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My friend gets out of prison in 7 weeks and wants me in his life
Q. Help! I am very very confused I have a friend and he's in prison. He has been there for me in the past and I consider him a very good friend and a special person although he has done some major wrong things in his life. We have given each other su...
A. 26 December 2013: Thanks Anonymous, I wish you'd left a way to answer you directly, cos you got my difficulty straight away!
Anonymous thanks for your answer, your the only person who's been able to read between the lines and see what I'm really asking. What that... (read in full...)
My friend gets out of prison in 7 weeks and wants me in his life
Q. Help! I am very very confused I have a friend and he's in prison. He has been there for me in the past and I consider him a very good friend and a special person although he has done some major wrong things in his life. We have given each other su...
A. 24 December 2013: Thanks Honeypie, I'm just finding it hard to get my head around the fact that I mean so much to him as a friend. It's not something I'm not used to! To be honest I'd find it easier to be his GF than just a friend!
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My friend gets out of prison in 7 weeks and wants me in his life
Q. Help! I am very very confused I have a friend and he's in prison. He has been there for me in the past and I consider him a very good friend and a special person although he has done some major wrong things in his life. We have given each other su...
A. 24 December 2013: Thanks Honeypie, I'm just finding it hard to get my head around the fact that I mean so much to him as a friend. It's not something I'm used to!
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I'm terrified to be alone in the dark!
Q. this isnt really a relationship question or what ever but im scared of the dark and want help with it please im litrally terrofide to be alone in the dark or even at night for a 15 year old thats not right. what can i do !!...
A. 29 August 2012: Don't feel bad because you are afraid of the dark, I was afraid of the dark until I was 30. As the other replies have suggested a nightlight is very useful as it provides just enough light to break the darkness. If there has been other issues i... (read in full...)
My parents cannot accept that I want to marry a divorced guy
Q. I'm 26; in love with a guy who is a divorcee and has a kid whose custody is with his ex. And i have absolutely no issues with that. He loves me as well. We've been together over 2 years now. The problem being my parents. I've told them the truth as...
A. 29 August 2012: If you love him and believe your marraige will work, then go for it. Your parents could be protective of you and naturally want the best for you, however it is often the case that it is their idea of the best, not yours. As time goes by and they see ... (read in full...)
Our family tree would be a circle since we are distantly related. Is it too weird?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for nearly 9 months. We have known each other for years and its getting pretty serious. We just found out yesterday that we are 6th cousins 3 times removed, from our understanding. Anyway, our grandfathers are 2nd ...
A. 29 August 2012: I don't believe you should split up.
Your relationship was developing happily and smoothly until you got this news, so why ruin it?
Would you even be thinking along these lines if you hadn't have found out?
There are many families throughout t... (read in full...)
I really love him but I feel humiliated in this relationship.
Q. Hi.. I am in a long-distance relationship with a guy for last 15 months. I have met him thrice and thought he is my soul-mate. But things have completely changed now. I really love him but I feel humiliated in this relation. He always criticises me. ...
A. 29 August 2012: Find the courage within yourself to let go, this person is controlling you and your emotions even though he is so far away. If you let go you will be able to build a better life for yourself and in time find someone who will offer you real love and ... (read in full...)
His actions have made me want to run a mile. He's started being so selfish. What to do?
Q. My boyfriend and I recently got a new job. The job is run on a set shift pattern basis, I chose a pattern that adapted well to both our lives (he plays sport some weekends etc) so that we could both do what we wanted to do without compromi...
A. 29 August 2012: Sometimes even though we don't like to admit it, we constantly attract the same kind of person into our lives. It might be a good idea to truly examine your relationship and see if he is being selfish in other areas as well. If this is the case... (read in full...)
I want to know how to gain my jailbird boyfriend's forgiveness!
Q. I was friends with this guy for the last two years, he helped me out when I was in difficulties and needed emotional support. We were close friends plus I thought he was gorgeous and was very attracted to him. A year ago he was sent to prison for ...
A. 2 August 2012: thats why I feel so bad
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I want to know how to gain my jailbird boyfriend's forgiveness!
Q. I was friends with this guy for the last two years, he helped me out when I was in difficulties and needed emotional support. We were close friends plus I thought he was gorgeous and was very attracted to him. A year ago he was sent to prison for ...
A. 2 August 2012: He's not a jailbird, he's a person who had an addiction problem who's in recovery... (read in full...)
What can I so to avoid sinking into depression again? What help do I need? From where? How can I access help?
Q. I've gone through depression, and I mean I've been through it really hard. I ended up way better, and I'm thankful I'm happy again. But I feel like my life is slipping away again, and I'm slowly going back into depression. I've been practica...
A. 2 August 2012: There are several things you can do. Firstly contact your doctor. Also if you have any idea where this depression is coming from, if you have any idea of the cause get yourself counselling, and contact a self help group for teenagers in your area. ... (read in full...)
He says he's never felt like this. Was he being territorial with the love bite? Jealous of my friend? Or moving too soon to make it official?
Q. I've been seeing a guy for a couple of weeks. We've seen each other most days... been on dates, I've been to his, met his parents. He goes out of his way to see me, treats me respectfully. We were in his bedroom, things were getting heated. He said ...
A. 2 August 2012: He is proving that you are his, the love bite is marking that you belong to him. However, love bites are very tacky looking and can carry the wrong message to other guys by making you look cheap. He sounds like he is insecure. It is very important ... (read in full...)
I feel like she will always lie to me. Will I ever be able to trust her?
Q. I met a woman, fell in love with her and she became pregnant. in the very beggining i revealed to her that i had an active warrant out for my arrest and would eventually be doing some time...when she became pregnant i agreed once the baby was born i ...
A. 2 August 2012: It can be very hard for a woman when her guy is in jail, especially when other guys hit on her and she is going through emotional upheaval. She came to you, explained what had happened (after she'd be caught out) and wanted your forgiveness, she ... (read in full...)
I want to know how to gain my jailbird boyfriend's forgiveness!
Q. I was friends with this guy for the last two years, he helped me out when I was in difficulties and needed emotional support. We were close friends plus I thought he was gorgeous and was very attracted to him. A year ago he was sent to prison for ...
A. 2 August 2012: Thanks everyone, all the answers seem to be pointing in the same direction - let him go, instead of seeking his forgiveness. I travelled to a remote place on the opposite side of the country (Ireland is small) to make my amends (before I asked for ... (read in full...)
How can I find out where this will lead or if I stand a chance with him? ?
Q. My dilemma is this. I have recently met a guy who is everything I could dream of or want in a man, he is caring, compassionate, level headed, hard working, good looking and intelligent. Although we are ony friends he is extremely supportive of me ...
A. 20 June 2012: If any guys read this, your answers would be much appreciated as I would really like to know from a guys perspective if I stand any chance with this friend. Please don't tell me to ask him cos I would fear that he would run a thousand miles in the ... (read in full...)
How can I find out where this will lead or if I stand a chance with him? ?
Q. My dilemma is this. I have recently met a guy who is everything I could dream of or want in a man, he is caring, compassionate, level headed, hard working, good looking and intelligent. Although we are ony friends he is extremely supportive of me ...
A. 20 June 2012: Thanks AuntyEm, for me to go back to my ex would be definitely a no no. We tried to make a relationship work out between us more than once and that is the reason why it bothers`me that he is back in my life. I really don't want him back, I care ... (read in full...)
Not sure if my relationship is 'normal' and to complicate things further there is another guy on the scene....
Q. I am in a new relationship for just over a month. My problem is very complicated... we are both in recovery from an addiction. He has 17 years while I have less than a year, which means that our relationship would be disapproved of so must be kept ...
A. 7 July 2011: I just want to say thank you to the two people who answered me. I was very uncomfortable with the fact that our relationship is hidden. I went along with it because he is in recovery so many years and know he would be talked about. But if he finds ... (read in full...)
I really want to leave but I don't have anywhere to go!
Q. i,m living with this guy who i,v known for about 10 years and any way when i moved in every thing was fine.until he stared drinking and doing drugs and i really want to leave but i dont have any where else to go and its not like he drinks every ...
A. 6 July 2011: If you feel afraid of him then there are places you can go. Even if you find it difficult to leave then think of your child. If he grows up with this the likelihood is that he will consider this behaviour normal.
Contact your local citizens advi... (read in full...)
Do you think my boyfriend is sulking?
Q. PLease help me. IS my boyfriend sullking? We have been dating for 2 months and he has been sleeping over and spending time with me and my 3 kids, 67a=nd 13. They love him already and they have a lot of fun. Just one thing bothers me, he drinks m...
A. 10 December 2007: It sounds like this man does indeed have a huge alcohol problem, without meeting his own rock-bottom this man will continue to put alcohol before everything in his life.
It also sounds like you have been through pain prior to this, you need to take... (read in full...)
Our problem is that he is constantly telling me that he would have sex with this or that woman.
Q. hi there can someone give me some advice please? I am on a relationship with a younger man and my problem is that he is constantly telling me that he would have sex with this or that woman. I make excuses for him telling myself that this...
A. 10 December 2007: I would like to say thank you to Serenity and I may indeed try that, a relationship is a two way process. As for speaking to him, he has a problem with not being perfect!
I would also like to say thank you to Peoriaman, it's great to receive a male... (read in full...)
Despite the abuse, she wants to make a go of it with the ex. Should I give this up?
Q. I was told that a workmate fancied me. I vowed to myself that I'd play it cool as she's got a child from a previous relationship in which she also suffered abuse. I wanted to get to know her properly first before anything else happened and also to ...
A. 24 May 2007: Do you know any other female friends who have been through similar experiences to her, and worked their way through it? If so, it could be an idea to introduce them to each other and advise your friend on what you are trying to do. As she needs to ... (read in full...)
I'm 18, virgin, and furious!
Q. Hi, I'm quite a pathetic case really. I'm 18 and still a virgin. Being a bloke its not something that i've admitted - I even spun my best mates off with bullshit stories about how i got layed. I hate myself for it. I don't understand why t...
A. 24 May 2007: Hi Cashback
Stop worrying, when the time is right it will happen for you. I know I'm a woman and in a different age group but my partner is in only a few years older than you was a virgin until a few months ago. It doesn't make you any less of a ma... (read in full...)
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