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... Send *fterglow a private message | | | *fterglow's profile:Afterglow is the title of a song I wrote with my former band. Yeah, that's me in my avatar. I am just a man blessed with insight, knowledge and empathy for what we all experience as we try to navigate from one day to the next. I have a fountain of friends and associates who value our talks due to my no-hold's barred-direct-and-to-the-point-with-an-undercoat-of-honesty-and sincerity approach to advice. Although I am in my 40's I have lived a dynamic life, full of experience and adventure. I have been blessed with a keen sense of perspective and perception. I come from a place of rational thought and NOT emotional response.
I live in New York. Was born and raise in rural Ohio. I have performed all over this country and abroad.
Without saying too much, I am very sexually aware and knowledgeable. I have experienced many relationships over the years, including marriage. Let's just say, I know how people related to one another....So, ask away....it's all taken with a grain of salt. |
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My new man's sex drive is just so not on a par with mine and I think his deep love & affection for me is adversely affecting his sex drive!
Q. I was in a dysfunctional relationship for almost 8 years, I have to confess that is was largely because the sex was good, I was 33 when I met him and for the first time I was able to orgasm through penetrative sex and I guess I got addicted. My ...
A. 22 June 2013: OK...It appears you have made a plethora of "assumptions". You were under the "assumption" that all guys are cut from the same cloth when it comes to sexual relations. I can't blame you. Society and media loves to portray the male stereotype of "Men ... (read in full...)
I'm desperate and want to run away from my husband, please advise!
Q. I'm an indian.I got married in 2007(traditionally arranged marriage).my hubby and me never got along well rite from the beginning.I grew up as an independent girl, did all my work myself since 12 old(I've no mother, my dad's got a family of his ...
A. 14 August 2010: While your ethnicity and cultural indoctrination may be Indian, you now live in America where, as a woman, you have rights. Understand that you have options. NO ONE has to stay in a relationship that is deemed detrimental towards your health; mental ... (read in full...)
I'm uncomfortable with my weight, what can I do?
Q. Please help me! I want to weigh 110 pounds by march 2011 and it's July 2010. And I'm 13 and I weigh 150 yeah I know what a shocker! So what can I do? Other then cooking healthier foods and stuff cuz I doubt my parents will do that. I mean exercise ...
A. 14 July 2010: Hello, As you can see by my picture that is my avatar, being in shape is very important to me. Here's the deal. While it is a little more difficult to deal with the food issue because you don't cook your own food, you can still control how ... (read in full...)
I think my sister saw me!
Q. Hey, well here's the deal. When I was in my room with the door closed, I was watching some porn.. with my penis showing and in erection. I wasn't masturbating but my sis pushed the door, she didn't look directly and walked off. I'm traumatized that ...
A. 14 July 2010: Ok Lil' Bro....MAN to young MAN
Regarding your sister possibly seeing you, GET OVER IT..WALK IT OFF...you are a teenage boy. EVERY adult knows that is what boys/ men do. You were watching porn and being aroused in the privacy of your own room. Yo... (read in full...)
Under what circumstances would you lie about your name to a person of the same gender?
Q. Before I start shooting my question, I want to thank you all for reading my post. This is not about relationships, however, it has been bothering me since it happened. Today, my friend's gf arranged a surprise dinner for him in a near by city. In...
A. 14 July 2010: One of the things I have learned over the years is to NOT look for rational explanations to irrational behavior. There is always going to be a disconnect. Regardless of the answer, you are always going to feel that there was a "better" way to handle ... (read in full...)
Coping with being gay at 13
Q. I'm gay and I'm going crazy I have no one to talk to and I don't even know a gay person for advice I can't even go to a therapist my mind keeps on fantasising thinking about men's six packs and privates i thought it was a good thing when I admitted ...
A. 14 July 2010: At 13, there is not much you can do about your personal surroundings. What I mean is, you are not financially able to be on your own and survive and flourish accordingly. You are a minor and will be consider a dependent until you are 18. So, being ... (read in full...)
He hates my children!
Q. my new partner hates my children!!! I have been with my partner for 3 years we have 2 little girls together. i was previously married and have 2 children with my ex wife i see them once a fortnight friday to sunday. when they come to stay all we do ...
A. 11 July 2010: Dude REALLY??? I cant'...I simply can't respond in that motherly, nurturing way that some women on this site are able to do, so effectively.
MAN to MAN...what the hell is your Problem?? It's punk ass men like you who have fu#ked up the lives an... (read in full...)
What can you do when someone changes?
Q. I was engaged to the woman of my dreams. Suddenly she was no longer the person I was in love with. Emotionally unavailable, distant, rarely affectionate. No will to seek out employment, no will to play music. She suddenly is no longe...
A. 11 July 2010: I always have the same reaction when I hear of relationship troubles and issues of someone UNDER 25. I don't understand that motivation to put up with non-sense. I really don't. You are at an age where the world is your oyster. Your goals and ... (read in full...)
My husband has a problem with hygiene!
Q. Hey all, quick question. My husband has a problem with hygiene, such as I have to "tell" him to brush his teeth, or to take a shower...I find it disgusting, and a HUGE turn-off. I don't want to be rude about it, but I want the problem to be fixed. ...
A. 5 July 2010: Seriously, what would be his incentive to change his behavior? This was not a new phenomenon with him. He didn't just up and adopt poor hygiene out of the blue. You didn't marry a pristine dude only to watch him morph into a disgusting swamp a$$. ... (read in full...)
Abortions, what do you think?
Q. *OP's Original Title* Hey aunt and uncles. I just wanted to know your opinions on abortion. About a year ago i went with my brother and his ex girlfriend for them to have an abortion. I know it wasn't me having an abortion but it really a...
A. 5 July 2010: All I can say is, as a MAN, I could NEVER fathom the idea of not having total control over the decisions I make governing ANYTHING that happens with my body.
I simply do not believe that a person should have the right to decide what another ... (read in full...)
Want to be myself, but how do I figure out who I am??
Q. "Be who you are! is what they say. But the uestion is: "Who am I"...
A. 5 July 2010: Hello, Long ago, I wrote a song for my band that expressed the sentiment of "Everyone says be yourself. Be yourself. Yet, the truth is that it's ok to be yourself as long as others are comfortable with who you are being". So, I would guess that your ... (read in full...)
Never met, year plus, long distance relationship, can this survive??
Q. I've know my bf for 1yr and some months now. I love him dearly and he loves me. We webcam and chat through internet, yet we never psyhicaly met each other in our lives. Yet his in the next state from me.We really want to be together. Is our ...
A. 5 July 2010: Wow...you really don't expect much from a relationship. Long distance is one thing. To say that you are involved in a real loving relationship for over a YEAR with someone you've never met...whoa!
Here's the deal, the relationship would have to ... (read in full...)
When there is a history of lying, how can you rebuild trust?
Q. Please excuse the length, but I really need some advice. I've been dating the same woman for over 5 years and recently we've had some serious troubles. To make a long story short, I recently moved away for graduate school (just 2 hours away) and ...
A. 5 July 2010: Wow, dude...you are going through it. Here is what I have to say to you. You have to honestly look yourself in the mirror and ask "What do I deserve in a partner?". I truly feel that you should receive what you give. If you are truthful, committed, ... (read in full...)
How do I leave a controlling cop?
Q. Help, I am living with a controlling man, who is also a policeman. I own my own house and have told him to leave but he refuses to. He had a messed up upbringing, doesnt speak to his family, has issues beyond belief and is manipulative. ...
A. 5 July 2010: You are not the first person to end up in your situation with someone with some form of power and authority. Fortunately, we are at a time in life and culture where these issues are no longer ignored or swept under proverbial rugs. Every state has a ... (read in full...)
They say girls don't care about penis size, but what about boys?
Q. Okay so I've read all the questions and answers about penis size. And people say it's what you can do that matters and the girl won't care what size you are. I know that but I still feel insecure. And also..I'm a bisexual 15 year old and people ...
A. 5 July 2010: I don't believe in given Hallmark, Politically correct answers. Throughout my 30+ years, I have been straight, Bisexual, Asexual and full out homo. The issue of dick size is one that has gone on since life began on this planet. The truth is YES and ... (read in full...)
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