My boyfriend is making me feel like a prisoner.....what can I do?
Q. My boyfriend is too controlling.i got a new job as a cabin crew but my boyfriend want me to be pregnant and leave the job if not he will leave me alone.what shall i do?... I am 29, i am living with my boyfrend for 2 years he is 43 and he is separ...
A. 19 July 2011: Get some counseling. You need to understand why you are willing to consider continuing in this relationship.
I too think there are red flags all over this and you need to get out. But it seems you cannot see these problems clearly.
So do y... (read in full...)
Obsessing over my ex math teacher
Q. Im 14 years old and im a lesbian and im in love with my ex maths teacher. ever since i saw her i new i loved her but its getting to the point were its affecting me as a person. Im becoming ver obsessed by checking her facebook account to see if she ...
A. 12 July 2011: We are glad to help, honey. Someday this will all be behind you and you will find life gets a bit easier after teen years. They are tough on almost everyone!... (read in full...)
Ex BF harrassing the hell out of me - why?
Q. Hi all, my ex boyfriend of 6 months ago (whom I dated for a year) treated me horribly during our relationship. Eventually he dumped me over the phone because according to him "he didn't love me, he was just with me because his mum thought I would ...
A. 12 July 2011: True, Red Athena
And even he may not know his own motives -- or be interested in his motives!
So yes, try not to waste time on this. Though I know it is tempting to "solve a puzzle" -- this one may never have a solution.... (read in full...)
Is this a recipe for success, or disaster?
Q. Hi everyone, i'd like to thank in advance for help. This is going to be quite long so bare with me. I feel as though it's time to ask for somebodies advice about whether my relationship with my boyfriend is a recipe for success, or disaster. I n...
A. 12 July 2011: Forgive me if this sounds insensitive, but it almost sounds like you are making this up.
But since truth is usually stranger than fiction, I will assume you are actually in a relationship with this person.
Why on earth would you want to be a... (read in full...)
BF is married and lied to me about being separated from his wife, having sex with her and having another kid that I didnt know of. Does he deserve another chance?
Q. Five months ago I met this guy who seemed like a good guy and was fun to hang around. From the first moment we met he admitted to me that he had a son who was in the first grade, and showed me pictures like any proud father. Even though I myself ...
A. 12 July 2011: Never see him again. Never talk to him again. He is bad bad news. Count yourself lucky you are getting off this easy. Too bad his wife has already had children with him. Poor thing.... (read in full...)
How do I break up with her kindly?
Q. Ok, I'm a little reluctant to post this as I'm "the bad guy" in the piece, but I could really use some advice. I've been seeing someone off and on for the past few months and I need to end things with her. She really likes me and, despite my tryin...
A. 10 July 2011: It is wonderful that you are thinking about how to let her down as gently as possible -- and with integrity.
Just keep in mind that she may have strong emotional reactions to being "dumped" and may have many questions as to why this is happenin... (read in full...)
Obsessing over my ex math teacher
Q. Im 14 years old and im a lesbian and im in love with my ex maths teacher. ever since i saw her i new i loved her but its getting to the point were its affecting me as a person. Im becoming ver obsessed by checking her facebook account to see if she ...
A. 10 July 2011: I am sorry you are hurting so much over this.
When you get a little older, it will seem much different, though I know this is not much comfort now.
You say this is affecting your whole life now and certainly when we become obsessed with so... (read in full...)
Ex BF harrassing the hell out of me - why?
Q. Hi all, my ex boyfriend of 6 months ago (whom I dated for a year) treated me horribly during our relationship. Eventually he dumped me over the phone because according to him "he didn't love me, he was just with me because his mum thought I would ...
A. 10 July 2011: Don't wasted any more emotional or mental energy trying to figure him out.
Ignore, ignore, ignore...eventually he will find someone else to abuse (unfortunate, but true).... (read in full...)
He said he loved me, wanted a family...now he says he does not want anything serious, what gives?
Q. Hi everyone, I decided to come on here and write my feeling/thoughts because I needed someone to talk to and perhaps some encouraging words to get me through my heartbreak. My story: I've been seeing a guy for almost 2 years now. I knew...
A. 10 July 2011: I understand the heartbreak you feel, as I was in a similar situation when I was young.
You are wanting closure, to understand what the hell he has been thinking, feeling.
But you already have your answer:
"I like you being in my life but... (read in full...)
Married to a narcissist. How do I leave him?
Q. i am dying inside.i am married to an egocentric narcissist .i have endured him because i have young children,and because i have no one to turn to.during the 22 years of marriage he put me so much down that i am not able to stand up anymore and face ...
A. 9 July 2011: Have you worked outside the home at all? Do you have skills to start making your own living? If not, can you get some?
You will be surprised at how much happier you may be on your own, even if you have to get by with less money.
Don't spend y... (read in full...)
I am married but this other woman will not leave me alone!! Help!
Q. Hi, I'm 35 and married. In March this year, I started flirting with my female colleague. After few weeks, we realised that we both had a lot of things in common and we're sexually attracted to each other. She told me that she wanted commitment, so I ...
A. 9 July 2011: I think you need to look honestly at yourself and your marriage. You could use some counseling to determine why you are cheating on your wife (emotional cheating counts).
If your marriage needs work, and if you are mature enough to do your par... (read in full...)
How can I let him down easy?
Q. hey i'm friends with this guy, and he's really sweet he keeps on buying me food and he wants to go on a date, but i dont want him that way. and i dont want to lead him on, how do i gently tell him this without hurting him?...
A. 9 July 2011: I agree. Tell him the truth. Stop accepting gifts and gently tell him you are not interested in him romantically.... (read in full...)
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