Amazing guy but underwhelming sex
Q. I've been dating this guy for about 2 months and he's amazing. We laugh together the whole time, we have loads in common, he's fun, thoughtful and I find him really attractive. We just click, it's easy and effortless when we're together.I haven't ...
A. 4 October 2021: Why not just believe him? Men often simply tell the truth and then, for reasons no-one quite understands, women automatically assume there must be some other reason, different to what they say.
Or, to be fair, men often struggle to tell the whol... (read in full...)
I bought a house abroad and now I'm worried I made a bad decision
Q. I am a. 53 year old woman who split from my long-term partner a few years ago. Without going into detail my life has been very tough, there is no 'family wealth' and I spent most of my life caring for others whilst trying to make some headway ...
A. 13 June 2021: Thank you Honeypie, I appreciate your input. I think you and YCBS are both right - I need to try it and see what happens and take it from there. Thank you again.... (read in full...)
What does it mean to reparent yourself?
Q. What to people mean by reparenting and how do you go about doing that? I am a 24 year old female still living in my parents home. Growing up, my father was an alcoholic and verbally abused me and my mother. My mother was also belittling me. There ...
A. 9 October 2020: Another way of thinking about this is to think of yourself as you would a very best friend and treat yourself as that best friend. I had abusive parents and, at 52 and several stints of counselling and years of figuring out why my parents did w... (read in full...)
Should we think about moving in his sisters house? She's bossy and controlling
Q. Should we think about moving in his sisters house my husbands oldest sister husband passed March of this year she is now saying she wont s to move out her house. I cannot stand her she controlling bossy and sure a pain in our marriage she sto...
A. 19 September 2020: I am not sure I understood the situation. Your sister in law wants to move out of her house to let you, your husband and your daughter move into it, meaning she will become your landlord? Is that the situation? If so, and your gu... (read in full...)
Is it ok to kiss a single mom on the 2nd date?
Q. I started dating a single mother recently. I am 21, unmarried and without she is 39 and has a 3 year old daughter. She is awfully sweet and nice and suggested a second date soon -- so a second date is on the cards very soon. So do you think it is ok...
A. 11 March 2020: Okay, I'm a single mother and I see this slightly differently to those who have responded so far.
Single mums have, historically, been subjected to a huge amount of 'hate speech' and moral judgement - even when they may have been abandone... (read in full...)
I want to let go of him with understanding not hatred
Q. I have a slightly odd question about a previous relationship that I'm still trying to figure out aspects of because I'm trying to heal and really move on. I am NOT the kind of person who just walks away from things. I know I give far more than I ...
A. 21 February 2020: Thank you all of you - Honeypie, I especially appreciate your thoughts on this.
Yes, I will take all of your advice...I need to 'roll up the carpet' on the past, with this one, and move on, rather than inspecting every tiny fibre in it.... (read in full...)
I'm feeling guilty because for 2 years my married LDR lover has thought I am dead
Q. I am separated with 3 children, in short, I am a single mother. My story is...I had a long-distance affair with a married man from 2006 to 2017. I met him once in Hongkong and Our relationship was wonderful but also painful. I love him a lot but ...
A. 6 February 2020: The only thing I would add to WiseOwlE's advice - which I fully support - is that you could also get your mental health checked. This is not sane behaviour. See a counsellor to get the support you will need when you tell the truth and stop taking ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't know what's expected in a relationship.
Q. Hi, What do I do if my boyfriend (Who is an adult.) was never been taught anything about woman/Being in a romantic relationship/ Has never had any experience in a relationship? Details: (Dating for 5 months, I'm his first relationship) My boyfrie...
A. 4 February 2020: Your boyfriend has a major issue with planning and this can be linked to several conditions on the autism spectrum or related to it: Autism, ADHD, Dyspraxia and Auditory Dyslexia.
I don't just mean planning big things like holidays or moving h... (read in full...)
No matter how much of an effort I put in, my husband looks at me like I'm am old dish rag
Q. I feel my husband is not attracted to me . He shows very little interest in me . I could walk around naked or in lingerie and he wouldn’t bat an eyelid but with other younger women who he clearly finds attractive he definitely pays attention . If we ...
A. 30 January 2020: Is it worth asking yourself whether, by staying pre-occupied with what your husband does NOT seem to value in you, you have found a very effective way of distracting yourself from the fear, possible guilt and possible shame of going for what you ... (read in full...)
My husband says he's too special for me and too special to go to counselling
Q. Hi and thank you I have been married almost 10 years. First 5 were good then it started going downhill, especially this last year. My husband can be very mean to me. Calls me stupid, idiot, dumb, b****, bast***. I think he calls me a ...
A. 30 January 2020: I strongly suggest you research 'Narcissistic Personality Disorder' online.
But, before you do that, leave, leave, leave and never look back.... (read in full...)
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