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writes:Hey... So this isnt a relationship question. But if any of you have husbands who do this as a job, you could help. Why do I want to marry a military/army man when Im older? I just think it would be cool. I know they would be gone a lot but for some reason I want to? Help :/
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reader, wornoutmommy +, writes (16 January 2011):
 My partner and I have discussed his return to the military. While others here have posted that it's about the uniform, that's not my reasoning. I pride myself in knowing that my partner will be serving America. It is the morals, the dedication and the attitude of military men that make me appreciate them even more. Besides, the military is a good 'house breaking' method! lol, j/k. We've discussed moving onto a military base-and there are many benefits to that. While I could stay at home and raise our child- I'm considering becoming a marriage counselor or psychologist on-base. That way I can give back as well.
There is a lot of trust that needs to be earned from both sides. Over 80% of military marriages end in very messy divorces, mainly because of either infidelity or the emotional changes that occur between deployments. I'm going to be 27 this year, and I'm finally ok with having to deal with these changes. I would definitely wait until you know that you're mature enough to handle the long absences and emotional distance (even when he's back), and responsible enough to always support your (future) husband and remain loyal.
Many psychological problems do arise when a man/woman has been through the military as well. Being a spouse means that you need to be aware of these issues, understanding towards their emotions/behaviors, and know when it is time to seek professional help. Being a military spouse is not and will not be easy-may be one of the hardest out there. I wish you luck-and make sure that if you seriously consider this that you are emotional, mentally and physically capable of handling the responsibility. :) Hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): i know what you mean, my boyfriend is set on joining the army and that was what initially drew me to him, the whole alpha male and obviously the uniform, but its hard being separated for such long periods not able to see each other
you have to have complete trust and be able to be separated.
but in some ways it keeps it exciting too, seeing each other again after being apart keeps it passionate and it really makes me happy
dont marry just for the job though, you need love, besides your taste might change, you still young after all
give it time and you might find that something else draws you in :) but be careful because if your not it could end in heartbreak
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (10 December 2010):
 Like the others have said, it's the uniform that does it for you. Maybe the whole alpha male, that's out there risking his neck for our country. My husband is in the army, and I didn't marry him because of that reason. I married for love.
Yes, if you marry a military man when you're older they will be gone quite a bit. They get carted all over the US to different bases for training and can be gone for weeks sometimes, months at a time. Hopefully, Afghanistan will be over by then, if not they get deployed to the Middle East and will be gone for a whole year. So, you have to be a girl who knows how to occupy her time wisely and not be clingy or in need of a lot of attention. Be prepared to move around at a moment's notice.
Being a military wife isn't easy, and not a lot of women can do it. Hence the cheating stereotype that we're associated with. But it's far off, and I'm sure your taste in guys will fluctuate from now till then.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (10 December 2010):
 Maybe you like men in uniform? Don't be embarrassed, a ton of women do, me included.
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reader, daydreamer247 +, writes (10 December 2010):
I agree. I think it's the whole brave strong man thing. You may find youself liking cops and firemen too. The uniform plus their bravery/authority is a turn on. There's nothing wrong with liking men in uniform. It's quite common actually.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): Maybe it's the whole "knight in shining armour" thing. The uniform is a bonus of course :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): They are very strong, brave, and anything except lazy! Plus we all know a man in uniform is SEXY! Hmmmm I like military men to. :-)
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