Why do I get so mad when he wants to hang with the guys instead of me?
Q. My boyfriend and I spend tine together all the time and we always have fun. We know that we cant be around each other 24/7 because we tend to get annoyed with each other and argue. Last week we spend time Sunday- Thursday after work going out to ...
A. 2 August 2010: My girlfriend is exactly the same as you, you're not being selfish and I'm sure it will only compliment him that you want to spend so much time with him (that's how I feel anyway). That being said, you obviously have to let him see some of his ... (read in full...)
Sex is nonexistent with my husband, so I have an affair. Should I leave my marriage?
Q. I am going to try to make this long story as short as possible. I've been married for over 36 years and have 2 grown children. My husband and I have been together since high school. He was my first real love. I built everything around him. We have ...
A. 2 August 2010: I couldn't agree more with TimmD. What you are considering doing to your husband is, frankly, disgusting. For him to not be able to please you do to repercussions of an illness, and you blaming him for this, it's just awful. I can't believe ... (read in full...)
What do his words mean??
Q. So, i was talking to this guy for a while. And we both have a big difference (age) that is going to be keeping us apart for a while. While discussing this issue he told me "You seem too sweet to be led on, but I can't ever figure out how. " What ...
A. 2 August 2010: It means nothing. It's nonsense.... (read in full...)
Is my mum trying to control me?
Q. I have a problem regarding my mum, and travelling to London. I was supposed to be going there alone, for a concert, but also to spend a few days to sight see there, and i planned on meeting some of the fans of the band i am going to see there. Some ...
A. 2 August 2010: Yes your mother is being too controlling, but you are also not being independent enough by allowing this to happen. You're 26 now, you are an adult, and you really need to realise that. When you are a child your parents are responsible for looking ... (read in full...)
Why won't a nice guy fall for me? I feel ugly and depressed.
Q. I am 24 and have never been in love (not one that was reciprocated anyway). I believe this could be because I am not nice to look at (bordering on downright repulsive), slightly overweight and very very shy and also sarcastic. I do have a very ...
A. 1 August 2010: It's clear to me that the root of your problem is a lack of confidence. Guys, like girls, are drawn to confidence, optimism, intelligence and talent. It's natural for people to want to associate themselves with "winners" in life, and people see ... (read in full...)
It stings when he tries to finger me
Q. My boyfriend and I have been sexually active for about the past two months (we are both sophomores in college). It's been a month since he's been "fingering" me. I put that in quotations because he can barely get his finger in before I tell him that ...
A. 29 July 2010: Not sure if this is it or not but it could be a vaginal ulcer. My girlfriend had it for a few months and we literally had to stop sex for 6 weeks to let it heal. It was very hard to spot as well. Go to the gynecologist and ask him to check you ... (read in full...)
Its been 18 years since I had sex and I don't know how to move this to the next step...
Q. I am 47 and divorced. I have not had sex in 18 years and I'm thinking too hard. I'm dating but I can't figure out how to move us from a kiss in the living room to sex in the bedroom. (Sex in the living room would be even worse.) Is it as simple ...
A. 29 July 2010: asdfg has got the idea. Don't try and immediately switch from a relaxed environment in the living room to sex in the bedroom. The first (and biggest) step is kissing and you've got over that stage. Start caressing her and make her feel ... (read in full...)
Guys: Was it hard for you to realize you were in love the first time?
Q. Mod Note: Poster's Original Title Guys: The first time you fell in love when did you realize it? Was it hard for you to tell her? For me it seems that girls can realize it and decided when they are in love with some one easier then a guy can....
A. 29 July 2010: Your boyfriend sounds a little bit like me. I have always had this attitude to saying 'I love you' where I think it is an overused term that is so often said and not meant. I refused to say it to any girl until I was 20 and started going out with ... (read in full...)
I don't love him anymore but I'm worried about breaking up!
Q. OK, there are so many part to this story I don't really know where to start. Basically, I've been with my partner for nearly 5 years (I'm 20 years old), we have lived together for over 2 years and got engaged in 2008. I thought he was the perfect ...
A. 29 July 2010: This is a sad situation, but we all have to go through one or two in our lifetimes. The best answer to your question is be honest with him as there's clearly no future to the relationship. Be as gentle with him as you can, because this is really ... (read in full...)
How do I open up to her?
Q. Hi, iv been with my girlfriend for nearly 4 months now. For the first 2 months it was great, we were both happy and got along really well. But as time went on, it seems that the relationship has just dwindled... its really frustrating for both me ...
A. 29 July 2010: That's quite a broad statement but maybe she feels the relationship is lacking in the emotional sense. Part of the benefits of relationships is empathising with each other about things, but it's a two-way street. Share things with her you have ... (read in full...)
Does this mean he really wants to see me?
Q. I really like this guy and he has expressed an interest in me too. But, we stopped talking about 3 months ago because situations were too difficult. He travels a lot for his job so he's rarely in town and I had some things going on too. Anyway, ...
A. 29 July 2010: Don't over-analyse otherwise you'll just end up getting obsessed. Don't get too invested in this guy at this early stage. Yes there's potential, but nothing more at this stage so don't close any doors to other people. It's pretty easy for people ... (read in full...)
All we seem to do is fight!
Q. Been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. never loved a person so much in my life, im his first serious girlfriend and first love. im 5 and half months pregnant with our first baby, and we are just doing up our new home, we should be so happy ...
A. 29 July 2010: This sounds awful, especially when you're heavily pregnant. You need to tell him exactly what he's doing to you and make him feel guilty for it. If he doesn't snap out of it and start acting like an adult about to have a child then you need to ... (read in full...)
Why does he keep changing his mind?
Q. I recently wrote to you about how my boyfriend liked me for two years then very quickly changed his mind about "us". Well, once again he seems to have changed his mind its, strange after he told me he didnt feel right being with me now that he has ...
A. 29 July 2010: I know it's difficult, but don't take someone like that seriously. Move on, find someone new, and learn from the whole experience. ... (read in full...)
I don't know much about serious relationships, can anyone give me some advice on what to do?
Q. im not use to all this, but ima do my best. I've been wit this chick, she the most amazing girl i ever met, but i dont really know much about having a serious relationship,, like i been talking to her everyday on the phone, and im running out of ...
A. 29 July 2010: I've been through the early stage of not knowing what to say to my girlfriend, but as you get more comfortable with each other that dilemna passes with time. Think how you act around your family and how relaxed the environment is, ideally you will ... (read in full...)
Why has my ex called twice in 2 days?
Q. my ex-boyfriend has called me twice in two days. he wont talk talk on my voicemail. why is he doing this.what does this mean? i still have strong feelings for him. we dated a year. it has been a little over a year since he broke up with me. he was ...
A. 29 July 2010: Agree with the answer below. It might be that he is lacking in self-esteem and wants to remind himself that he is loved by someone to boost his confidence. Don't fall for it unless, as said below, he starts making serious concessions that you ... (read in full...)
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