My confidence is shot, I know I'm better off but I want him to realise it.
Q. My ex of 8 years dumped me 4 months ago, he was and still is an alcoholic and takes heroin and crack and blues and pregabs plus antidepressants ( bought of the streets) I tried helping him and loved him so much , in the past year before the break up ...
A. 29 April 2018: Hi -- I feel really bad for you too, and a lot of the emotion that seems to be coming off the page unfortunately feels very familiar to me. I think the crux of what seems so upsetting about your description is that you don't seem to FULLY see how... (read in full...)
Why do I feel I have to supress my emotions when in a relationship?
Q. I don't know how to be in a relationship. When I get excited about someone, I drive them away. The pattern is always I show too much interest (in a happy, excited way, from my perspective), they pull away, and then because they pull away, I start to ...
A. 29 April 2018: I had an epiphany a few years ago that has helped me and maybe you too: Even if you and the person you're dating really like each other, something really important is going on, especially in later weeks or months: It's a big deal to spend ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to brush aside red flags?
Q. So almost 24 and have never dated or been approached or even remotely shown interest in by any guy. And that's fine. I've never really been into the idea of relationships and never felt like I needed to be in one to be happy. I'm very content in my ...
A. 29 April 2018: Hi -- I wish you well in this situation! One detail jumped out at me: "drift into the right hand lane a little." That's sort of a big deal, right? It sounds like he was drinking? It seems OK for another driver to comment if he's crossing into an... (read in full...)
If I make him feel better why did he inbox his ex?
Q. Is my boyfriend being genuine about his feelings? The other day, my boyfriend was a little sick, not dying sick, but sick. I went to the hospital with him and he made a post on Facebook posting a picture of his hospital band and captioned it say...
A. 29 April 2018: Seven months is pretty long! And it doesn't sound casual if you're taking him to the hospital and he says he loves you. (I'm assuming you say it back!) I think you need to ask him point blank -- it doesn't have to be aggressive or angry (or maybe ... (read in full...)
I thought we were friends but he blocked me.
Q. I had met this guy 2 years ago. He came up to me at school and asked me if I wanted to study the bible. He was with a group of friends. So I Said yes.at that time he was our campus minister for the young adults In out church. And for the longest ...
A. 29 April 2018: Social media is a new invention and it's pretty weird. As you just described, a person can show friendship literally by clicking/touching "like" or "follow" and then potentially dissolve a friendship by pressing another button. It may be norm... (read in full...)
We are both too shy to say hi to each other?
Q. There's this guy that I like and I know he likes me back because he always walks past me and a bunch of other signs over afew weeks, explaining these will defeat the purpose of the question. The main question is we are both too shy to talk to each ...
A. 29 April 2018: I think this feels like a big deal because of your age -- and I don't mean because you're innocent or naive or irrational or anything negative, but that it's simply a numbers issue. You haven't had enough years to rack up enough experiences like... (read in full...)
Is my time to get pregnat running out?
Q. Can I have children later on in life? Hello aunts I am turning 32 this year and I have no boyfriend and no prospects. I believe I would like to have children but I always fear time is running out. Honestly I HAVE tried everything in the dating ...
A. 29 April 2018: 32 is young. Don't worry. Plenty of women over 40 have babies -- not all do but many. And over 33, 34, 35, etc., even more.
So you're surrounded by panicked friends and a negative mother. It's natural you're scared. Even without that, it's str... (read in full...)
I don't know if I can indulge his BDSM fantasies
Q. So I am engaged and both my fiance an I want to experience our fantasies, but I am not sure if I can commit to doing his. Mine is a foursome with him and two other girls, I am Bisexual so I am okay with mine, but his is BDSM an I don't know if ...
A. 29 April 2018: That's OK! Just because it's a "fantasy" doesn't mean it's a good thing to do, for you or for him.
People can call anything a fantasy; that doesn't make it immediately: safe, fun, psychologically uplifting, not painful.
It's just a want, a d... (read in full...)
What does meeting a soulmate feel like? It that what this is?
Q. So this may be a bit out there, but here goes... A few weeks ago I was introduced to a guy by a friend who had been talking this guy up to me for months. I was crazy anxious about the whole thing, because I don't like having attention put on me li...
A. 29 April 2018: Hi there -- I think that's pretty cool to experience and it certainly might be an indicator that you and he are right for SOMETHING... but you don't yet know what it is. A nice next date? A nice next date but won't really like each other the third ... (read in full...)
Should I be thankful for the little I've got?
Q. Yes, mod, I’m 17. The only person I can talk to about my depression and anxiety is my boyfriend but I’m stuck in a polygamous relationship with him and his girlfriend. However, I love him and I’m getting tired of sharing him. I just want his body ...
A. 29 April 2018: Hi there --
I think it's natural for people to need other people. That's OK--natural, normal, it makes life a lot easier when you have close bonds with other people. And most people--I'd say this is evolutionary, genetic--gravitate, even in their... (read in full...)
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