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writes:I'm 26; in love with a guy who is a divorcee and has a kid whose custody is with his ex. And i have absolutely no issues with that. He loves me as well. We've been together over 2 years now.The problem being my parents. I've told them the truth as it is and asked them to meet the guy once; they refused (i knew that would happen); but now they just wont discuss it with me; forget agreeing to it. I just don't know how to talk to them about it. I cant just give up on my relationship with him just because they think that one just CANNOT marry a divorcee. My point being just because someone has had a bad relationship doesn't make them a bad person.I need help. Please give me a starting point. Or do i just get married in a court? No i dont care about the "society" but hurting my parents makes me think.. :((((((((((((((((
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2012): I'm the one who posted the question.
Thank you. All of you.
Its been such a dilemma. And I understand my parents view too; but just I wish they could try and hear me out.
Why is it that big a deal!!??
About the marriage, I KNOW it will work. He's a great guy! We both really connect. We both want a life together. We both just.. fit.
So yeah.. I guess I'll try talking to my parents. And if they still dont want to hear me out, I think I'll have to just go the 'legal marriage' way.
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reader, supersofi  +, writes (29 August 2012):
 If you love him and believe your marraige will work, then go for it. Your parents could be protective of you and naturally want the best for you, however it is often the case that it is their idea of the best, not yours. As time goes by and they see that their daughter is happy, they should eventually begin to accept him, even if the progress is slow they will want their daughter to be happy and want to be part of their grandchildrens lives, so they should come around eventually even if it takes longer than you wish it too.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (29 August 2012):
 your parents will hopefully get over it...
here in the states it's not a big issue.
personally at your age living your life to please your parents is very over rated.
if your parents don't approve, then you have to accept that a court marriage may be all you can have. if that's ok with you (it's done here all the time) then go for it and let the chips fall where they may.
at your age your parents approval is not needed as you are legally an adult.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2012): I think your parents feel like oh he's divorced my daughter deserves better,what they don't understand is just because he is divorced doesn't mean he is a bad person or he can't have another successful marriage unfortunately things with his wife fell apart doesn't mean it will happen again!
Talk to your parents one more time,if not just stick to your man!!your old enough to make your own decision!
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