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writes:I have three children. One for my current partner who I have known for 26 years. Child is now 6. I thought my life would change and be happier having the last child. Instead its has reamined the same. He makes he feel ugly and wont introduce me to his family or friends or mum. (I am an attractive independent 45 year old who has her own career and two houss!)I have started to make efforts to get out more and have started to feel warmer to other men. I feel I am ready to move on.He turned up on my door step a few days ago. this is the first sighting since Easter. I asjed for help finacially and he gave me money. He tried touching me but appeared as if he wanted to but withdrew.I kept asking him to talk to me but he will not say how he feels or what he wants and it turns me off like anything.Any advice welcomed.
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reader, TrueLoveCoach  +, writes (13 June 2009):
 I think what's making it difficult to advise you is that I'm not sure what you are asking. You've known your partner for 26 years but he won't introduce you to his family or friends. How long have you been together? From the way you write, this doesn't seem like a committed relationship, given that he is "turning up on your doorstep" and not treating you like you are a couple.
What do you want to do in this situation? You say you are ready to move on and from what you write, he moved on several months ago if this was his first sighting since Easter.
I cannot know for sure, but I am going to guess that you do not have a relationship with this man. You have a child with him, but he seems to not be a "daddy" to the child. I would say it's fruitless to ask him how he feels and what he wants. Why not ask yourself what you want? Since he has been more absent than present, it's really up to you to do what you need to do to take care of yourself and your children.
Michelle E. Vásquez, MS, LPC
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