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writes:I'm a muslim girl from a rich prominent muslim family, who are moderately religious not hectic muslism but nevertheless practicing muslims. I've been in a relationship with a white christian guy for 4 years ( we've tried to break up but can't and to be honest we are really happy). My family will only accept him if he converts and he wont, I don't expect him to and wouldn't want him to unless it was something he wanted. I have to choose between my family and him. I'm really really torn as I honestly don't want to hurt anyone.
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reader, Adey  +, writes (11 November 2008):
No one should ever be indoctrinated into a religion - especially one based on such negativity towards non-believers and enforcement of submission of women to men.
Why do you feel the need for religion at all and surely this shows you how damaging such beliefs are? If you family won't accept someone you love I suggest you look closer to home rather than enforcing their will on your partner.
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reader, Miss Potter +, writes (11 November 2008):
 My boyfriend in order to get married to his ex wife converted (muslim) although it was a technicallity hes a catholic, also had to get circumsized!! and had a muslim name... Anyway they are now divorced, hes family wouldnt have accepted it any other way. I hope your parents would be more understanding I really cant get my head around how they managed to get him to go through this hell!
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reader, vamp-gal +, writes (10 November 2008):
 Wow, this really sucks! I also don't think your boyfriend should be forced into a decision like this, especally if he doesn't want to, he loves you, but his religion is his religion, that shouldn't be taken away from him, and I'm glad that you have recognised this.Now, to the problem, have you tried talking with both familys, and come up with a solution to this, it might be helpful getting his family involved too. Ofcourse both families will be against any conversion. Do his family wish for you to convert? If so, then it's even more important they get involved.Try and get your parents to see, that you love him the way he is, and you don't care what his religion is, if they really understand, they should be able to respect your wishes and accept your boyfriend for who he is. You don't want to hurt anyone, as you said, and it shows, don't worry, hopefully everything will work out for the best. And I'm sure he feels the same way, he loves you, but can't change his religion, it's something that's always been a part of him, to make him give it up, would just be wrong, as you have said, you don't want him to, unless he wants to.I realize this probably hasn't helped much, and I am sorry for that, but I really do hope things will work out and your family can learn to accept your boyfriend for who he is, and not his religion.
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