My boyfriend never buy me gifts or flowers. Do you think this is petty of me to think this way or is this a problem?
Q. I buy my boyfriend nice gifts, all the time. Golf stuff, beer stuff, nice ties... He really doesn't do anything for me at all. He brought me a book for my birthday and a sex toy and that's about it. Otherwise, our relationship (one year so far...
A. 29 August 2014: Sounds like you are showing him Love (gifts) in the way that you would like to receive it. This is a common mistake. Not that you are wrong to show him love in the way you best understand it best. You just can't expect him to return the favor ... (read in full...)
I don't mind helping with the chores but this is just too much!
Q. Hello friends and foes, just got some stuff to ask, as always. Now, no one really likes chores, just because it's work and work isn't fun. Call me a brat, or whatever, you're probably right. My dad recently has been over booking me with chores...
A. 27 August 2014: Ok, I am back to soften my stand. I should have said in my first post that I come from a farming background and that my father died when I was 12. This has ment that I do think you are lucky to have both parents a home and food on the table. For ... (read in full...)
I found my new wife on an escort website. What do I do?
Q. hello everyone please help me. i just got married. i knew her from long time back but we werent keeping contact eachother untll we decided to get married. we are from same country but living in different countries. she lived in singapore and im ...
A. 27 August 2014: WOW, what a messed up mess! She went a let you commit you heart and life to her when she didn't even tell you who she really was! It is so hard to even think about staying with her when she has committed such a MAJOR breach of trust?!? If y... (read in full...)
My wife went too far during a threesome. How do I get past this?
Q. I saw someone had a similar issue as this a few years ago. But I wonder if anyone had any current advice they can give me. My wife and I have been together for 4 years and recently tried to spice things up by me agreeing to a 3sum with another male. ...
A. 27 August 2014: Jealousy! This is the big problem with bringing in someone eles. My partner has suggested a threesome with another girl a few times and the idea scares me silly. trust and jealousy are tricky. First thing you need to do is find out all the... (read in full...)
My boyfriend called me ugly, should I be upset?
Q. I've been with my bf for about 3 years now. He's never called me ugly before (and I'm not too attractive) but recently I've made a new guy friend and I was texting him a lot today. My boyfriend was with me and he kept asking who i was texting. I ...
A. 27 August 2014: Jealous YES! You do have the right to be upset about this, bringing you down to make himself feel better is not on! The jealousy is understandable, even a little flattering but hurting you, even emotionally is not on. He need to learn how to say ... (read in full...)
How do I know if this girl had sex before me?
Q. hello, I have a girlfriend. last month i had sex with her,this was my first time.after did the sex lot of confusion created. according to my girl friend she was also first time but during sex i seen her membrane had already broken and vagina is lo...
A. 27 August 2014: Just wondering, if this was your first time then what are you comparing her vagina to? How do you know her vagina is any looser or tighter then any other vagina? A women's vagina is designed to give birth to a baby and still go back to its oringina... (read in full...)
He proposed, but every weekend is taken up with his children ... what if I want a child too?
Q. Hi. My bofriend proposed 2 months ago. As he has 2 kids with ex, he spent Saturdays taking them out somewher, dropped them back at their mom's because she doesn't like them sleeping out and on Sunday took them to visit their grandmother from about ...
A. 24 August 2014: Congrats on your engagment. That being said, I don't think you will like what I have to say.
Once someone has a child they become part of who they are. If you are going to marry him, then you will be marrying all of him including his kids. H... (read in full...)
Does him finding ME attractive mean he doesn't find his wife attractive?
Q. I wanted to know if I have done the right thing or was there a chance that he was sort of serious about that me? There was a mutual crush between us, however we are both committed. His wife works in the same place as he does so do I, however, t...
A. 24 August 2014: Yes I think you have done the right thing! If he wanted to leave his wife, he should do that and even if it wasn't married, getting tangled up with a higher level worker is not a good idea either.
I am sure he does find you attractive, but this... (read in full...)
I don't mind helping with the chores but this is just too much!
Q. Hello friends and foes, just got some stuff to ask, as always. Now, no one really likes chores, just because it's work and work isn't fun. Call me a brat, or whatever, you're probably right. My dad recently has been over booking me with chores...
A. 24 August 2014: ?? Really, the only way to avoid helping out around the house is to not have 1 ?? Houses need to be looked after & apples need to be picked up! If you don't like picking up 100+ apples at once then don't let that many build up. Do it once a week ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I are not speaking .... AGAIN!
Q. Well my girlfriend and I arn't speaking again. She literally makes me feel nuts with how double standard she is. We were talking about how you can fall in love with two people, she claims she would be okay if I cheated on her and fell for someone...
A. 24 August 2014: This relationship sounds pretty broken to me?! I can't imagine what she has to offer that would be worth all this game playing/drama?? A lot of what you have said would be major no nos for me, blocking each other on FB, that seems more like tit ... (read in full...)
5 year relationship ending because of us being jealous and controlling
Q. MOD NOTE: 2 questions put into one Hello there, Yesterday my bf of 5 years told me on the phone he does not know what to do, he thinks to end the relationship is best for both of us because we will have more arguments. I cried on the phone and he...
A. 24 August 2014: All you can do now is look out for You. I am not sure of your situation, work/hobbies/friends ect.. But try and find something to through yourself into, something You enjoy, and give yourself purpose outside of this relationship.
You are worth more... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's abusive ex girlfriend
Q. Hi. I feel so helpless to my boyfriend who ive been with for almost 6 months. He has a child at the age of almost 7 months and in he past relationship for 3 years his ex was quite physically abusive and nasty. She has still been doing it since th...
A. 23 August 2014: Physically abusive people are hard to deal with. They tend to have a mountain of excuses, and very rarely change. They don't tend to discriminate either. If she is willing to hit a full grown man she won't think twice with a child. Your ... (read in full...)
Am I not supposed to show my feelings? I am at a loss!
Q. I don't know what to do with my girlfriend anymore. I feel like I'm always failing, even when I don't know why or what I did wrong. I picked her up from work the other night with a bouquet of flowers, trying to be sweet. We went back to my place...
A. 23 August 2014: Sorry, I forgot to say Please Don't Hide Your Feelings. The old " I am a man and I Don't feel stuff" gets really old!!! Our feelings and emotions are symptoms that something going on. Just like the pain you would feel if you broke your arm, the ... (read in full...)
Am I not supposed to show my feelings? I am at a loss!
Q. I don't know what to do with my girlfriend anymore. I feel like I'm always failing, even when I don't know why or what I did wrong. I picked her up from work the other night with a bouquet of flowers, trying to be sweet. We went back to my place...
A. 23 August 2014: I am with chigirl in saying that it takes 2 to tango but I have seen the basics of your argument play out heaps of times in my relationship. No one wants to take the blame & really, should a relationship even be about that?
Your question... (read in full...)
5 year relationship ending because of us being jealous and controlling
Q. MOD NOTE: 2 questions put into one Hello there, Yesterday my bf of 5 years told me on the phone he does not know what to do, he thinks to end the relationship is best for both of us because we will have more arguments. I cried on the phone and he...
A. 23 August 2014: Sorry to hear about your current situation. It is hard to see things clearly when our hearts are on the line.
My guess would be that he wants out but he doesn't want to hurt you. When a relationship ends, it is very rarely quick and for sure... (read in full...)
13 years and 3 kids in he says " I have been wondering what it is like to be with other women"
Q. I woul love some advise please. 13 years and 3 kids in he says " I have been wondering what it is like to be with other women" he was a virgin when we met (not that he told me) and he regrets not sleeping with more women. He works away a lot and ...
A. 10 August 2014: Thank you all for your answers, they are wonderful and varied. I really am pleased I found this site.
I do think there is more to this then just sex, I know he isn't happy with me. I wish he would talk to me, and I wish I could trust that it will... (read in full...)
We are at different stages in our lives, but I want to get to know him!
Q. Recently I met a man a camp we both volunteered at. Early on we found ourselves chatting and having a great time. A friend invited is for drinks and we bonded even more. Completely out of no where we ended up sleeping together which was so out of ...
A. 9 August 2014: I can't think of any good reason why you shouldn't continue getting to know each other. But if you are worried your study might suffer Maybe just keep it light for now. Really though, a good relationship should bring out the best in you both. I ... (read in full...)
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