Do you think guys can grow on you or that if there's no instant attraction there never will be????
Q. I've been on a few dates with a guy. He seems sweet but I've not felt any real attraction. He's quite good looking and ticks a lot of the boxes - he's intelligent, got a good job, sporty etc but for some reason I've not felt a real spark. He's ...
A. 3 October 2008: Yes i think people can grow on you. You can love someone for their personality and be attracted to them way. Attraction isn't all about the physical aspects (although i agree it's important) if you like the person then have a few more dates and see ... (read in full...)
Why does my teacher never send me anything? His silence is killing me...
Q. Hi everyone, I began to fall in love with my teacher when i was in 12 th grade.( now I’m in college). He's not handsome but really nice. I’m attracted by his personality. He's a caring person. I remember one time he cried because one stud...
A. 3 October 2008: I would really advise against sending him anything ever. I know this is harsh to hear (because I have heard it myself) but you will realise in time that it's not going to happen. If you have so much respect for him as he is, why do you think he ... (read in full...)
Has she fed me a line and lost interest in me or am I being stupid for not contacting her?
Q. Advice needed as i don't want to screw-up... Quick back story for you. Met a girl through friends, nothing happened at first as i was coming out of a relationship although she has since admitted she fancied me straight away. After a couple more ...
A. 2 August 2008: How long ago was it that she said she'd call? I'd wait a while and see what happens. Don't contact her. Wait for her to do the chasing, you told her to call when she's ready and if she's interested she will. Thats the only way you will really ... (read in full...)
My girl is losing too much weight - I'm scared it's my fault!
Q. My girlfriend is over dieting also she doesn't need to. She's barely eating a thing, I think it all started when I jokingly say that she's eating too much. When talked to her but she doesn't think its an issue. Help. I have too know is it my fault?...
A. 1 August 2008: You've probably triggered her self doubt..it has happened to me in the past.. make sure she knows you were joking.. tell her how attractive she is etc and build her confidence. And in the future dont make comments about girls eating too much :) good ... (read in full...)
Why did he ignore my text?
Q. First of all,sorry for my errors,English is not my national language:) I have a big problem.There is a guy who seemed to like me,he smiled at me all the time and stared at me.So I asked him about his phone number.He gave it to me willingly. After ...
A. 1 August 2008: There could be a rational explantion..like maybe he was busy on the sat but didnt want to say no/ suggest another day...but dont text again!! Personally I would give it a week, if he still doesnt text you then move on.. you deserve a reply at least ... (read in full...)
My lecturer's been with his wife for 15 yrs, I really like him, so I'm planning to act!
Q. The lecturer I fancy knows my name and i think he likes me. He's married but he's been with her for over 15 years (even though hes only 35, i'm 20) and has indicated to me he's a bit bored. He's so clever and interesting and i'm dying to spend time...
A. 17 May 2008: Just want to say thanks to everyone, the consensus is obviously that i shouldnt do anything so i'm going to stay away. sorry to anyone who has been hurt in the past by a situation like this. i realise now how wrong it is! xxx... (read in full...)
My fingers are deformed and I'm scared it's putting the girls off me
Q. Hey, well Im 18 years old and as of yet had not had a girlfriend. I was born with a birth defect to my hands in which my fingers are deformed.The only relationship i've had has been an online one and she knew about my situation. I'm not anti-social. ...
A. 13 May 2008: hey! dont worry about it! honestly any one who judges you because of a birth defect is a complete loser! dont be shy about it, dont feel like you have to hide it, if you put it out there as soon as you meet people etc they will just accept it as ... (read in full...)
The two brothers have feelings for me and I don't know what to do since I have feelings for both of them as well...
Q. I'm having a really difficult time I've been knowing these two guys for a while now and they are brothers well I've always had a crush on them both one is 16 and very mature and the other is 20 also mature I'm 21 and I talk to the 16 year old more ...
A. 11 May 2008: I agree. If you genuinely have feelings for both of them then probably you shouldnt see either. Imagine how one will feel if you date the other one, and if you care you wouldnt want to hurt either.. If you must have one, i would personally go with ... (read in full...)
He asks my friends to do naughty things, should I trust him?
Q. hi, i chose a boy over my bf nd i think i made the right choice we r a lot more affectionate nd i luv him. But he is a bit of a naughty boy! nd likes to ask my m8's to do stuff, just like showin him their bra's. they hav always sed no but i dont kno...
A. 11 May 2008: Ask him to stop. tell him you're not comfortable with him asking to see your friends bras!! who would be!! give him a chance to sort this behaviour out and if he doesnt get rid! its been said before-you deserve better! good luck x... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is the least popular in the class and I have to face nasty comments for dating him! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend is the least popular kid in the class and everybody is like,"ur really going out with him?!" and I don't know what to do because it's really bugging me and I dont want to dump him. What should I do?...
A. 11 May 2008: If you care about him stand up for him. Ignore what any one else says, its none of their business. If you tell them you dont care what they think they'll soon move on. Have the courage to stand up for yourself and your boyfriend and let the losers ... (read in full...)
My lecturer's been with his wife for 15 yrs, I really like him, so I'm planning to act!
Q. The lecturer I fancy knows my name and i think he likes me. He's married but he's been with her for over 15 years (even though hes only 35, i'm 20) and has indicated to me he's a bit bored. He's so clever and interesting and i'm dying to spend time...
A. 11 May 2008: To the two latest anonymous writers - thanks for your input although i think its a little harsh to say "people like you" ruin lives etc etc, obviously im thinking twice about doing anything otherwise i wouldnt be on here. Its not like i rushed out ... (read in full...)
We have agreed to take it easy but it's hard when we are together so much. Any advice?
Q. Hi, I have been single for 3 years now and up until now, I had no desire to change that. For the past 4 months I have been hanging out with this guy that I dated 15 years ago, we haven't kissed or even held hands but, have discussed somewhat...
A. 10 May 2008: Why not is what I say! Whats holding you back?! You obviously like him to be spending so much time with him! Go for it! x... (read in full...)
My lecturer's been with his wife for 15 yrs, I really like him, so I'm planning to act!
Q. The lecturer I fancy knows my name and i think he likes me. He's married but he's been with her for over 15 years (even though hes only 35, i'm 20) and has indicated to me he's a bit bored. He's so clever and interesting and i'm dying to spend time...
A. 10 May 2008: Thanks so much for your advice everyone. Jitter Cakes yes he did say he was bored. We had a fieldtrip and one night in a bar we ended up chatting (admittedly a bit drunkenly) and he said he'd been with her for nearly 17 years but he was bored after ... (read in full...)
A girl keeps messaging my husband - should I be suspicious?
Q. Dear Cupids, my hubby was on facebook when a chat popped up from 1 of his friends saying 'can u chat?'. He quickly got rid of the message and acted like he didnt care. A few mins later his messenger rang as it was this girl again but he just ...
A. 10 May 2008: For her to come up on his facebook chat she must be one of his linked friends, therefore he probably knows her. There is the option to decline anyone he doesnt like so shes probably some kind of aquaintance rather than a stranger or a stalker. Ask ... (read in full...)
Self improvement plan.Will it work? How do I carry it through?
Q. Here's the situation: I’m 16 overwight and painfully shy, especially of girls. I want to lose weight, shyness and get a girlfriend. This summer I plan to do intense exercise, eat more healthily and go to the mall and start talking to random girls. ...
A. 10 May 2008: I think its admirable that you want to lose weight, not simply because of the weight itself but because it will make you happier. My advice is to concentrate on one thing at once, so if you were to start with the weight, eat healthier, start with a ... (read in full...)
My lecturer's been with his wife for 15 yrs, I really like him, so I'm planning to act!
Q. The lecturer I fancy knows my name and i think he likes me. He's married but he's been with her for over 15 years (even though hes only 35, i'm 20) and has indicated to me he's a bit bored. He's so clever and interesting and i'm dying to spend time...
A. 9 May 2008: I know what you mean. And of course I've thought that too. And i dont mean to come across as big headed, he's flirted with me quite a bit and he gives me vibes. He doesnt get much attention in general, but I just want to get closer and dont know how ... (read in full...)
Am I obsessed with my university lecturer?
Q. I'm worried that I may be obsessed with one of my lecturers at uni. He's incredibly interesting and despite the fact that he's extremely terrifying, he's so passionate and intelligent. I find myself looking him up in my free time and with desire to ...
A. 9 May 2008: I feel the same!! I am beginning to think i am actually obsessed too. i've liked one of my uni lecturers for about 8 months and i am constantly thinking about him, reading what he's written in books and journals, gazing out of the library window at ... (read in full...)
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