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writes: Hi everyone, I began to fall in love with my teacher when i was in 12 th grade.( now I’m in college). He's not handsome but really nice. I’m attracted by his personality. He's a caring person. I remember one time he cried because one student died for a car accident. There are so many other things that make me fall in love with him. At first, when he knew my feeling, he started to avoid me. I thought he hated me at first. But then later, he changed his behavior. I mean that he still kept a distance btw us, but he started treating me like other students. On the last days of senior year, i felt really sad when thinking I might not see him anymore. On those days, his behavior also changed, sometimes i caught him watching me, he cared me more but then when i looked back him, he turned away. Maybe he just felt pity for me, a stupid girl in a blind love. Maybe they're just my illusions. Before the day i graduated one day, I came to his classroom since I could not control my feeling. When only he and i were there, we talked to each other a lot, I will never forget those moments. And then, an other teacher came in his classroom, they're close friends in my high school. I didn't think that teacher knew anything when seeing me in his classroom. ( it's just a normal conversation btw student and teacher) After that day which was the day i graduated, I found out that teacher ( not the one I love)knew something about me, I mean I can say that he knew im in love with his friend. On that day, i felt really sad and hurt. Do you guys understand my feeling? I always keep wondering why he told that guy. Do both of them think that im a stupid girl, my love is just blind??? OR he just wanted to share and hoped he could get an advice. He didn't care about the law; he's not worried that teacher might tell others, it coiuld make him get fired.Three weeks ago, I sent him an email. I told him that I really wanted to see him, but didn't have enough courage to do so. And i hoped i could be your sister( i know that no ways for us, i wrote that because i don't want him avoids me) Am i doing a rite thing? He never sent me back anything. I wonder why he doesn't send me an email that tells me stop bothering him or accept me as his sister. His silence's really killing me now. Can you tell me how he feels about me? why did he tell another teacher?Thank you very much for listening to my love story. P.s:He's older than I 10 years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008): Well if he didnt answer you..that probably means he is trying to cut contact with you..sorry i know its hard to hear. But when he ignored you..he knew that he could not persue anything even if he wanted to and he probably felt akward after you told him and wanted to ignore you so you could stop or get the hint. Its so hard liking a teacher. I am in a position right now where I am 19 and I still like a teacher who taught in my high school and I still keep in contact with him and can't seem to let go...even though something will prob not happen.
If he doesn't anwer..its time to move on. It may hurt for awhile but once you meet someone else...you will get over him. Cut off contact completely. Don't email or visit again. Just think..if he really wanted to talk or see you...he has your email and can make a move if he wanted.
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reader, Amy2007x  +, writes (3 October 2008):
 well, sorry but i dont think he feels anything towards you at all. You asked him to accept you as a sister, but with what you have told us, it didnt seem as if you two were close in anway, so i cant see any reason why he would accept you in the first place. also, he probs told the other teacher as he knew it was your last day and after tht he would have nothin more to do with the suituation, im sorry, im only being realistic
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reader, sassymouse +, writes (3 October 2008):
 I would really advise against sending him anything ever. I know this is harsh to hear (because I have heard it myself) but you will realise in time that it's not going to happen. If you have so much respect for him as he is, why do you think he would lower himself to abuse the position he is in as a teacher and engage in a relationship with a student. It is unfair on him to bother him and send him emails, you're putting him in an awkward position and although i realise how you feel, i have to advise you to try to forget about him (i know its not easy!!) and find somebody else. If he is so much older he probably already has a wife and family (??) and so please dont try and get in the middle of them. Ultimately you will be the one that comes out looking silly. Show respect for yourself and for him and leave this well alone. He probably told another teacher because he knew how you feel about him and he had to cover his back in case you tried to accuse him of anything (rejected students often claim "rape" or something which could cause him to lose his job). I'm sorry, but ultimately this will end in tears.
I dont understand the part about the sister..
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reader, MuffinGirl  +, writes (3 October 2008):
 Dear girl..You must be really nervous when you're waiting to get his e-mail. It can be painful too. I remember when i was in that kind of situation... I smoked a lot more cigarettes than usual and i was checking my account every half hour. I think he told another teacher about your feelings because he need to talk with somebody or he needed advice. And that advice was he must be professional and forget on relationship with you. I don't know how he feel about you, you should try to figured it out by yourself. I don't know why the hell he didn't answer you, maybe he doesn't know how he feel or what to say. I think he's really understandable man and he feel sorry for you. Maybe he has gone through the similar situation like you and he knows how much it hurts when you love somebody and he can't be with you. But now you're in college, so that relationship is possible. Maybe you can go to his school and try to meet him and talk with him. Make an excuse, why you're there if you would see him. Say you need one book from school library or something like that. I think you need talk and please email me on my dearcupid account. I know how you feel and i really want to talk to you.
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