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... Send *ysticalStella a private message | | | *ysticalStella's profile:Since I don't like to be categorized or labelled I'm going to structure this as 10 Things About Me.
1. Had a difficult start in life born into a poor working class household with parents locked in a marriage that was dysfunctional, abusive and sometimes violent. Experienced neglect and various forms of abuse in childhood. I'm also trans and identify as female. 'Stella' works fine in place of pronouns.
2. When I was 17 (in 1983) I entered into 'training' in London with an elderly Bangladeshi man who taught me Therevada (Southern) Buddhism and Vipassana meditation. As a teenager I was an emotional and psychological mess. This man, who I refer to as Babu, taught me all about Brahmanism, Buddhism, meditation, yoga, and encouraged me to study mysticism, magic and the occult. He trained me to be a shaman, suggesting that I walk my own path through life, learn to serve others as a means of resolving my own issues.
3. Babu died peacefully, naturally, in 1986. He was in his 90's. He gave his house away to a black guy who he'd adopted as a son and left no trace whatsoever of his existence. He would be upset if I refer to him as a master or guru, so I thought of him as a mentor. Before he died he reminded me that in order to be actually become a shaman I needed to go through a period of living completely alone with nature.
4. I've lived half of my life (the earlier part) in two different gender roles and I've also lived my life at both extremes of the social spectrum, having been wealthy and successful, and also destitute, homeless, and socially excluded. Therefore I have much broader life experience than most people I know.
5. I've also been in relationships with both men and women, both trans and non-trans, and regard myself as demisexual or if you prefer stone femme.
6. I'm also a writer, an internationally recognized Fringe dramatist, a former stage director, and have given hundreds of drama workshops for different people such as the homeless, people with mental health issues, people with disabilities, people struggling with addiction. I've lived abroad in Eastern Europe, and am connected with the performing arts.
7. Between 2007 and 2009 I became a shaman and cut myself off from society, going off to live alone with nature among the trees, the birds and the insects. Through this I kind of found myself, learned the differences between the natural environment and society, and spent a lot of time during this period in meditation.
8. In 2009 I also developed Creative Law as an alternative to Natural Law, and out of this I developed a new derivative of Therevada Buddhism known as Qultura. Qultura is a methodology which is designed to teach those interested in mysticism and Natural Law together with numerology and magic. It's not a religion, not a philosophy, but a complete methodology which can be accessed through a 97 page book, website, video and online community.
9. What qualifies me to help people? I'm a mystic, shaman and lightworker. The difference here is that I chose to be a writer, and work in theatre and the performing arts. When it comes to being a mystic and shaman, I didn't choose to become either, because this is what other people throughout my life suggested that I become. Please keep in mind that I teach mindfulness and discipline through drama, and I have also provided insight, support and help to various people over more than 25 years.
10. Shamanism is all about empowering individual human experience. It's a science, the science of individual human experience and throughout what I try and seek to do is to highlight the fact that in most cases the answers people are seeking, or their solutions, lie somewhere deep within them. I don't claim special powers, no being psychic, or travelling on a higher plane or having access to any knowledge that you cannot access. It's just that I've gone through a lot of life myself, have struggled with many issues myself, I'm a former addict, and I've been studying mysticism and such subjects for close to 40 years.
I'd just like to add a couple of caveats:
1. I'm here to get experience of providing support and insight to people who have relationship issues. I'm not here to sell you anything, promote anything, drum up business, make money, attract followers, and also I'm not your guru, your therapist, your friend, and any advice I provide is to be taken at face value.
2. Please also keep in mind that while I'm seeking to provide mystical insight and try and do a bit of shamanistic work this is an online forum which limits the amount of insight I'm able to provide. I can also get things wrong, simply because I'm human. Also nothing I write invalidates anything anyone else writes, nor is it to be taken as an endorsement. |
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