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writes:My ex broke up with me two weeks ago, after trying to rekindle our relationship for a month. It felt very pressured the whole time and she eventually broke it off. So, its been two weeks, she's contacted me once to "see how I am" but said she still felt she'd made the right decision "at the moment". That was last weekend, I want to ask her out for a drink or something this weekend, but would I be better to wait til next week or something? Im concerned on the timing of asking because I want her to come because she misses me etc, so leaving it longer might be better. But if I leave it too long, it may be too late?Help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2008): i am a bit confused - do you want to ask her out for a drink in the hopes of getting her back? or do you just want to stay friends with her? if it is the latter, then give it a bit of time so that the 2 of you can heal a bit before you try the friendship thing!
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reader, greenman +, writes (7 March 2008):
Back Off COMPLETELY....No calls, texts, emails,drunken calls etc NOTHING...It will kill you but you have to hold your nerve. Show her that you are not waiting for her, let her wonder what you are upto. You need to let her miss you.
This may stir her curiosity.There is no guarantee but it's your only hope. Don't worry about 'leaving it too long' as the balls not in your court anymore
If you bump into her then be upbeat, friendly (but not to much into her)Don't show neediness and dont mention your relationship.Make sure you end the chat first & cheerily say 'goodbye, see you around'. If she doesn't come back you will know and if she does then great. Like i say, you will suffer during this period but getting on with your life is the best option you have.
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