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writes:My son (16) steals my unders and we talked but I have not talked or to my husband about him putting things in his hind end while he does this. That bothers me so should I worry? It's been a lot of house hold items I unfortunately have picked up to find them nasty..... Now that's just disturbing me to pieces.
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reader, TeardropsOnMyGuitar  +, writes (8 April 2013):
I think you should talk to him yourself.
I'm concerned about your hubby's reaction and the (needless) damage that might come about.
I know several guys that get creeped out at tampax ADs on TV. Unless you know that the father-son relationship is rock solid then you should not put an image in your hubby's mind that he is not mature enough to deal with.
Be respectful, factual and firm. Remind him that you love him and all his quirks and that he never has to talk to you again about it unless he wants to.
Keep it short and to the point. Whatever you do, don't go into some long (self-serving) discussion about morals or some other embarassment assuaging discussion. Be direct, be quick and be firm.
After the talk - forget about it.
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reader, JustHelpinAgain +, writes (8 April 2013):
Op I dont know how much you look at the port thete is out on the internet but I think you can find just about anything being put in someones anus. Itsa real problem for children that see this, especially curious ones. I honestly think its time for your husband to have that gentle man to man talk. Your son needs to know that curiousity is healthy but he needs to be careful as he can hurt himself. And he needs to know the boundaries in what people do to themselves, and with others.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 April 2013):
 Locking things up so he can't INJURE HIMSELF.
He is putting large items into his anus?
Perhaps this is beyond teenage masturbation issues and the boy needs some professional intervention.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2013): It's he's so young and he's doing things I can't believe he even would know to do to himself. Anything he can find he's been using. I just superglued the towel bar to the wall today. Threw out my toilet scrub brush, and I thought he's either going to be very aware of his body, or oh god is this going somewhere dark. I've had nothing but boys he's the only one that ever took my things or left a trail.......
Dirty socks... Not a big deal. This is just a everyday deal. I have been locking things up so he first of all can't injure himself. What should I do? I want to talk to my husband but he acts mad and always says I was much worse at his age... Trust me he says we're lucky he's just a little pervert. REALLY OMG I just walk around and put stuff up now.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (8 April 2013):
 It's a bit drastic, and I'm not sure how it could be done, but have you considered keeping your underwear in a drawer or closet that can be locked??
Besides, of course, insisting your son not use your underwear - or if he MUST, then tell him to buy a few pieces of clothing for himself - plus discussing this with your husband.........hope you can work this out!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 April 2013):
 Good sherlocking there IAHTh!
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reader, MsSadie +, writes (8 April 2013):
 Maybe he's belatedly going through his oedipal stage? Or perhaps he has some sort of fetish?
Talk to your husband, and then the two of you should have a conversation together with your son. Obviously, you can't expect your son to divulge all the details of his turn-ons, but you should be able to figure out if this is something innocent (which you should let him explore but NOT with the items that YOU own; make him buy those things himself) or if it's time Sonny talks to a therapist.
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