No sex for 2 years - should I walk away from this otherwise happy relationship?
Q. My mate and and I have not had sex for 2 years He says he can't get a hard on anymore, but he can materbate and watch porn alone, I am not sure if it is me or if he avoids me, I am happy about everything else in our relationship but the sex. He ...
A. 23 May 2013: You are happy with the relationship. It might be easy to think that he must be happy because if he were not happy, he would start making your life miserable. But he doesn't make your life miserable so therefore (put wrong conclusion here). He c... (read in full...)
We had a LDR. We broke up. How could he do this after he gave me his commitment?
Q. I broke up with my bf last month because we were in a LDR and he drifted apart. He never contacted me after the breakup. Just few days ago he sent me a text asked if I called him from an unknown number. If so just call from my normal number s...
A. 22 May 2013: To me it sounds like he was afraid to break up with you and strung it out too long.
I think you should be pizzed that he didn't break up with you sooner. It turns out that your pizzed about the opposite.
I don't sense that he was all that int... (read in full...)
Should I follow my BFs advice and smarten up for work?
Q. HI guys, This isnt a relationship question per sa, but I hope you can offer me some guidance. Basically I work in an office with no dress code so I go to work in jeans and tee shirt. I am allowed to do this if I wish but some of the staff cho...
A. 29 April 2013: If you want a promotion then you will dress for your next job.
If you want a promotion (more responsibility and more money) here is the important short list.
- You have to **want** more responsibility. Take on more responsibility than you are... (read in full...)
I need help in ending a 2 year relationship. She has done nothing wrong and I don't know how to do this!
Q. Need help ending a relationship. Even thought marriage counselor looked at me and said "do not start a new relationship" when my divorce started I did. The person was wonderful and supportive and sweet and I can say nothing but nice about h...
A. 29 April 2013: I disagree with anon. Your heart is not in it so at minimum you need a break. One interesting thing though is that you are clearly not very good at discussing and resolving problems/conflict. This weakness has the power to screw up all and every... (read in full...)
It seems like my husband is attracted to everyone but me!
Q. I asked my husband why me never says anything nice to me I asked him is there anything you find attractive about me. He said I can't think of anything but he said to me in front if exwife that I'm jealous of her cause she's pretty an your big fat ...
A. 29 April 2013: I find it odd that his ex is ok with having an affair with him while you are with him unless you cheated with him while he was with her.
Regardless, it sounds like he doesn't want to initiate the divorce so he is acting like an ass until you do i... (read in full...)
I want to move in with my BF but get the mortgage on the place myself. Is this right?
Q. Hello, Me and my boyfriend are moving in together soon and it might be possible for me to have a mortgage on a place. However I don't want to go into a mortgage with my boyfriend. It sounds cruel but even though i adore him I just dont fe...
A. 26 April 2013: Check the laws for common law relationships. It is possible he could take half the net value of the home depending on where you live.
In British Columbia you're equivalent to married in 2 years of living together!!! ... (read in full...)
Settling down? Or just sex?
Q. i am a seventeen year old girl who is looking to start dating a twenty two year old. i dont know what he wants in our relationship: to settle down or just sex? he often tells me how attractive he thinks i am and that seems to be all he talks about. ...
A. 26 April 2013: He wants sex.... (read in full...)
What does he mean he 'doesn't want drama'?
Q. Hi , so there is this guy at my work that I like so much but he is m y boss. I knoe he likes me too because of the way he act. But he never tells me that he likes me so last night I told him I like him very much and all he said was he is much ...
A. 26 April 2013: Gee... I take it to mean that he doesn't want any possible relationship to spill into the work place and cause problems that impede his promotion or perhaps get him fired.
However, if he is not interested in you, he might use that as an excuse t... (read in full...)
So many questions I never had an opportunity to ask my ex. Why can't I move on? Why can't I stop thinking of her?
Q. Why, do I keep thinking of my ex? It's been almost a year, I don't think I am missing her. I never got my last words in, never got to tell her what what I needed to say, like why did you break up with me? I keep thinking what I want to say to h...
A. 26 April 2013: You need closure buddy. Why don't you write down all the questions you have and think about what you'd like to ask her and what you'd like to say to her. After you have thought it through, ask her to meet with you because you want closure to the r... (read in full...)
Will a shy guy ever ask a girl out?
Q. I really like this shy guy, but with his line of work, i am a 'client' so it makes the situation a lot harder to court him (thou i am not a direct client of his). I have written a question on here before and i get the impression that he does like ...
A. 26 April 2013: Quote: "Nobody is THAT shy at 30 something, he would be an unemployed loner if he was." While you may be right in *this* instance, it is just not that simple. My (now divorced) brother once said, "If someone is not married by 30, there's ... (read in full...)
My husband wants to have a baby with another woman. He's says I'm making this out to be a big deal. Am I over-reacting like he says?
Q. Im 20 years old and have 2 kids. My oldest is 4 and she is from a past relationship. Im now married and we just had our son in February. Recently my husband has been talking about having a baby of his own with another woman. I thought he was k...
A. 24 April 2013: Is there any possibility that your husband is just playing an elaborate joke on his gullible wife? Maybe you are pulling my leg?
This is an outrageous story. My response to him if I were you... "Well you'd better get ready to pay child support!... (read in full...)
Will a shy guy ever ask a girl out?
Q. I really like this shy guy, but with his line of work, i am a 'client' so it makes the situation a lot harder to court him (thou i am not a direct client of his). I have written a question on here before and i get the impression that he does like ...
A. 24 April 2013: I was painfully shy when I was younger. I had a huge crush on a girl that went to the church I used to attend in High School / early work years. We were 'friends'. For a while I lived a short distance away and we'd write to each other (nothing mushy ... (read in full...)
Is it ever acceptable to tell a guy that you want to have kids and not get married?
Q. I'm 29-years old and have never been married and have no children. I've had long term relationships in the past (one for 4-years and one for 2-years) and I haven't really been serious with anyone in almost 6-years. Anyhow, I wouldn't say...
A. 24 April 2013: Hmmm... maybe you're not very articulate but I tend to think things are just not that clear in your mind. I encourage you to continue thinking about what you want and why. Maybe I'm reading the first two responses wrong but I sense a teeny bi... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is a control freak and won't even let me talk without starting problems!
Q. I am currently with a partner for almost 4 years now. She is a control freak, almost always never wanting to admit her mistakes. If I do get her in a corner, she will turn the tables around, accuse me of starting an argument, and then completely ...
A. 23 April 2013: I think the pictures on the phone is a concern but not necessarily a problem. However, you CLEARLY have a bigger issue.
The two of you can't seem to discuss and resolve issues together in a mature way. I'm not saying that you personally can't do... (read in full...)
My boyfriend constantly accuses me of cheating and I don't know why!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am twenty years old and have been with my boyfriend for almost two years. Shortly after we got together, I became pregnant. Through out out relationship we have had problems as all couples do, but it has been worse here lately. He ...
A. 18 April 2013: In my mind, when he accuses you of cheating and you clearly have not been cheating it is because accusing women of doing things is a tool he has learned to use to control them. A yellow flag has gone up in your relationship and you should evalu... (read in full...)
I found out my husband has Alexithymia. I think my marriage is in trouble!
Q. I need help. I think my marriage is in serious trouble. My husband has always had a problem showing emotion, sympathy, compassion and empathy. He also has always spoken in monotone, no emotion in his words. When he says "I love you" you don't f...
A. 18 April 2013: I wonder how many people who responded actually looked up Alexithymia and read some of the words you used. While it is dangerous to diagnose a disorder using the Internet, it is clear (unless you have a disorder that causes you to misrepresent the ... (read in full...)
My teenage son wears my women's underwear, what should I do?
Q. My son (16) steals my unders and we talked but I have not talked or to my husband about him putting things in his hind end while he does this. That bothers me so should I worry? It's been a lot of house hold items I unfortunately have picked up to ...
A. 8 April 2013: I think you should talk to him yourself.
I'm concerned about your hubby's reaction and the (needless) damage that might come about.
I know several guys that get creeped out at tampax ADs on TV. Unless you know that the father-son relat... (read in full...)
Married man was flirting with me but now he tries to ignore me. Why?
Q. Hi everyone. Please don't judge because of what I am going to tell you. I have been flirting with an older married man and he has been flirting back. Long eye contact, a lot of smiling back and forth and all kinds of other things. He is alw...
A. 1 April 2013: My bet is that he has been missing and liked the validation that the flirting provided. If we can assume, (it is likely) that his wife hasn't been giving him positives then when you matched his advances he was confronted with the choice to escalate ... (read in full...)
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