After work, we hung out and really connected... or so I thought...
Q. I work in the salon of a store and this guy that I hung out with twice works in the clothing part of the store. We hung out one night and we made out and he told me I was so gorgeous, and all this stuff how he wanted me so bad. We hung out until ...
A. 14 October 2005: Sometimes guys can be so selfish and self-serving with no regard to girls’ feelings. This guy, unfortunately, just wanted you for sex, not a relationship. And yes, he was too dumb to think about the consequences of working with you every day. I ... (read in full...)
I'm second-class in my own family and it's ruined my self-esteem...
Q. Hello agony aunts, I've got a problem that has always been there but not bothered me until now. Well my parents have always favoured my brothers over me and over time it became second nature that I would take a backseat. It's only small thing...
A. 14 October 2005: I know what it’s like to suffer from low self-esteem from lack of care from a parent. I’m sorry you have gone through your whole childhood like that. It’s so hard when people you depend on, who are supposed to love you unconditionally, don’t care ... (read in full...)
How can I know for sure that we're in love?
Q. How do I know if he is really in love with me? How do I know if I am really in love with him. We have been together for almost ten months and we are both crazy about eachother but how do i know if it is love or not? Also we have a 6 or 7 ye...
A. 12 October 2005: If you’re feelings of being “crazy in love” means that you’re super hot for one another, then it may just be lust, not love. The very fact that you’re questioning your feelings may mean that at some level you know that there is something not quite ... (read in full...)
I'm prepared for no sex to please her until we're married, but she's not sure she wants to marry me...
Q. I have been in a relationship for over 3 years and my partner has said to me that she has felt sex outside of marriage has been difficult. Dave's my name and I have said that I would choose abstinence (no sexual contact). If this is going to work or ...
A. 12 October 2005: Dear David, I suppose first of all is that you should always respect your partner's comfort zone with respect to sexual contact, whether it's for religious or personal reasons. And it seems that you are, so that's good!
The second part about wh... (read in full...)
Why can't I move our friendship to a more intimate level? Am I just impatient?
Q. I have been visiting a girl for a couple of weeks now. We aren't an item yet, but I am relatively certain that she does like me. Something is holding her back, though. She works two jobs, so we have very little time to see each other, and any date...
A. 4 October 2005: If she were really into you, she'd MAKE time to be with you. Or if she really can't, then it's not a good time in her life to be in a relation ship with anyone. So don't hold your hopes up too much for this one. Go ahead and date other girls. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend remembers his first kiss with his ex... but not our first kiss!
Q. My boyfriend of two years still talks about his ex-wife and the woman he had a year long "rebound" relationship with after his divorce. He told me all about how horrible the break ups were and when talking about the ex girlfriend breaking up with ...
A. 4 October 2005: I'm sorry to say this, but it sounds like he's on a "rebound" relationship with you, and this won't last long. I've been through that too, and it sucks to be on the receiving end. If he still gets teary eyed, then he's obviously not over them yet. ... (read in full...)
My husband could have me any time... So why does he need to masturbate to porn?
Q. When I go to work my husband downloads porn and plays with himself. It hurts my feelings because he could have me anytime he wants. He could have had me before I went to work. He has even looked at porn when me and the kids were sleeping. It ...
A. 4 October 2005: Men are the weaker sex, after all! men seem to need visual stimulation a lot more than women do. Hence the strip bars, lap dances, all kinds of internet porn, etc. It's a physical weakness. So don't take it personally. I agree with some of the ... (read in full...)
Is he flirting with me, or just making conversation?
Q. An older guy that I me through work has made statements like " we can have any relationship we want " and " I'm 44...you're 34 .....we are on the same wavelength ..". Is he purely interested , or only flirting? Don't want to read the signals ...
A. 4 October 2005: It definitely sounds like he's just flirting with you. Older men tend to playfully flirt with younger women, not expecting anything to happen. If a man is bold enough to flirt with you like that, then he should be bold enough to actually ask you ... (read in full...)
My new girlfriend is confusing! Does she like me, or doesn't she?
Q. I have recently started dating this new girl and am confused about the signals see is giving me. I met her at a party and we hooked up (we were both sober). I liked her but see didn't like me. Then about a month later, she all of a sudden, liked me...
A. 3 October 2005: She is definitely confused about her life and doesn't know what she really wants. I don't think it's worth the agony of being strung along to keep pursuing her. She may like you enough to have around to keep her company, but she may not like you ... (read in full...)
I didn't ask the girl out. Now I think I've lost her friendship, too!
Q. Needing to find a way to redeem myself I work with a girl who I developed a strong liking for. Despite several opportunities to ask her out I kept clamming up because I kept thinking that she may not feel the same way and didn’t want to spoil th...
A. 3 October 2005: Perhaps all is not lost yet! The fact that she’s upset at you probably means that she still likes you and she felt hurt that you didn’t ask her out. If it’s at all possible, you could try to approach her and ask if you could talk to her in private ... (read in full...)
My pregnancy drove my boyfriend back to his ex. Is this really my fault, like he says?
Q. I would like some help as the problem I have is eating me up inside. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years and have always had an issue with his ex wife and their child, in the sense that she rings him a couple of times every day to see i...
A. 3 October 2005: I’m afraid the answer is that you have to leave this guy for good and get him out of your life and your son’s life. Maybe some day your son can be acquainted with his father, but he is definitely a big loser and would make a terrible father figure. ... (read in full...)
I keep losing my erection halfway through sex!
Q. I'm 19 years old. I can get an erection on my own perfectly, and with girls sometimes too through oral sex, or just teasing. But sometimes when I'm having sex I lose my erection half way through it. It happens a lot of times and it's really a...
A. 3 October 2005: Hi there, first of all, it's ok it happens to a lot of guys. It happened to my current boyfriend when we first started having sex together, but now he's perfectly fine and can keep his erection up much longer. It's anxiety-related. You're still ... (read in full...)
I wouldn't know how to act around a boyfriend!
Q. I'm 15. I really like this boy at school but I don't know whether I should go out with him and I'm nervous because I've never had a boyfriend before. I wouldn't know how to react with although I know I have feelings for him. Please help me!!...
A. 3 October 2005: Don't worry about how to act, there should be no acting involved when you're dating anyone. Just enjoy his company like when you're hanging out with your friends and it should be fun! Going out to see a movie and have some dinner is always a good ... (read in full...)
An old ex from work is straining the relationship between me and the man I fancy!
Q. I've been flirting with a man from work for a few weeks and to my delight he asked me out recently. (though we are keeping it secret from people at work) The problem is people at work keep gossiping about me fancying another man who works there an...
A. 3 October 2005: I think the best thing to do is to talk to both of them, somewhere outside of the office where no one will see you, maybe after work. You’ll probably only be able to talk to one at a time, but definitely tell them both that you are talking to the ... (read in full...)
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