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writes: My girlfriend is over dieting also she doesn't need to. She's barely eating a thing, I think it all started when I jokingly say that she's eating too much. When talked to her but she doesn't think its an issue. Help. I have too know is it my fault? Reply to this Question
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reader, LIERIN  +, writes (2 August 2008):
 You didnt do it, but you kinda did help it a lil ...
I have lost lots of weight .. than I met my BF .. I am about size 8 (I was muuuuch bigger) ... my BF loves me the way I am and he would probably prefer if I styed the way I am .. but once we went to an Ice Cream shop, and I got a big ice cream and he said "Oh MY God, dont eat that much, or you will get fat again!" .... It pulled the trigger in my head and I stopped eating, joined a gym and got personal trainer to get all thefat off of my body! He was affraid he did that .. but than I realised its helping my selfesteem and I am really looking better ... so even tho, he did make me (kinda) I am happy he did...
Now .. if she is skinny an not eating, than it maigh be a problem. Start telling her she is beautiful .. and that she is on perfect weight .. and not to loose a pound anymore, because she looks amazing right now! At least you maight be able to stop it....
IF she still doesnt eat, than find help for her!!!
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reader, sassymouse  +, writes (1 August 2008):
 You've probably triggered her self doubt..it has happened to me in the past.. make sure she knows you were joking.. tell her how attractive she is etc and build her confidence. And in the future dont make comments about girls eating too much :) good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): You didn't turn her anorexic, it's caused by what's called body dysmorphia.. she doesn't see in the mirror what you see. She may be 100 lbs, but she sees a 200 lb girl. It takes alot of work to get over the issue, but if she has a good man in her life, as I suspect you are based on your support and seeking help, she'll be ok. You may want to talk to her parents to. Be strong, it's a bumpy road you're on, but she will need you if she truly is anorexic.
Make sure she knows you love her and you think she is beautiful, no matter what.
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reader, secrets5 +, writes (1 August 2008):
people dont become anorexic because of one thing, and it will take some time for her to get over it trust me i had it for three years. it might be partially your ault but it goes deeper than that. omplement her and tell her how good she looks and that you need her. do talk to her about it! xxx
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