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*pplemac
writes:hey people,Basically, I was introduced to a guy at college, I thought he was cute but hey I think everyone got good looking friends. So anyway, we started to get to know each other and he WAS NOT my type of guy. I like the type of guy who is a dare devil and takes me on amazing adventures and shows me new things. This guy was b o r i n g liked to talk about the weather. Seriously, I felt nothing but realised he was feeling something, I could just tell, so I backed off, didn't want to lead him on. So he confronted me and I ended up telling him I have a boyfriend because he just wouldn't take a hint, (I don't have a boyfriend). He then asked personal questions and I just used my ex as an example and told the guy we're on and off. He then urged me to break up with my 'boyfriend' and wouldn't shut up about having feelings for me. Now my friends are telling me I'm over reacting by avoiding him at college and thinking he's a freaking leech becuase he still contacts me.Question..... I know it's wrong I lied and should have told him that I don't want anything, but then he would turn around and say there's nothing any way. Did I do the wrong thing? Shall I break up with my imaginary boyfriend? thank youuuu xx
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reader, applemac +, writes (29 November 2008):
applemac is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you guys so much, and no, i would never admit in life that i lied about being with some one so hed back off x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2008): He sounds like a potential stalker to me! I would keep my distance and stand my ground, even if it means keeping up the lie that you are involved with someone!
Right now, your main concern should be discouraging this "can't take no for an answer" guy! No means No! And this guy isn't getting the message! Be careful! I wouldn't worry about other guys hearing that you have a boyfriend. You need to get away from this guy before you think about what other guys think! Don't encourage him by agreeing to see him or talking on the phone. The slightest "kindness" will be interpreted as signs of mutual feelings from you!
If he pesists and you feel threatened, call authorities and get a restraining order!
please be careful and never admit that you made up the boyfriend. It could anger him, and things could get ugly!
Good Luck and again...Be Careful!
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reader, petina1  +, writes (29 November 2008):
 He sounds like he is not going to take no for an answer and if you really dont like him and you feel like he's stalking you or something, you need to speak to someone at your college, personel or human resources to help you. It really is none of his business whether you have a boyfriend or not. If you've told him you arent interested in him then that should be enough. hope this helps.
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reader, Kathh +, writes (29 November 2008):
 If you 'break up' with imaginary bf is this guy going to start hassling you? Yes probably. If however you can hold your head up, look him in the eye and tell him politely and firmly that you are not interested then go for it.The pressure of keeping this imaginary relationship going may start to take its toll on you, also their could be a gorgeous man out there who hasn't made his move because he's heard your in a relationship!Also this other guy may keep hassling you unless you are straight with him - i.e. telling him your not interested, because he thinks there is still a chance.....
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