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writes: Okay so I've read all the questions and answers about penis size. And people say it's what you can do that matters and the girl won't care what size you are. I know that but I still feel insecure. And also..I'm a bisexual 15 year old and people are always saying that the girl won't care. But what if it's a guy? I mean they have one too, so won't they be more judgmental? That's what I'm afraid of. I mean heard that in some gay relationships like they see who has the bigger penis. I'm just really insecure about this. Does anyone who has experience or any insight on this topic help me? I really need it. thanks
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reader, Afterglow +, writes (5 July 2010):
 I don't believe in given Hallmark, Politically correct answers. Throughout my 30+ years, I have been straight, Bisexual, Asexual and full out homo. The issue of dick size is one that has gone on since life began on this planet. The truth is YES and NO, regarding the importance of penis size. If we are speaking in context of "visual stimulation" then most guys are more turned on by a larger member. I mean, truthfully, ask yourself. As a bisexual man, you are turned on by an erect penis. You have seen both-small and large. Which one holds your attention more? A small penis or a large one? Now, another context to consider is if you are prone to topping or bottoming during sexual relations. In the gay world, bottoms are sought for being receivers, regardless of their penis size. So, to a top, size doesn't matter. Nonetheless, most prefer the "visual" of a larger member. Now, if you are a top, your penis size in the gay world matters a little more. First off, as a top, if you are with a bottom referred to as a "size queen", your "johnson" is expected to meet some preconceived stats. One the otherhand, your bottom partner may not be able to handle a larger member. I will conclude by saying when it comes to "visual stimulation", the truth is, size matters. When it comes to "physical stimulation" it all depends on the individual you are with. Most men like to LOOK at a big one, but do not want to SIT on a big one. Now if you suffer from "Micro phallus" all I can say is awww "bless your heart". You'd damn sure better have an AMAZING personality..:)
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reader, der_zyniker +, writes (4 July 2010):
They'll only care if they are superficial and I doubt that you want to be in a relationship with someone like that.
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (2 July 2010):
 I am mostly... a top (meaning I'm usually doing the penetration, rather than being penetrated). On the occasion that I want to be penetrated... I do NOT want some baseball bat sized thing coming at me. For me I like a nice long THIN one than a FAT one. That being said, it's all about preference really. Some want 'em HUGE and some want 'em small. Some want 'em thick, while others want them fat. Cut vs Uncut. Hairy vs Smooth.
It really is all about preference and what works for the two who are connecting. If someone is into you... it really doesn't matter. They'll have sex with you because they are into you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2010): Honestly? We DON'T CARE as long as we've got the hots for the guy in question.
OK, if you put two (or five or ten) gorgeous smokin-hot naked erect men in front of me and, all things being equal, they looked identical and had the same appeal in terms of personality, muscle tone, facial bone structure etc, I MIGHT just be naturally drawn to the guy with the biggest cock. Anon poster mentioned 'size queens'. If I see a guy who gives me tingles and palpitations, I admit I might get around to wondering about his...y'know, dimensions, girth etc...before actually seeing it in the flesh. And I do love to find out it's a big one. But by the time I want a man enough to reach for his zipper, it's seriously unlikely that any 'shortcomings' in the size department would put me off.
And while 'the bigger the better' probably appliess for oral (bj) purposes, inexperienced guys who're just 'starting out' will actually find it easier to take one that isn't TOO huge and thick for the purposes of penetration. Those things hurt a bit when you're not very used to them!
Bottom line, it's not about size, it's about how well they work it - and any guy who reduces attraction down to a matter of penis size is an idiot who isn't worth your time being intimate with.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2010): Both genders have what are known as "size queens" or people who obsess over penis size. This is incredibly stupid, and most sensible men and women won't care as long as you're able to perform well in bed. At your age, you won't have to worry about being a little inexperienced. Let relationships evolve as they need to and don't worry so much about sex. It's a bridge you should cross when you come to it.
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