My family will only accept him if he converts and he won't.
Q. I'm a muslim girl from a rich prominent muslim family, who are moderately religious not hectic muslism but nevertheless practicing muslims. I've been in a relationship with a white christian guy for 4 years ( we've tried to break up but can't and to ...
A. 11 November 2008: No one should ever be indoctrinated into a religion - especially one based on such negativity towards non-believers and enforcement of submission of women to men.
Why do you feel the need for religion at all and surely this shows you how damaging... (read in full...)
Why was he so pissed off at me???
Q. Hello everyone, I am in a relationship that started almost a year ago. I am 23, in college and recently lost my job suddenly which has been causing me a lot of stress. Before I lost my job, my boyfriend (he's 24) and I used to argue sometimes,...
A. 11 November 2008: There were multiple pens around the room you were in and you went upstairs to unnecessarily wake him up? Whilst this may seem petty, his reaction would suggest he has lost all respect for you. He may feel you are stupid for losing a job and not ... (read in full...)
I held his hand... does that mean our friendship is over?!?
Q. help! i held my guy friends hand. I didn't even realise i was. i texted him after but he didn't reply. Does this mean its the end of our friendship or what could it mean?...
A. 10 November 2008: ask him? its good to talk.... (read in full...)
I'm fat, right?
Q. Hey, I'm 16 years old. I'm 6 ft tall and weigh 98 kilograms. I'm F A T, right?...
A. 10 November 2008: om nom nom nom. sounds like you like the pies and the cake. You'll know if you are fat by how much wobbly fat you have on your stomach and pecs? With a BMI of 28 yes you are overweight. Cut back to a 1500 Kcal diet with 60g of fat a day and 20... (read in full...)
Why does it bother me to know that my boyfriend has had sex in public places...?
Q. Why does it bother me to know that my boyfriend has had sex in public places and done kinky stuff before, more than knowing he's had sex?...
A. 10 November 2008: there is a lesson - all relationships start at 'year zero'. All that happened before has gone. The only thing that matters is the now. You have to recognise that ex-relationships are just that = ex. Don't judge or worry about other peoples past. ... (read in full...)
I suspect that my boyfriend is secretly taking heroin.
Q. I suspect that my boyfriend is secretly taking heroin. He has done it before and I said if he took it again I would have to finish the relationship. He agreed and stopped but I fear it is happening again. I have asked him directly and he said No! ...
A. 10 November 2008: This seems to be on your terms not his. Giving up anything addictive needs to come from them. I would change tact and see what help he needs to kick the habbit if he has lapsed. If he abuses your help and really doesn't want to give it up then ... (read in full...)
Help! Decoding guy speak?
Q. I am interested in a guy I have spoken to several times at a local bar. But I can't determine if he is interested or just being nice. Last week for the first time I think I got the hint that he is interested. Before leaving last week he even made ...
A. 10 November 2008: The fact that you are asking means he probably isn't interested in a relationship - just sex. The fact he is telling you about other women confirms that you are not the centre of his attention - so if that's what you're happy with I would say just ... (read in full...)
Had a fling with a guy. How do I act around him now?
Q. A couple of months ago I got with a guy who I didn't really know that well but all my friends do, as a fun end of exams fling. He's really hot and a genuine nice guy. Anyway, not being gross but he went down on me, and it was good, yeah, but now I ...
A. 10 November 2008: Good idea is find out something he has done and ask him about it - take the pressure off you having to say something. He will also like the fact you are interest in him. If all else fails just ask if he wants to go for a coffee sometime. Read a ... (read in full...)
I have a lot of friends, who are boys, I like it that way, they want more, how do I let them down easy and keep them as friends?
Q. I have sooooo many guys hu are mi best mates, most of them are at my school. The problem you may ask that I have is that all my girl best mates say that they ALL like fancie me......... i found out this was true the other day........ I don't know ...
A. 10 November 2008: Please don't lie to them like most girls do - 'its not you, its me... i don't want to ruin our friendship blah blah'. Boys hate such lines - what you actually mean is "i've never fancied you and I find you attention unwelcome" - Maybe find some ... (read in full...)
His ex is ruining my life!!!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am recently remarried to a man who treats me good. The problem is, is his ex wife. She constantly causes trouble in our household. She even shows up and waltzes on the property like she owns the place. She sends her daughter up here ...
A. 10 November 2008: Simple - do not engage. Leave this up to you husband. These lies only work because you react. No matter how maddening they are just smile and do not enter into a discussion. Ask your husband what he wants you to do and agree an approach - an ... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to treat someone I used to be so close with and then suddenly was almost a stranger?
Q. Some years ago, a guy was really into me. He helped me with everything, came to see me everyday and we shared a lot of common interests and had a lot of fun together. We were so close that people thought we were a couple. I suspected he liked me and ...
A. 10 November 2008: I recommend you listen to a song called 'Don't Mug Yourself' by The Streets. Basically he was nice to you because he loves you. You don't love him so he has removed his love. His hostility is because he hurts and he wants you to know how it ... (read in full...)
Is masterbating thinking about Mother normal?
Q. is masturbating thinking about mother normal?...
A. 10 November 2008: Its difficult defining normal. It is also not helpful. A better question is whether it is healthy for your development and happiness. I would say you need to place your attention on making new friends and meeting girls that make you happy. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said that if I don't do good in school then he will dump me!
Q. hey, Well I had a problem with my boyfriend last night. He said that if I don't do good in school then he will dump me (plus I am trying really hard in school). At that moment I felt like nothing and I felt unsuccessful because it's enough that my ...
A. 10 November 2008: tell him he is not supportive and you don't need someone like that in your life. Talk through what you feel difficult and ask for help. If he lectures you or treats you like you are stupid you must leave him. Whatever your ability you need people ... (read in full...)
Am I really being stupid for getting my hopes up by these phone calls?
Q. I'm feeling really stupid at the moment, since splitting with my guy we used to speak every other day, then 2 weeks ago we have spoken every day on the phone, maybe in the back of my mind I was hoping it was a sign he still likes me, but then ...
A. 10 November 2008: You make him feel good and attractive. He kind of wants your friendship and the good things that involves without having a relationship. That is natural. Try to find other interests in your life and don't always be available to him to talk. You ... (read in full...)
Does penis size play into women's fantasies?
Q. Ok, another penis size question, I know, but bear with me ! Ok I guess my question is: does the idea or sight of a substantially larger than average penis, turn most women on? Is a big one arousing? More esthetically pleasing. More likely to promp...
A. 10 November 2008: As a man with a (i guess) average size of a tiny bit under 6 inches I find that my size is proportional to the woman - some women almost fit like a glove. Some are rather stretched and its hard to get any feeling and some are a bit restrictive. ... (read in full...)
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