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writes:I'm having a really difficult time I've been knowing these two guys for a while now and they are brothers well I've always had a crush on them both one is 16 and very mature and the other is 20 also mature I'm 21 and I talk to the 16 year old more than I do with the 20 year old They both have feelings for me and I don't know what to do since I have feelings for both of them as well Can someone please give me some advice on what to do cause I Know I can't have them both.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI do care alot About them both and I don't want to hurt them but I think I'll do that whether I date one or not cause they'll both be upset either way it goes I have never had this type of situation so I'm very scared of what the outcome may be we're all really great friends and they both told me that they wanted to ask me out but didn't cause I was talking to this other guy that they know and they didn't want to block. Well that didn't go so good so now here I am with their emotions in my hand.
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reader, sassymouse  +, writes (11 May 2008):
 I agree. If you genuinely have feelings for both of them then probably you shouldnt see either. Imagine how one will feel if you date the other one, and if you care you wouldnt want to hurt either.. If you must have one, i would personally go with the older one as he's more around your age. But to be honest, i think if either dates you it will put their brotherly relationship at risk and im sure thats not what you want. good luck.
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reader, Lily Moll +, writes (11 May 2008):
I know this might not be the advice you want to hear, but it might be best to not date either. Just because you're dating one, it won't make the feelings you have for the other one go away, nor will it make his feelings for you go away. In fact, it might worsen the situation, because you'll end up seeing them both more if you're dating one of them. Also, it could put a strain on their relationship if they both like you but only one can have you. Whereas if neither has you, it always remains a fantasy, and no one gets hurt. It's a difficult situation, indeed. Best of luck to you.
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