Do I need hymen removal surgery after so many years of being a virgin?
Q. I am 38 years old and I am virgin. I have a boyfriend (he doesn't know yet that I am virgin) and I want to make sex with him. I am afraid that after so many years my hymen has become very thick and the penetration will be extremely difficult. Do I ...
A. 30 November 2008: Your hymen does not get thicker with age and the chances are it may well have broken naturally anyway if your an active woman.
Your partner should be delighted to have met someone who so special :o)... (read in full...)
If anyone out there has any ideas or knows how to let go I would appreciate you sharing it with me.
Q. I have been married for 40 years and my husband passed away. Now I find myself in this relationship that is verbally abusive, I have no trust, he consistently lies to me, I let him walk all over me, I know this is wrong, it is not me to come across ...
A. 30 November 2008: I am so so sorry for the lose of your husband. Its good that you have recognised that this relationship is unhealthy, now we need to help you find the strength to leave, and thats what it takes - a huge amount of strength and will power. It... (read in full...)
I didn't enjoy my first time, although I do love her, what can I do?
Q. hi,i am feeling a little embaressed abt sharing this problem..well,here it goes.last year it was my first time with my girlfriend but not hers,and while undergoing physical attachment i didnt feel,u knw wht i mean?but seriously i love my girlfrie...
A. 29 November 2008: Poor you, please don't feel worried. All the pressure is on the male to make things great - thinking back to when I first became sexually active I used to just lie there and wait for them to do all the work. I distinctly remember telling one chap... (read in full...)
Is it okay to just not be that bothered about sex?
Q. I'm a 26 year old woman, and I started having sexual relationships when I was sixteen. I've been in two or three serious long term relationships, and all have been loving, and relatively sucessful except for one thing. I'm really not that fussed a...
A. 29 November 2008: Wow! you are lucky to have so much in your life and to be so fufilled. I don't climax through sex regularly but with my current partner I could happily (and do) have sex several times a day, after almost 2 years together its still just about al... (read in full...)
How do I overcome this stupid feeling of hurt knowing that he watches porn?
Q. So some may think im over thinking and some may feel what i feel... but its just something that always seems to bug me here and there thought i'd see if i can get any advice or see what others think... my husband of 2 yrs watches occasional porn ...
A. 29 November 2008: Your confusion I think is that for us woman sex is linked to feelings whereas a man can 'get off' thinking about anyone but will only actually make love to his partner. It could be a trust thing? Have you thought of talking this over with a counsell... (read in full...)
I just had my hair cut and I HATE IT!!!
Q. Well... This probably will seem like a really dumb problem.. but I need help. It's not really a relationship question either, but I hope you can help anyways. About a week ago, I went and got a haircut, before I went in, my hair was down past my...
A. 29 November 2008: I agree with all the above but would add that it could be worth going back to the original salon. If you didn't ask them to cut it that short in the first place they should be happy to help rectify the problem, whilst they won't do extensions for ... (read in full...)
Do think this breaks all friendship rules - because my friend slept with him?
Q. About 7 months ago one of my good girl friends finished with a guy she’d been seeing, it was all very emotional and she was upset. That night we went to a friend’s party where after getting very drunk she found a rebound- good looking, one of the ...
A. 29 November 2008: I don't think it breaks relationship rules - lots of people meet their partners through friends although I don't think you guys will be going on cosy foursome dates! As petina1 suggests have a chat with your friend first and sound her out. I woul... (read in full...)
Two cheating people on a weekly basis for 8 months
Q. Hi, For the past 8 months I have been seeing this guy. He has a girlfriend far away with kids and I am engaged. We see each other on a weekly basis and go on vacations to amazing places all the time. Is it normal to have a pure sexual relationship ...
A. 29 November 2008: Are you happy with the relationship the way it is or are you secretly hoping he may well leave his gf and start a 'proper' relationship with you? How is your relationship with your fiancee? Setting aside any concern for his gf and your fiancee and... (read in full...)
Should I break up with my "imaginary boyfriend"???
Q. hey people, Basically, I was introduced to a guy at college, I thought he was cute but hey I think everyone got good looking friends. So anyway, we started to get to know each other and he WAS NOT my type of guy. I like the type of guy who is a dar...
A. 29 November 2008: If you 'break up' with imaginary bf is this guy going to start hassling you? Yes probably. If however you can hold your head up, look him in the eye and tell him politely and firmly that you are not interested then go for it. The pressure of keepi... (read in full...)
He likes to chat with other girls online and says I have nothing to worry about...????
Q. good evening I don't know how to say that and I know I am an understandable person but it really bothers me that my boyfriend likes to chat with other girls online and when I told him how do I feel about that, he assures me that there is ab...
A. 29 November 2008: You say that you've read their comments and jokes - what do they say? Is it purely jokey? Does he have equal amounts of male and female friends? I would feel uncomfortable with this in your shoes having met your bf online as well but you have to ... (read in full...)
Help...hot tempered girlfriend!
Q. My girlfriend is kinda hot tempered...she blews off for unwanted things..even if its her fault?? there is one time where she lied to me and blew off at me as though it was my mistake..but we did talk it over..my question is why.?? How can you blew ...
A. 27 November 2008: Some people are hot tempered especially if things build up inside them. Do you ask her (rationally) what the issue was after the event? What does she say?... (read in full...)
He wanted me to stick my finger up his bum! Why?
Q. my bf and i was having sex the other day when he wanted me to stick my finger up his bum, why did he want me to do this, he said he liked it mut my nails where to long, i was going to do it again last nite but he said no why did he want me to do it...
A. 27 November 2008: Men are creatures who like to experiment so he was maybe more in love with the idea rather than the reality. Talk to him! If he was keen on the idea it could be that the nails were too long so suggest cutting them. Must be short short for safety... (read in full...)
What do I say to my doctor?
Q. I need some advice, I am thinking about going to the doctors because I think I smell a bit down below and I have thought this for some time, I am a little embarrassed although I know they are used to sort of thing, I am not sure what to say to my ...
A. 27 November 2008: Ask to see a female GP when you book - trust me we are all used to it ;o) Do you just have a smell or do you have any discharge? Sometimes a smell can be caused by something as innocent as washing too well or sometimes it can be thrush or an inf... (read in full...)
Does a mouth ulcer indicate pregnancy?
Q. Hiya i have one question does having a Mouth ulcer mean a sign of being pregnent my friends just found out shes pregnent and she said she had a mouth ulcer just before she found out, I actually said to her that shes being stupid and thats not one ...
A. 27 November 2008: Having a mouth ulcer is not a sign of pregancy nor a symptom. If someone is run down they are susceptable to mouth ulcers sometimes but being pregnant is not a sign of it. Has your friend has a positive pregnancy test? Has she seen a healthca... (read in full...)
My husband had an affair with his sister in law. What should I do?
Q. HELP!!! I just found an email on my husband's account from his siter-in-law. It was refering to them having sex and loving each other. I asked my husband about it, and he told me everything. This affair went on before I was in the picture. We have ...
A. 27 November 2008: How 'easy' was it for you to 'find' this e mail?
I know I once found a box of photos and letters a partner had kept from exe's in his flat in a rather obvious place. I was not snooping but it was placed in such a position that I would have to ... (read in full...)
I am thinking about suggesting to her about maybe involving other men so she gets satisfied but how do I go about this.
Q. Let me start by saying I love my wife so much but we have a little problem. We have had 3 great children and as things happen my wife is larger down below. I only have a small penis just under 5 inches, now we know that is not enough in that d...
A. 27 November 2008: Ah my heart goes out to you.
Size for many people does not matter - I have never had an issue with size through sexual partners of varying sizes, only those that have been too large.
Is your wife unable to come through penetrative sex with you? Hav... (read in full...)
Should I keep on fighting or just stop being friends with them?
Q. i need help. so my friends are pretty much telling me we should go our seperate ways cuz i have a bf. they say i think boys are more important then themm but thats not even close to true and i always tell them that. so whenever i hang out with my ...
A. 27 November 2008: Honey you said it yourself, they are jealous of you.
Your friends always will be a constant so don't neglect them but make your own life and once they see that you are still you, regardless of boyfriends they will love you still for it.... (read in full...)
What is that maggoty smell down below!!!
Q. Hi, I need a bit of help!! (it's a bit embarrassing though. I am very healthy, I have a shower every day but I have a maggoty smell down below any idea what it could be?? thank you in advance xx...
A. 26 November 2008: Without knowing what a 'maggotty' smell is its a job to know :o) Could be a million and one things - most of them innocent but the best answer anyone can give is to go see your Doctor, you are entitled to ask for an appointment with a female Dr, ... (read in full...)
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