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I didn't mean to make him cum!

Q.   I stayed at my mom's friends house, while my parents left town. Her son, whom is 24, has always picked on me, and He was tackling me and tickling me on the bed, so I rolled over ontop of him, and started tickling him, he moaned my name after a few ...

A.   13 September 2008: Haha yea he's more offended by the fact that you panicked and walked out at that vulnerable moment for him than the actual cumming. It's clear that he has a huge crush on you. I'm not sure how you feel about him but at this point should tell him ... (read in full...)

How do I tell my wife I don't want her to get a boob job?

Q.   My wife wants a boob job. She really thought bigger is better. I don't like the idea, because they look so fake. How can I tell her I dont want her to get a boob job?...

A.   13 September 2008: Let her know about it. For most guys nice looking fake boobs are a big turn on...for the first 2-3 minutes. Then we start to realize the flaws and how unnatural they are and realize what a big turn-off it is. Take some time and politely and calm... (read in full...)

What am I doing wrong that I can't get a girlfriend?

Q.   Hi... I'm 20 almost 21 and and I have never had any girlfriend, nor have I kissed, hugged, touched hands... etc, etc... And it's driving me insane!... when i see the couples on the park i just turn around... I'm on med school, I speak 5 langua...

A.   12 September 2008: I've been in your situation before. As much as I hate to say it because you might take offense, it's pretty simple. You're afraid. You're afraid of putting yourself out there. You're afraid of being rejected or getting hurt. Lack of confidence is ... (read in full...)

Have I seen too much porn? I can't get hard enough when fooling around with my girlfriend!

Q.   Hmm, where to start. I've been looking at porn since I was like 13 or 14. Just do it like every day out of boredom, ya know? Well, anyway it has fucked with libido. I'm 18 now, and I can't get my dick to go full mast when my girl and I are ...

A.   12 September 2008: I've been to that point before. You've conditioned yourself to liking it more. You have become used to the variation and thrill and convenience you get from watching porn on the internet that regular positions with your girl just don't cut it ... (read in full...)

Where can I meet a potential date? I dislike clubbing, and joining a club is not a good idea as all my interests are mainly "girly".

Q.   I need some ideas of where I could meet some guys and hopefully one turn into a bf. Im not into the whole clubbing scene, and besides most people who do that typicall only want one night stands. So that is out of the question. My work is mainly a...

A.   12 September 2008: Clubs and bars are the last place you should look to meet someone you're considering a long term relationship with. A lot of my friends, and even me at some points, go out to clubs to get wasted, flirt around, get out grind on and if we're lucky ... (read in full...)

I didn't mean to make him cum!

Q.   I stayed at my mom's friends house, while my parents left town. Her son, whom is 24, has always picked on me, and He was tackling me and tickling me on the bed, so I rolled over ontop of him, and started tickling him, he moaned my name after a few ...

A.   12 September 2008: I can see why the fact that you panicked and left the room has probably made him embarrassed and probably mad. The fact that he was so easily pleased by you shows that he has a huge attraction for you. Give him some space and time. Make him ... (read in full...)

He started having sex with his ex and then stopped....can he be trusted?

Q.   my boyfriend and i had been together for about ten months when he was at work and his ex was meeting him there to drop the kids off with him. he went over to her truck to get his daughters backpack and she was playing with herself. he stopped to ...

A.   12 September 2008: How did you find out about it? How long after it happened did you come to know about it? If he told you about it on the spot you should at least give him credit about it. If he told you about it months later or, in the worst case you found out about ... (read in full...)

Why do women find "bad boys" so attractive?

Q.   This is a question aimed at women (however, men are just as welcome to reply) Why do girls choose the bad boys? I mean why do you pick those that treat you like shit and play/cheat on you then those that respect and are honest to you? One th...

A.   12 September 2008: In my opinion it's a matter of confidence. From experience I would think girls are attracted to the confidence and not the fact that he is wearing a headband or he has tattoos or acts all hood and gansta', but I can't know specifically, I'm not a ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend seems to tell me everything... and I mean everything!

Q.   When my boyfriend and I were first going out, he told me A LOT of personal stuff about himself like how he had an HIV test (results were NEGATIVE) and he had a stuttering problem sometimes and he had two things on his testicles that he was going to ...

A.   12 September 2008: You're looking at it the wrong way. It only shows that he trusts you enough to let you know. It shows that he considers you closer than even his best friends since guys pretty much never tell them about that kinda stuff. If you're stressed ... (read in full...)

Is he flirting with me, or just making conversation?

Q.   An older guy that I me through work has made statements like " we can have any relationship we want " and " I'm 44...you're 34 .....we are on the same wavelength ..". Is he purely interested , or only flirting? Don't want to read the signals ...

A.   12 September 2008: He's definitely flirting. At this point he's testing you by doing light harmless flirts to see how you react, mostly not expecting much back and to see if you're interested in him or not. As a guy I've done this before and so have my guy friends it ... (read in full...)

Internet relationship - she cheated on me and the pain is just getting worse... Should I do the same to her?

Q.   My online girlfriend who lives 2000 miles away had a one night stand at a party with some random dude the second week of us knowing each other. What hurt the most was that she was talking to me that night on msn too, while at the party, and pretty ...

A.   12 September 2008: She'll be staying for 3 days. I'm confident it will go well. I talked to her about the whole situation telling her precisely how I felt. She told me she is really sorry about what she did and it pains her to know how much it hurt me. She wishes s... (read in full...)

Internet relationship - she cheated on me and the pain is just getting worse... Should I do the same to her?

Q.   My online girlfriend who lives 2000 miles away had a one night stand at a party with some random dude the second week of us knowing each other. What hurt the most was that she was talking to me that night on msn too, while at the party, and pretty ...

A.   11 September 2008: Thanks for the advice and quick responses guys, The thing is she doesn't want to break it off. She's willing to do anything to make it work, as far as taking pics of everywhere she goes so I don't start doubting. I'm the one who has been initiati... (read in full...)

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