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writes: My boyfriend of two years still talks about his ex-wife and the woman he had a year long "rebound" relationship with after his divorce. He told me all about how horrible the break ups were and when talking about the ex girlfriend breaking up with him, he was getting teary eyed. He told me all about their first kiss and how hot he was for her in the beginning. When I asked him if he remembered our first kiss, he couldn't. I've yet to see him act like he was that hot for me, ever. I have begun to have nightmares about his ex girlfriend being in bed with us. Symbolic; she is!Do you think he is still in love with one or both of the exes? Why am I still hanging onto him? Doesn't that mean something about me as well?He claims he loves me, but I don't feel like it most of the time.
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reader, denise8020 +, writes (19 October 2005):
I feel for you I am going threw the exact same thing right now, my fiance hase been broke up from his ex for 3 years and he still talks about her alot and it really hurts since were supposed to get married in two weeks.. I would really sit him down and talk to him..
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reader, pops +, writes (4 October 2005):
Miss: This is just too much melodrama for one person to live. First, if you love someone, you are probably always going to love that person, even when a relationship ends. There is a certain chemistry that takes place between two people when they love each other that can't be turned off. You learn to deal with this, knowing that marriage, and living together are about that, and not just about love. Second, if you are having nightmares, that is your problem. If you are upset at him for not remembering your first kiss, talk to him about it. He also needs to measure his feelings for you against those he has had with past loves. He may be kidding himself that he loves you , when he doesn't and dates you because he wants your company. That is not fair to you, and not to him either. But people make those kinds of mistakes when they are hurting and alone. Talk to him. If he truly loves you, he will have no problems showing it.
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reader, xixi +, writes (4 October 2005):
I'm sorry to say this, but it sounds like he's on a "rebound" relationship with you, and this won't last long. I've been through that too, and it sucks to be on the receiving end. If he still gets teary eyed, then he's obviously not over them yet. It's always a bad sign when someone you're dating just talks a lot about their exes. You're better off meeting someone new who doesn't have so much emotional baggage to dump on you. Don't settle for this kind of treatment. You have to respect yourself first. THen you'll attract the kind of man who wants to be with you forever and take good care of you.
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