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... Send *rueLoveCoach a private message | | | *rueLoveCoach's profile:My training is in Marriage and Family Therapy and I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, licensed in the state of Texas, where I was in practice for over 15 years.
Recently, I moved to California, so I am not currently practicing as a therapist although my license is current and I plan to keep it up to date. Currently, I work as a Relationship Coach, offering my services of both individualized and group coaching by phone to people all across the nation.
I love helping people learn how to have happy, fulfilled relationships by teaching them the tools and strategies to attract and keep the love of their lives. I specialize in working with Singles and I also work with many couples both in the past and present. I enjoy writing about relationships and I have several newsletters for Singles and Couples, as well as articles on Ezine Articles and my blogs.
I am glad to have found this site. I like to give back by giving people my thoughts about their relationship situations. I hope to be helpful.
I was a young widow to a man with whom I had a very happy relationship. I know a lot about grief and loss, believe me. I am currently a newlywed, having remarried a man who meets my Requirements for a healthy, happy relationship. Together we enjoy Salsa dancing, reading (both fiction and self-improvement), going to workshops, going to the beach, and just spending time together talking about what matters to us most.
Michelle E. Vásquez, MS, LPC
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What is so attractive about the bad boys?
Q. I'm perplexed at the number of women who tell me they want a man who is nice to them, but in reality, the men they are attracted to and form relationships with are "bad boys." Then they spend their time complaining about how the bad boy behaves and ...
A. 13 June 2009: Thanks, Older Sister. Great, well-thought out, insightful answer. The "nice guys" I deal with have a tendency to see things in black and white, thinking that the only solution to attracting women is to be "jerks" instead of learning some sk... (read in full...)
What is so attractive about the bad boys?
Q. I'm perplexed at the number of women who tell me they want a man who is nice to them, but in reality, the men they are attracted to and form relationships with are "bad boys." Then they spend their time complaining about how the bad boy behaves and ...
A. 13 June 2009: Dear Daniel,
Yes, yes, yes to "It seems that "bad boys" seem secure of themselves, capable of getting things done, and sexually assertive, while the other guys are hardly a challenge."
I also noticed that many men ask this question on this... (read in full...)
Husband makes me feel ugly
Q. I have three children. One for my current partner who I have known for 26 years. Child is now 6. I thought my life would change and be happier having the last child. Instead its has reamined the same. He makes he feel ugly and wont introduce me ...
A. 13 June 2009: I think what's making it difficult to advise you is that I'm not sure what you are asking. You've known your partner for 26 years but he won't introduce you to his family or friends. How long have you been together? From the way you write, this ... (read in full...)
Sleep paralysis?
Q. Anybody heard about sleep paralysis? I had one once ,and I can't escapefrom the thought ,that I saw a demon that night ,who wanted to take me. The presence was so clear, and the moving body, coming close to me. I heard many people have the same exp...
A. 1 June 2009: Dear Anonymous, ArmyMedic is right. This question is a valid one, but can probably be answered better medically or in another forum. I will tell you that my late husband was plagued with sleep paralysis for many years and what he described was... (read in full...)
What is true love?
Q. hey i need help with something and i would love you guys to help me well i don't know what love is ...meaning like how do you know when your in love is it when u miss that person is it when you want to kiss that person every time u see them and also...
A. 1 June 2009: Dear Nikiel,
What a great question! I often post this question on my blogs and on Twitter and Facebook, since I love to learn what others believe about True Love. The feelings of wanting to be with a person and touch them can be love, or they can... (read in full...)
Is it ok to start dating before a divorce has been finalized?
Q. If one spouse is unfaithful to the other in marriage, when is it right for the honest one to date? Is okay when they have decided in thier heart they do not want to continue with the marriage, but are still married or when they finalize the divorce?...
A. 1 June 2009: Dear Anonymous:
A word of caution. If you are simply dating for fun, no problem, although that is very hard for women to do, since we tend to fall quickly for someone we like.
If you want to date to find someone to share your life with, ... (read in full...)
I really want a baby!
Q. Im thirteen and i want a baby but dont want to have sex, what should i do ?...
A. 30 May 2009: Dear Anonymous, Of course, you want a baby. It's a biological drive that most women have. I'm glad you're asking this question instead of just trying to make a baby without thinking through the consequences. The people who have already answered... (read in full...)
Difference between loving someone and being in love with someone?
Q. my boyfriend told me and his friends that he loves me, but he's not in love with me. He says that may come in time. What should I do? Is there a differance between loving someone and being in love. He shows all the signs with his actions that he is ...
A. 29 May 2009: Dear Anonymous,
If I had a nickel for every time I heard this expression, I'd be rich. It's one that tends to grate on me, since what I read into it is that the person who says it "loves" in a platonic/friendship way, but not in a romantic... (read in full...)
I miss her, but don't think I can be "just friends"
Q. I've been dating a girl for a month and we had a great time but she is leaving in a year and a half so she says she doesn't want to commit to me, so she only wants to be friends, so we don’t get hurt later on. I can understand that but I can't be ...
A. 29 May 2009: Dear Adrian77,
It appears that this girl is not attracted to you. If she were, the year and a half would not be a factor. Instead, it is an excuse. I'm afraid she sees you as a "nice guy" and wants to relegate you to the friendship category... (read in full...)
Should I just give up? 3rd time for marriage counseling
Q. Dear Cupid, Should I keep trying to save my marriage? I am 38 yrs old and married for 3 yrs. My husbad and I are currently on our third session of marriage counseling but I feel that it is too late. I want a divorce. 3 months after we got mar...
A. 29 May 2009: Dear Anonymous,
Before you decide to end your marriage, I'd like for you to consider continuing the counseling for at least six months. If you've only gone three times, it is way too early to decide that the counseling has not been effectiv... (read in full...)
Controlling, disrespectful boyfriend -- or am I overreacting?
Q. I have been living with my boyfriend for 2 years. We actually knew each other 3 yrs prior just as friends talking. Well, I have many things that I consider a red flag. When we moved in together he became very jealous. He would accuse of doing things ...
A. 29 May 2009: Maysa, I don't know your boyfriend's side of the story, but based on what you have said, my immediate reaction is, "Get out. Get out now!" What you describe is crazy-making behavior. If you're getting physically ill, this could be linked to your ... (read in full...)
He tells me he cares, but he doesn't think there is any future for us, what is the problem, I am confused?
Q. Hiya!! Could someone please help me as I feel so confused! I am 45 and my boyfriend is 50 we have been together for about 3 months now. but have know eachother for about 2 years, We went on holiday for a week and had a great time, Since we got back ...
A. 29 May 2009: I definitely agree with Asian Tealeaf. This man is tell you he's just not that interested. If you stick around trying to convince him that he really is right for you and you had a great time with him, he may resort to either stronger measures or ... (read in full...)
Dating for five months but no sex yet!
Q. I have been dating this guy for 5 months now and we haven’t had sex yet which isn’t exactly a bad thing but he always makes up some excuse like if my child wakes up or he drank too much or its too soon. We have had some foreplay but when I try to ...
A. 28 May 2009: I went through something similar when I was in my 20's with a guy who was very uncomfortable with his sexuality. In the end, we were not a match and went our separate ways. I'm going to ask you to do something difficult, but ultimately better for ... (read in full...)
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