, in grade 10 and she is in grade 11. We are in a very small high school (started last year, but since it's French - not emersion, completely - it has already exceeded the maximum occupancy of the building at 140 ...
A. 14 March 2011: First off, you're only 15, in this modern world your focus should be on your education not on creating a relationship that will most probably only last four fifths of a second. Time is a precious commodity that mustn't be squandered. What you ... (read in full...)
I love him but I'm very jealous and now he's starting to complain
Q. Please help me I'm in love with this guy he loves me very much The problem is me I,ve started to be very jelousy. How can I stop This couse he is now complaining of my jelousy.wht can I do to stop This I do not want to loose him we have a grea...
A. 13 March 2011: Jealousy is a secondary emotion and typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something that the person values, particularly in reference to a human connection. Jealousy often ... (read in full...)
Am I a lesbian. Please need advice.
Q. hello i am quite young and i do not know if i am a lesbian or straight i really want to be straight but when i see pictures of naked girls i want to have lesbian sex and things does this mean im a lesbian? please help...
A. 7 January 2007: No, you're not lesbian. In most people this bi-curiosty is quite common, however the main thing that worries me is that you're interested in sex of any kind at such a young age; this would lead me to question the environment your in, in fact.... (read in full...)
I am worried that my relationship is stagnating sexually! Any good advice?
Q. I am worried that my relationship is stagnating sexually because we are both so exhausted from overwork and job and family stress. I don't want us to evolve into a cozy, sexless beer drinking friendliness. Ugh! Please help! I barely have t...
A. 7 January 2007: It sounds like your relationship requires a lot more work and effort, you two can still make time for each other for 'quality time' even if its only 1 day a week. You should schedule a day just for you two, no one else, just you two; or even set a ... (read in full...)
Am I getting an orgasm or steps leading up to one?
Q. ok so sry if this gets a bit in detailed but im not sure if i get an orgasm or if its just a little thing before i reach orgasm. so after a little while i will start to shake (writhe) and my breathing will increase and i will get really wet then ...
A. 7 January 2007: What you're experiencing is actually 'pre-coitus', which is when your body is building up to the release of endorphins which is systematic of an impending orgasm. My suggestion is to continue until your sensations reach an unbearable 'high', which ... (read in full...)
Call for moderators to help out with DearCupid!
Q. Hi everyone, This is another appeal for volunteers to be moderators. You get to approve and categorise questions and approve answers. If you could spare say ten minutes a few times a week, then this could be for you! Just add your name in thi...
A. 7 January 2007: I would like to moderate for this site. I find a lot of the questions very interesting and often post answers and advice. As an added bonus I'm actually a psychologist so I can provide advice that is both friendly and helpful. I do have about 20 ... (read in full...)
My gf says she feels "claustrophobic" and that I'm around too much...
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years, and living together for the last 5. When we first started going out with each other, she didn’t know anyone in the area as she had moved here as a student, so I tried to spend as much time with her as possi...
A. 30 June 2005: Take her out somewhere nice and romantic. Obviously shes missing the two of you going out together, instead of being constantly underneath one another's feet, make some space for the two of you. You don't have to move out to make this work, just ... (read in full...)
Was my boyfriend just tired, like he says... or was he trying to get rid of me?
Q. Dear agony aunt, Am I just being paranoid or is there some truth in what I'm feeling? Is he cheating on me? i I've been with me boyfriend for five months and everything was going really well up until a couple of weeks ago when he started to get dist...
A. 30 June 2005: Humm - another fairly easy one to answer. Do you want me to sugar coat this little jagged pill of truth I'm about to lay on you? No - excellent, you obviously stronger than that, naturally. You're being cheated on, you're being played, you're b... (read in full...)
Can I find a way to overcome feeling like a failure...
Q. I have been divorced for 5 years now, and still I can't get over the fact that I was made a fool of. She took everything I had worked so hard for. Now It is very hard for me to open up to anybody. I am turning 30 now and I don't want to end up ...
A. 30 June 2005: Well, of course you feee like a failure - maybe divorce is killing your spririt. Bottom line (yep this is a quick an easy one today) get a life and quit mopping around like a castrated monkey. Cruel - yes - fun to write factor, very high - howe... (read in full...)
Was my boyfriend just tired, like he says... or was he trying to get rid of me?
Q. Dear agony aunt, Am I just being paranoid or is there some truth in what I'm feeling? Is he cheating on me? i I've been with me boyfriend for five months and everything was going really well up until a couple of weeks ago when he started to get dist...
A. 30 June 2005: well i dont think that you are being paranoid, call it womans intuition! the best thing to do is ask him if he feels everything is ok between the two of you? and try seeing him more, even pop around to hes house unexpected but if you continuosly ... (read in full...)
I can't stand the thought of the girl I want doing "normal" dating without me!
Q. Look, I have a problem and it's making me feel suicidal. I am 20 yrs old and am a university student, i have never been in a relationship and am a virgin. I hate myself for this - i feel unloved and as though I will die a lonely man. Until rec...
A. 23 June 2005: Jeez-louise what is going on in that head of yours? First off, if you ask someone 1001 times the same question and always back 1001 times you get the same response - no - then you must learn that perhaps her answer is really no and not some perverse ... (read in full...)
We live in different cities, we can't find time together... and I worry about our future!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 5 years. We met through work and have never lived together. I live in London and she lives in Birmingham. We are both very career orientated people, as an actor I need to be in London for my work and she ...
A. 22 June 2005: Well, well what an unfortunate train of events. However none of it is as difficult to resolve as you think. Logically, the best thing to do is for you two to go your separate ways, as, after all she only has limited time to give birth to healthy ... (read in full...)
What can I do? I lose my erection after about 10 minutes...
Q. I am a 32 year old male. I have had a problem sustaining an erection for about 10 years. I can get a full erection for about 10 minutes, then it just dies off. It has been getting me down for years, and wonder is this normal, and how can I combat ...
A. 20 June 2005: This is problem isn't common - is it? The best way to combat this loss of libido is to perhaps look at what you're doing to yourself; for example do you exercise regularly; do you eat lots of fruit and vegatables and lots of iron? Maybe the problem ... (read in full...)
I asked him to stop online chatting and porn, but he did it behind my back!
Q. My b/f 35 and I'm 33. At one time he was talking with girls on line and he was even calling them up and he also looked at porn all the time. He told me would stop and I thought he did but I found out he has been chatting with them again,and still lo...
A. 19 June 2005: At the end of the day - this is a problem. Your boyfriend won't admit to himself that he has a problem yet alone admit it to you. The best thing you can do is confront him about his perverse curiousity and ask for an explanation. If he continues to ... (read in full...)
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