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writes: I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years, and living together for the last 5. When we first started going out with each other, she didn’t know anyone in the area as she had moved here as a student, so I tried to spend as much time with her as possible. In the last year she has become very distant from me, whenever I confront her she says she’s stressed out from work and feels claustrophobic with me being around all the time and saying we very rarely go together anymore. We spoke again the other day, when she suggested we split up. We agreed I was to move out for 4 weeks and go on a few dates during that time. I love her so much, what can I do?
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reader, tender_angel86 +, writes (1 July 2005):
Hey, just a quick note. When people become distant sometimes it can mean that they are interested in someone else, what type of guys are at her work, who does she see on a day to day basis? Another question, who brought up the whole "go on a few dates" thing. If she did, then I think you should consider the fact that she has meet someone else who has taken her fancy. Perhaphs she was treated you 'badly' so that you wuld say something bad to her, giving her some justification for flirting with other guys? Or not, I am just saying what it COULD be . Just for the record I am a female and know what females are like.
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reader, Dr. Mephisto  +, writes (30 June 2005):
 Take her out somewhere nice and romantic. Obviously shes missing the two of you going out together, instead of being constantly underneath one another's feet, make some space for the two of you. You don't have to move out to make this work, just give each other some personal space. Do you both work? Do you both have any hobbies? Treat her once in a while, make her feel special, you must know what she likes! Her feeling like this doesn't mean that she doesn't love you, she just likes her space. I'm the same, I understand how your g/f is feeling, just give her some space, dont make any big deals about it, trust me, things will work out fine. Talk to her, tell her you love her and that you will do anything to ensure that shes happy, find ways to help her relieve her stress, but if things still remain the same after all your attempts to make her happy then prehaps her feelings are running a little more deeper than you think! talk to her, communicate with one another. good luck mate.
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