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Confusion after Blind date

Q.   The other night i had a great blind date. There was lots of laughter and chatting, the body language good, her pupils dilated and lots of hair touching.She even talked about what to do ' Next Time' and stayed longer than she planned, as we was ...

A.   10 April 2011: Thanks for the advise folks. I will just try to move on. Normally, I wouldn't follow up so quickly but I thought the signs were good. The ref to ' Next time' I thought was the green light. Maybe she thought the follow up was needy I guess if a g... (read in full...)

I want to leave my husband over his constant complaining!

Q.   My husband always puts down me and my three children (teenagers). I remarried 3 years ago and my teenage stepson moved in with us one year ago. My husband is always complaining that I hardly do anything around the house. If everything is caught up ...

A.   19 August 2008: Hi Sounds like controlling behaviour to me. I suffered similar behaviour from my g\F. She was never violent but posters on here made me realize this was emotional abuse. Always criticizing, micro managing me in the house and put downs, very subt... (read in full...)

I am irritated with my girlfriend because of her flaws, what should I do?

Q.   I have a big problem. My girlfriend is lovely and everything but there are some things I don't like about her. I know this myght sound like bitching but most of the time she doesn't keep up her promise: she tries hard and everything but s...

A.   12 August 2008: And you don't have any flaws do you ?... (read in full...)

How do you spot an abuser? What are the signs?

Q.   I know a lot about abusive guys and how to spot one. I'm wondering if cussing at a girl is a sign of an abuser? Like have any guys out there called your girlfriend a "f***ing bitch"? But would never ever hit her? My boyfriend and I had a fight toni...

A.   27 June 2008: Abuse come in different forms. It's not always about men physically beating women up. My ex g\f was a control freak in the house. She would criticise how i folded towels, washed up, the way i prepared food etc etc. Then she started on my clothes and ... (read in full...)

Is this abusive behavior. I feel useless !

Q.   After a wonderful one year relationship i moved in with my girlfriend. Now it seems i can't do anything right. She criticizes me for the littlest things like how i fold the bathroom towels, the way i wash up and dry, how i make the bed, where i ...

A.   19 June 2008: Thanks everyone happytochat..your words were spot on and made me stronger..thanks so much. The bottom line is that she in a CONTROL FREAK Interestingly, before me all her relatonships lasted 4-6 months..what does that tell you? She also starts ... (read in full...)

Long-distance BF seems to be pushing me away!

Q.   I am feeling a bit confused right now regarding my boyfriend, who I am in a long distance relationship with, and his feelings for me. He has been very preoccupied and busy with work lately, but I keep thinking he is making excuses not to spend time ...

A.   7 June 2008: Hi It sounds like it is him who not making the effort, not you !BACK OFF, stop chasing! and see how he reacts. I don't mean be nasty or anything just pull away slowly & don't call him for a while. be warned, you will need nerves of steel to do this... (read in full...)

My bf of 2 yrs wants a break - to date other women! Help!

Q.   My boyfriend of almost 2 years is requesting a break, but we're in an awkward situation because we live together and I just started a full time job (there is no way I could live on my own right now). He's not gonna kick me out or anything. We're ...

A.   5 May 2008: Call his bluff. Say " you know something, I've been thinking and I think you might be right. I'd quite like to date other guys too" Be calm, firm & not emotional when you say this. Turn the tables and take his power away. You will have to be strong ... (read in full...)

Do ex's ever come back? What's your experience of this?

Q.   I was just wondering are there any successfull stories out there in which an ex came back after leaving because of arguments all time. ...

A.   22 April 2008: My g/f of 2 yrs dumped me one day totally out of the blue. I was gobsmacked. Only a month earlier we had been away on a wonderful holiday and had amazing time.She needed break and although she didnt want anyone else, she didn't want me ... (read in full...)

How can I re-kindle love?

Q.   I still have feelings for my ex. I call him sometimes and sometimes he calls me. I recently told him that I wanted to see him and he agreed. When I went to see him he acted like it was the first time he had seen me. He stared at me and when I looked ...

A.   18 April 2008: I would wait a week or so and then txt saying something like " hi, fancy doing lunch again " keep it simple. Don't mention how you really enjoyed lunch last time. Keep it slow from there on in. Be upbeat, happy but not desperate when you meet.... (read in full...)

How can I re-kindle love?

Q.   I still have feelings for my ex. I call him sometimes and sometimes he calls me. I recently told him that I wanted to see him and he agreed. When I went to see him he acted like it was the first time he had seen me. He stared at me and when I looked ...

A.   18 April 2008: It depends, who ended the relationship and why? how long have you been apart?... (read in full...)

How can I re-kindle love?

Q.   I still have feelings for my ex. I call him sometimes and sometimes he calls me. I recently told him that I wanted to see him and he agreed. When I went to see him he acted like it was the first time he had seen me. He stared at me and when I looked ...

A.   18 April 2008: Hi,It all depends..who ended the relationship and why? How long have you been apart?... (read in full...)

When would be a good time to ask her out for a drink?

Q.   My ex broke up with me two weeks ago, after trying to rekindle our relationship for a month. It felt very pressured the whole time and she eventually broke it off. So, its been two weeks, she's contacted me once to "see how I am" but said she still ...

A.   7 March 2008: Back Off COMPLETELY....No calls, texts, emails,drunken calls etc NOTHING...It will kill you but you have to hold your nerve. Show her that you are not waiting for her, let her wonder what you are upto. You need to let her miss you. This may stir... (read in full...)

My gf decided she 'couldn't be responsible for my happiness' now we are apart and I am gutted. What can I do??

Q.   After my girlfriends mother passed away after a long illness my girlfriend starting pulling away from me and shutting me out. She said that she couldn't be responsible for my feelings\happiness and preferred to hang out with her friends as she didnt ...

A.   8 March 2006: Thanks Juliagulia, Willywombat..v.good advice. I totally understand the situation a bit better now as before as i was taking the rejection personally. It was tough as I had become invisible to her and I suppose i was feeling rejected whilst she was ... (read in full...)

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