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writes:Advice needed as i don't want to screw-up... Quick back story for you. Met a girl through friends, nothing happened at first as i was coming out of a relationship although she has since admitted she fancied me straight away. After a couple more meetings the chemistry quickly sprang into life. Here's the thing though, i'm not used to making the running. My normal tactic is to let a girl know i like her and then let nature take its course - it has alway worked until now. This one is different. Eventually after much flirting i asked her out. She turned me down, telling me that she'd rather keep things as friends for now. Normally that would have been it for me but something told me it was worth pursueing. After more friendly texts and a drunken night out with friends where we were all over each other, she actually asked me out. 5 romantic dates and a day at a music festival later things were going very well indeed. If we weren't together we'd be on the phone for a couple of hours. The most recent date was last week, we had a great flirty time with much kissing and laughing but we also discussed how we were both really busy the next month. We're both moving houses, she's just started a new job and it's all week long training away from home and she has her sister's wedding where she will be away for a week.So the next day she texted me telling me that she doesn't think she can give me full attention at the moment as she's so busy. I simply texted back telling her not too worry, no pressure and to call me when she gets herself more sorted. She told me she appreciated this and she would when she's more settled. Since then there has been no contact between either of us but i realise now how much i care about her and i don't want this one to slip through my fingers. Problem is she is quite aloof and has admitted in the past that she likes guys to do all the chasing. Has she fed me a line and lost interest in me or am i being a schmuck for not contacting her? This is all new to me, and i'm not used to a girl suddenly backing away.
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reader, sassymouse +, writes (2 August 2008):
 How long ago was it that she said she'd call? I'd wait a while and see what happens. Don't contact her. Wait for her to do the chasing, you told her to call when she's ready and if she's interested she will. Thats the only way you will really know... dont risk looking desperate..that will not help the situation. Good luck!
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