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writes:I met this guy from germany through an internet and now he's here in the same country as mine.However, he will only stay here for like 12 months for a community service. Months after, he arrived in my country and we've been texting each other since he came here. I was really happy that we now communicate through texting until we wanted to see each other. But there's a problem, we never get a chance to meet because we are both busy. The guy is busy with his community service and and that time I was busy with my studies and my mom is pretty strict. Even though we have conflicts, we still ask each other to go out but we just end up rejecting or saying " sorry, I can't".Now I've graduated from high school and it's my summer vacation. Everything is actually good until one day I texted him and asked how's everything doing. He replied to my text message but then, he said he just came home from some place with his Girlfriend. (his girlfriend is a Pilipino as well)I never accepted to myself that I like him, even though my friend always say "You like him." But after receiving the message I was shocked and just felt weak and tears started running down on my face.I immediately called my friend and told her about it. Just a while ago, I texted him again and trying to ask him out before I go out of the country. I even asked my friend if I should invite him, and she said "Yes" and I was really ashamed and loosing hope. The guy replied to be but, he will go to his girlfriend's place. And there I was laying on my bed and doing some music therapy while singing so loud and calling my self stupid.My question: Should I still continue trying to see him even though deep inside my mind I'm setting him free anyway he said that he's happy with his girlfriend. But at the same time I seriously like him very much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2010): pls dnt see him,if he wants u he will com 4 u. Dnt kill urself ova a guy who is enjoyn his self with his girlfriend. Take ur mind off him nd i bet u wil enjoy d outcom of it
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich +, writes (12 April 2010):
 Im sorry about this my dear co' filipina. but NO".. stop hoping that one day he will like you because he already said he is happy with his filipina girlfriend. YES" you can continue communicating with him just for FRIEND. my dear co' filipina, i feel what you feel but you dont have to worry at all, theres a lot of good man on this earth that you deserve better. youre still young and sounds pretty. I would say leave him alone and find your self a better man than he is, dont try to hurt your self ok. and please try to meet the person first in personal before you let your self fall in.. i wish you goodluck in anyway..
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reader, straight to the truth  +, writes (12 April 2010):
You should respect the fact that this guy has a girlfriend.
its is a very selfish thing to tell someone elses boyfriend that you like them.
I am sure that if you were his girlfriend you would be devastated and angry if some other girl was texting him with feelings in the hope he would leave you.
if they break up then fine but until then leave well enough alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010): He has stated his peace, so let him live his life. Respect his wishes and stop the communication. I know it doesn't feel like it's fair, but he made a choice, and you have to live with it. He has your number, so if he wants to contact you he will. When and if that day comes is not up to you; it's up to him. Lean on your friends and you'll get over it.
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reader, Isa123  +, writes (12 April 2010):
 It's an awful thing to deal with: seeing the one you like love someone else.
But it's also a boundary that should be deeply respected. It's an awful pain to be dealt with (cheated on). He has a girlfriend now, but that doesn't mean they're married. They COULD; but no one knows. If they end, you still have a chance.
If you want to go unnoticed, cut this guy lose. Just let him know you're happy for him. However, if you want the opposite, let him know how you feel and that you are a bit upset. Don't try to pull him from his girlfriend though.
Good luck to you sweetie.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (12 April 2010):
 Dont play with fire. let him go. You are only going to hurt a lot more when he rejects you. Every call that is not answered, sms that is not responded too , decline of invites is going to make this more difficult and embarras yourself. At least keep your pride. Dont chase after a man that is taken and has told you so.
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