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Well, I've had a lot of good and bad relationship experiences. I've been married and divorced. I have a 8yo daughter and I'm pregnant with my second. Yes, I was a teenage mom- but I wouldn't change what happened for anything. I've always been very open minded and understanding. I have two classes left until my psychology bachelor's degree is complete then I'm continuing to my master's. Financially, I'm at the bottom of the totem pole and I can understand not being able to buy food or toilet paper for months. It sucks. The answer isn't to just go get another job or a better job- it's not that easy.
Where do you live?
I live in Minnesota, USA. I hate snow and cold. I stay here because my ex-husband and I have an equal custody share for our daughter and I don't want to compromise that situation.
What makes you tick?
A challenge. I like to help people out-but not when its just because they can't stand on their own. I really enjoy learning-hence the excitement about school. Other than that- I really don't do anything.
What's your relationship status?
I am currently living with my partner (I call him my partner because we're not married but it's more than just being boyfriend/girlfriend) |
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How often do engaged couples fight?
Q. I've been single for all my life and it's about to change. The dynamics of letting someone else have the reigns or at least to be the "head" of our relationship/marriage is hard for me to bite. I am so used to being independent and not allowing ...
A. 18 January 2011: Ok, well I'm glad you've had this realization... but don't pressure yourself too much about what you have done. Don't become depressed or over-compensating. I understand the need to build a wall up and protect yourself from harm, and most guys out ... (read in full...)
I am getting divorced and want to marry my friend, but so many things are getting in the way! What should I do?
Q. I was married for 6 years to a jerk and I am in the process of getting divorced. I was having some sex problems with my husband since we got married. he wanted sex all the time and I can't. he was sexually abusing me. I am indian so I didn't think ...
A. 17 January 2011: One thing I just thought of is the custody and child support for your child. If you (or your friend) still want financial support, and if you do not want your ex-husband in your life ever again- then fess up to the affair. Within the divorce paper ... (read in full...)
Why was he holding his daughter's hand like he was?
Q. Is this weird or not?? Whilst driving my partner of 18 months reached across to the back of the car to hold his 12 year old daughters hand. He held it for 10 minutes. She has not been upset or anything -just sitting there.I felt uncomfortable as I ...
A. 17 January 2011: I used to hold my dad's hand when we'd go shopping in public and such- not knowing till now that it isn't socially ok. We'd also play fight, wrestle and snuggle while watching movies, etc. It's a fatherly bond that is very healthy- and that's a good ... (read in full...)
Is it still an orgasm if it doesn't feel like one
Q. I was masturbating the other day and it was vaginally and I "squirted" (sorry, I don't know the real name for it). I thought it was weird, so I did research and it said that some women do that when they orgasm, but it didn't feel like an orgasm, or ...
A. 17 January 2011: lol, its ok to be confused here. When a man orgasms, he orgasms and cums at nearly the same time. Women on the other hand are different. We can cum and not orgasm (which is what happened) or orgasm and not cum. Sometimes a woman can have multiple ... (read in full...)
How often do engaged couples fight?
Q. I've been single for all my life and it's about to change. The dynamics of letting someone else have the reigns or at least to be the "head" of our relationship/marriage is hard for me to bite. I am so used to being independent and not allowing ...
A. 17 January 2011: ok, first of all, women are not always right. Second- men and women actually mentally process information and creativity with solving problems in different manners. It does not mean that its wrong or right, but constructively discussing your ... (read in full...)
To do a threesome or not, and how do I handle knowing I'm not satisfying a desire for him if I don't?
Q. My fiancee, has this fantasy. He had this kind of play with his "x" wife. (Hinze "X") she later had an affair which hurt him emotionally. My reaction to that was "Why, because she didn't involve you??" After 4 years and him knowing my thoughts about ...
A. 17 January 2011: ok. You do not feel comfortable with this BEFORE it happens, you definitely will not be ok with it afterwards. Don't do it. My view is that if a man (or woman) is in a relationship that is not just sexual (emotional and mentally connected) then they ... (read in full...)
I am getting divorced and want to marry my friend, but so many things are getting in the way! What should I do?
Q. I was married for 6 years to a jerk and I am in the process of getting divorced. I was having some sex problems with my husband since we got married. he wanted sex all the time and I can't. he was sexually abusing me. I am indian so I didn't think ...
A. 17 January 2011: ok, I am coming from a different cultural background here... but hear me out (and please give me some feedback) My first husband sexually abused me as well, towards the end of the marriage I met a friend and we fell in love. I moved out of my ... (read in full...)
Should I get a clitoral hood piercing?
Q. My fiancee wants me to get a clitoral hood piercing. I work in OB/GYN, and I fear all the horrible things that could go wrong (infection, ruining my sex life etc..) Any experience from anyone out there? Is it really that big of a turn on or sexual p...
A. 17 January 2011: NOOO!!! Don't do it!
I've gotten lots of piercings/tattoos and fully enjoy being able to get them, but that is a piercing I would not recommend to anyone. I myself have not gotten it, but I have researched it and talked to my piercing expert frie... (read in full...)
Why do I want to marry a military man when I'm older?
Q. Hey... So this isnt a relationship question. But if any of you have husbands who do this as a job, you could help. Why do I want to marry a military/army man when Im older? I just think it would be cool. I know they would be gone a lot but for some ...
A. 16 January 2011: My partner and I have discussed his return to the military. While others here have posted that it's about the uniform, that's not my reasoning. I pride myself in knowing that my partner will be serving America. It is the morals, the dedication and ... (read in full...)
With all the sex and no pregnancy, could I be infertile?
Q. Dear agony aunts and uncles I'm 19 and i just got married on the 17th of dec to my boyfriend of 3 years hes in the military and i'm really happy . how ever my concern is that when we got married we had sex with out a condom and i'm not on birth ...
A. 16 January 2011: Hey, my partner and I went for a whole year of unprotected sex - after having a really bad miscarriage - and I'm finally pregnant. It takes time. I would suggest that if you're really trying, to start taking prenatal vitamins. These will help build ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend found out some bad medical news and says she needs a break, but keeps calling me
Q. So i have been dating this girl for almost a year we have talked about marriage having kids, then she finds out some bad medical news then tell me she needs a break, some time alone. she still calls me 3 times a day, still have sex talk for hours on ...
A. 16 January 2011: She probably doesn't want to drag anyone else down with her medical issues. I went to school with a boy that was told he wouldn't live to see 18 and absolutely refused to date anyone. Now at 27 he's overcome that fear and has married- but still with ... (read in full...)
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