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I love her but she slept with so many men
Q. I was dating someone a couple years ago that I cared very deeply for. We were having a great time together. During the time we were together she was sexually assaulted by someone she knew. She didn't go to the police or tell anyone for months. ...
A. 14 April 2010: Give her a chance but if you cannot look pass this episode let her go. Look at the positive, she came clean and admitted what she did. She could have lied and you would be none the wiser.... (read in full...)
He's changed so much
Q. Why is my boyfriend doing this? my bf was really sweet.it took him 2months to kiss me. i asked he said hes got respect and didn't want to scare me off. whenever we made Iove it was beautiful, passionate and really tender. he was everything i could ...
A. 14 April 2010: He is definately looking for a way out and might have someone else. When someone cheats they tend to portray blame to their partners. Take a break from the relationship - not healthy to carry on.... (read in full...)
He does not even speak to me when we cross paths, ... so how should I tell him he got me pregnant?
Q. A few weeks ago my friend introduced me to the guy she's dating bestfriend. The 4 of us ended up chillen together. Drinking, playing games, just enjoying ourselves. At the end of the night me and the friend ended up sleeping together, ...
A. 14 April 2010: I would tell him. Why should you go through this alone. Why did he not think of using a condom, one cannot just assume a woman is on birth control. I am not supportive of abortions as its a life and will not comment on what you plan to do. He needs ... (read in full...)
I'm about to run away
Q. [Moderator note: this post has been edited for clarity] my mom promised me a phone for christmas. She said the place was too busy and she said we'd get one 'tomorrow'. That happened again and I still didnt get it. Today she got a phone (for herse...
A. 14 April 2010: Your mum did not give you a phone is hardly a reason to run away, It is better to have a safe home and a roof over your head than to run away. In todays day and time you cannot trust anyone and people offering you help are likely to use you and ... (read in full...)
Just in case my ex isn't quite over me..
Q. has anyone ever gotten back an ex? How did you do it? I'm trying to win a guy back that moved to another city and didn't want long distance. we are still friendly, but he is dating other people. I'm going to move to his city now for work an...
A. 13 April 2010: I would let him know i am in town but would let him propose a meeting/date. If not forthcoming will continue life with other friends and maybe something would develop or alternately he would realise he wants you back. Do not chase him as he might ... (read in full...)
Should I continue to try and see him even though he has said he is very happy with his girlfriend?
Q. I met this guy from germany through an internet and now he's here in the same country as mine.However, he will only stay here for like 12 months for a community service. Months after, he arrived in my country and we've been texting each oth...
A. 12 April 2010: Dont play with fire. let him go. You are only going to hurt a lot more when he rejects you. Every call that is not answered, sms that is not responded too , decline of invites is going to make this more difficult and embarras yourself. At least keep ... (read in full...)
Should I have pushed my ex about spending time with me teaching me to drive?
Q. First off, i have been dating and trying to keep busy. Was with my ex for 3 and a half years..it was petty stuff i think that broke us apart.. fighting over things i regret.. no one cheated.. we did have alot of love.. he broke it off... a yea...
A. 9 April 2010: He is not taking the bait you are offering-do not push it. Are you sure he is not seeing someone else? He might just be nice to you as a friend and if he wants more would take any excuse to see or be with you. Sorry hun - you need to move on.... (read in full...)
How can I have him choose me over his ex?
Q. We met and have been together since the day we met. We both agree there was an instant connection between us and decided we wouldn't rush things and give our relationship the titles boyfriend girl girlfriend. That was 10 months ago. We don't really ...
A. 9 April 2010: Break all contact. He will then be forced to make a decision. You deserve better and the respect. 10 months into the relationship and now he wants to figure our his feelings? Shows how little respect and love he has for you. Move on before you get ... (read in full...)
LDR making me sad how do I make it a healthy relationship?
Q. I've been in this long distance association for 1 long year now. We met through internet but we're incredibly connected. We like each other a lot and we care for each other. I first fell in love with him and asked him out, But he turned me not. It'...
A. 9 April 2010: This relationship is not healthy and this guy has promised you nothing. Terminate all contact and start living. Go out with friends and have a life. I promise you he is not sitting by the phone and waiting for you to call - get a life and move on. ... (read in full...)
Single, involved with a married man and know its going nowhere
Q. I am single and seeing a married man who is my colleague (from different department) of 2 years for more than a year now. We are professionals from the same country and working in a foreign country. At the beginning we were just friends. We hung out ...
A. 9 April 2010: You need to leave the cheatimg B*$#. Try by no contact and try making new friends and hanging out with friends. If you dont and when he is bored of of you and leaves you - things are going to get a lot worst. You can take control of your life or ... (read in full...)
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