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writes:I really like this guy and he has expressed an interest in me too. But, we stopped talking about 3 months ago because situations were too difficult. He travels a lot for his job so he's rarely in town and I had some things going on too. Anyway, we chatted briefly online the other day. I told him it would be great to see him sometime soon and he told me when he'd be back in town. I asked if he would have time to get together and he said he can make time. I know he's busy taking care of personal business and such when he's here but I guess I'm wondering if by him saying "I can make time" it means he's thinking enough of me to do so and he'd really like to see me too. Is that statement a good thing? Reply to this Question
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reader, SillyB +, writes (30 July 2010):
 Since you did the asking first, I suspect he isn't that interested. "I can make time" is a lousy answer. If he truly was interested he'd be making plans left and right with you.
Read 'He's just not that into you"...its a great book that saved me alot of trouble.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (29 July 2010):
 Yes, "I can make time" is a good thing for him to say, but as Ask oldersister said - that's just the first half of it. He has to follow through with his statement, and if he does then it is a very good sign of his feelings for you.
Be cautious, though. If his job situation has no signs of ever changing then you are just setting yourself up for continuous heart break. You two already stopped things once, so if things haven't really changed then they most likely won't in the future. You'll just be stuck in the same cycle.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (29 July 2010):
 Exactly, talk is cheap. Wait and see if he puts his money where his mouth is next time he's in town.
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reader, Lookingforwisdom  +, writes (29 July 2010):
Don't over-analyse otherwise you'll just end up getting obsessed. Don't get too invested in this guy at this early stage. Yes there's potential, but nothing more at this stage so don't close any doors to other people. It's pretty easy for people to tell when someone is overly keen, and the best way to avoid this is to realise there are countless options out there. Trust me I empathise with you, I went through a year patch where I kept meeting girls and just overdoing it with them by being to keen and scaring them off. I'm now in a fantastic relationship and when we first start seeing each other it was very relaxed, I knew she liked me but not overly so, and she knew the same about me. Just don't put all your eggs in one basket with this guy, and if it works out then great, if not then whatever.Good luck.
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