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writes:Hey would like to know how old were you when you lost your virginity and also did you tell your parents about it or not till later? How were you sure it was the right person? Reply to this Question
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reader, QuartzKitty  +, writes (27 November 2010):
I was 13 at the time. The guy was a 25 year old I was majorly in lust with. I came on to him over several weeks, giving him oral sex a number of times, and we eventually had sex on his couch and bed. I wanted the guy, and was determined that he would be my first. NO regrets about it at all.
I did tell my mother about it, but not until years later. She was upset at first, but once I made it clear that I wasn't taken advantage of, that I wanted to have sex and was ready, she accepted it. Didn't LIKE it, but dealt with it.
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reader, coltsgirl101 +, writes (10 January 2010):
I was 15 when I lost my virginity to my brothers best friend who is eight years older than I am. He is also my neighbor and my family just loves him to pieces so there was/is never any question or concern or even thought about it. We still continue to have a sexual relations from time to time. I was recently in a relationship where my mom suggested birth control and I flat out told her no. That relationship didn't last long and I'm currently in a new one and it's going great. It hasn't been a month yet so my parent's aren't really talking yet. I still don't know if I should tell them or not. I've been thinking about it lately. I think I will just talk to my mom about birth control anyways. I hate the thought of it but I know it's the best thing...considering i've had mulitiple pregnancy scares.
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reader, Ianswerthings +, writes (16 September 2009):
I was 13 with my friends mom which was the biggest mistake of my life at the time i loved it did her lots of time.But it lead me down a path of sin ask me how well i got cocky thought if i could please someone 30 yrs old.That HS girls was nothin which was true but still made my life alot worse wish i waited until i found someone i loved!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): I lost it when I was 15 to my ex. Party+booze+
Sexually rampant teenagers usually equals a bit of a...
Casual shag? I was off my face- screaming at him,
I punched him, actually... amusing now, really lol.
We done it 5 times- all without a condom. Cos
We were oh-so-clever.and no- I never told my parents.
They never asked- so why bother going into
All the dirty details? Would you want to know about YOUR
Son or daughters first moments of.. Fuck?
Do regret it- I hated that bastard.
Hope I helped in some sort of wierd way.
Xxxxx
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reader, stephenf +, writes (7 April 2009):
It all depends on what you think sex is, and what it's for, doesn't it? If it's basically just another fun physical activity in which you can engage with this person or that one, as long as everybody's consenting and nobody gets hurt, well then, why not get after it as early as you think you're "ready" for it? I mean, in that construction, "virgin" is a term of derision--and you probably know exactly what I mean.On the other hand, if you think it ought to be something as special and exclusive as possible--with the best scenario being that it's for only that one person you'll spend the rest of your life with--then I guess there's a different answer to what this whole "virginity" thing is.
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reader, Mushgirl +, writes (23 September 2008):
 I lost mine at 17 in the back of my (at the time) boyfriend's van. We are still great friends and mean to get back together when the timing's better, and I don't regret it at all. I don't see virginity as a huge issue - if you lose it to someone you love, that's great, but if I hadn't, I don't think I'd be hugely gutted. Just vaguely pissed off.
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reader, ChaseTerrier +, writes (20 September 2008):
13 years old to my 2nd cousin. We had sex about 10 more times after that but we do not have sex anymore.
At times I regret having sex with her and other times, I enjoy thinking about how close we were that we could experiment with each other (kinda like playing doctors for teens).
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (17 May 2008):
 I was 18, which I think is a good age.
I had been with this guy for 2 months, so to wait is important, to be sure he is not just after sex only. Needs to be a nice relationship. We went out for 6 months.
No way, I couldn't tell my parents LOL. Although she knew! She suspected on the first date and I said "God NO, Mum, it's far to soon for anything like that!!" LOL
Parents just know, they know you have the opportunities, but no, I didn't feel able so say "Mum, I ...... last night"
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2008): I was 14 yars old, about to be 15. I tried to make it like a movie scene and he noticed. He didnt pressure me. He said if it was supposed to happen it would happen on its own. and it did. No regrets. I loved him and he loved me. Funny thing is we're just friends...My mom doesn't know and even though she says when I'm ready to have sex tell her, I'm too scared. I have to find the right time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2007): i was 15 and still am.the girl was 17 and i was home alone like 2 weeks ago and she came over and thats when got a little horny and we started to make out and then clothes started to come off next thing i knew that we were naked and i was making love to the women of my life.don't regret at all
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2007): i totally regret losing my virginity i was 16 and still am 16 it was def. with the wrong guy since now he wont even talk to me and i hope my parent dont find out
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reader, daletom +, writes (22 December 2007):
My wife and I were both 23 when we exchanged virginity (I gave her mine and received hers in return) on our wedding night. It was some of the worst sex I ever had - and extraordinarily meaningful, and special, to both of us.I don't know if our parents suspected us of having sex before then or not. They certainly knew we had the opportunities to do so. I guess she was the right person - we're still together after 33 years.You can read about my own first time in the thread "I'm a virgin and worried about my wedding night..." here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-a-virgin-and-worried-about-my-wedding.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): 24, with a prostitute.
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reader, Bee92 +, writes (12 December 2007):
I wos 15.. and still am 15, 16 in 3 months.
And still with the same boy.. Been together nearly 2 years.
Yeah my mum asked me the next day lol.
My dad would hurt my Boyfriend if he knew lol! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2007): I was 14.
And i had sex with a guy that i had just met that day.
He knew about my past with the guys i liked and thought he could get something from me which he did. Hes 17. And i kinda regret it cuase i thought that i was going to get preg. because the condom got "loose." But thank god i wasn't preg. But i dont regret it as much though. And no my mom doesnt know. If she did id be dead by now.
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reader, alwaystuck85 +, writes (11 December 2007):
i was almost 14 and i ws going through alot of things with my parents and so i was with my bff brother who was 7 years older than me and we were toghther on and off for 3 years but now that i'm older i see how bad that really was i would never be with a child that much younger than me so yeah i just didn't care and i wanted to get it over with it only lasted like one second but i really didn't care at that timeand boy if i could turn back time wow i'd be really busy with myself lol and i didn't tell my mom she walked in really bad moment well maybe it should have been the first time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007): I was 15 wen i lost it. i didnt need to tell my mum, she worked it out for herself. no i dont regret it one bit i love my boyfriend to bits, been goin out 7 months =D xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007): I was 17 when I lost my virginity, dont regret it at all, i'm still with the same person. I think my mother probably knew they r not stupid they were all young and in the same situation once.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007): I was 14, she was 21. Didnt regret it then dont regret it now.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (3 December 2007):
 Rockin' my husbands world since 1973! We we 18 and 19. By the way, most parents will have figured it out whether you have told them or not...
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): 18
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): I was 15 and thought I was in love, as most girls at that age do. I do not regret it. We dated 4 years. Your first time can make it or break it as to whether or not us like sex. Make him perform oral first. This is not like old times, be sexually liberal and enjoy! (obviously do not be sleezy)...If you lose your virginity now, it will probably not be to your husband, just remember that!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): i was 17. and i regretted it.
it was a random guy i picked up in a club. we got bak to mine and it was awful. he couldnt give a shit about me it was all about him gettin off. yuk.
biggest regret ever!!
lol
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reader, vodka-tearz +, writes (1 December 2007):
 I was 14, my parents aren't aware. What's the point in worrying about this babe? Go for it, be spontaneous, I don't see why people regret it. I definately didn't. Be aware that if he's not a virgin, it might not be such a good idea. Also if you know he's slept around, it might not be the right person to have sex with. You may find yourself heartbroken, no matter how much he convinces you that you won't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all your replies i was jsut curious as i'm thinking about losing mine soon and just wanted to see other peoples views and experinces. Didn't think that many people would reply back though lol lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007): I was 16. No it wasnt with the right person, i wish it was with the person i am with now, my lovely husband, but hey that is life. Never lose it too young, or you will always regret it. Your parents dont need to know, why tell them?
take carexx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007): i was 18
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reader, Jez_hits  +, writes (30 November 2007):
 okay, well i was nearly 14 when i did and i regret it heaps as he was the wrong guy, but i didnt realise that at the time!after that i didnt go with any one else until last year and my parents know about that! but in some ways it is good that you tell them then any one else, but it really is up to you, do what you think is right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2007): I had sex with my first love when I was 17. We stayed together for 9 years and have recently broken up. I didnt tell my parents but my mother figured out. We were together just under a year before we officially made love. Ended up having three children together.
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reader, Ileana +, writes (29 November 2007):
 I was 15 had been with the guy unseriously since i was 12 and were still together now at 17, i dont regret it one bit.
I love him to bits, only thing a little sad. Im now 6 months pregnant at 17 =( but i wouldnt change it.
Love
Ileana
xxxx
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reader, NewMod +, writes (29 November 2007):
I lost my virginity at the ripe old age of 21. I was straight-edge through high school and college, meaning I didn't drink, I didn't smoke, I didn't do drugs and I didn't have sex. I didn't really miss not doing any of those things at the time, but I regret being so uptight as a young-person now. Still, it's surprising to hear that people were drinking and having sex at 14 and 15 (that's not judgement, that's me being sheltered)!
Despite my old age, my first-time wasn't the right person. Go figure.
My overly suspicious parents probably assumed I was having sex from the time I was 15 or 16 onwards. Regardless, I didn't tell them, nor do I discuss any sexual or relationship issues with them.
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reader, jm81690 +, writes (29 November 2007):
 I was 17, I was loaded drunk, and got lured into a bedroom by a girl I find repulsive to say the least.
Needless to say I didn't tell my folks.
I don't really regret it though, I really didn't think, and still don' that virginity is some special gift or any of that, sex wasn't the life changing expreience I thought it would be.
I woke up the next morning, went about my day as usual, that was about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2007): Mine was at 14, I dont regret the person I did it with, But I did regret that I did it far too young.
I wasn't ready mentally, even though I thought I was all grown up I didn't even know what to do!!.
It was a nightmare!, we split the condom and I was convinced I was pregnant, lukily for me I wasn't. LUCKY ESCAPE!!. thats what happens when your not ready.
Just make sure that if your considering doing it young, that you listen to all the advice offered on here!!.
its enough to put anyone off the idea!.
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reader, Gemini1506 +, writes (29 November 2007):
14 and i wish i held out a bit longer
and for the right person
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (29 November 2007):
 I was nineteen and had left home about three weeks before that, so that was basically my first opportunity to have sex. No, it wasn't the right person. In fact, I never even told her it was my first time, even though we ended up dating for a month. I just wanted to get it over with, and I did, and I don't regret it.
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (29 November 2007):
 ok mines bad...i was 14 :S and it was the wrong guy and my parents do not know and they never will....just the way it goes really it was a huge mistake...
why do u ask?
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reader, Abacadaba +, writes (29 November 2007):
 14, guess it what happens when your around sexually active people while getting drunk. Wish i didnt lose it then but hey, nothing i can do about that now.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (29 November 2007):
 I was 19 when I lost mine. I had waited for a long time because I finally figured out that none of the dipwads in high school were worth my virginity. then it became kind of my "thing". I was the elusive virgin. Being a virgin made me more popular than any of the trampy girls in my school...
Anyhow, I moved across the country and met a great guy. It felt right... he didn't push me, he was great, he made me comfortable and I never pushed myself into anything. Things sort of just happened naturally. I'm still with him, two and a half years later and I don't regret my decision for a second. I'm so glad I didn't sleep with those idiots from high school. They weren't worthy.
My Mom, well, she probably assumed I was having sex when I wasn't. But she officially found out when I made her come to the doctor with me (I had a bad fever) and then the doctor asked "are you on any kind of medication... birth control?".
I was busted. So then my Mom knew, but she was just happy that I was being safe about it (and when I told her I had only been with one fella, she was extra pleased).
There you go, that's my story. Hope you have a happy one too, sweetness.
xxIndia
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2007): 16. And no, she was far from it. The last time I saw her she was jumping into a taxi with about 4 Dutch matelots.
Phil
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2007): My parents were absolutely the last people on this earth who would have found out about my virginity status. Just the way it was in my era, I suppose. And frankly, they didn't want to know. lol And no, it was not with the right person.
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reader, girlwhoneedshelp +, writes (29 November 2007):
 I was 17 when I lost my virginity. I'm 18 now and I'm still with the boy I lost mine too. Luckily enough for me he was a virgin too which made the experience much better for the both of us as we learned together. I didn't tell my mum that I was going to lose my virginity, she sort of sensed it and made a point of taking my dad out for the night so that I had the place to myself. I was on the pill anyway for heavy periods so I was safe enough and responsible enough to go ahead with it. To be honest when people say "you just know when it's right" it's exactly like that. I had known of my boyfriend for a year before I even started speaking to him and we dated for 2 months then started going out properly. Four weeks into our relationship we took the next step and I don't regret it at all. I'm still with him a year and a half later and I love him more than I did then so there's a big possibility he is the right person for me :)
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (29 November 2007):
 I was only 16 and have always regretted not waiting longer. I had those raging hormones, you know? The boy I lost it to was a wonderful human being and I am still in touch with him occasionally so I dont regret who it was with in that sence. But it wasnt true love and it didnt last that long. I wish I had waited.
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (29 November 2007):
I was only 16 and have always regretted not waiting longer. I had those raging hormones, you know? The boy I lost it to was a wonderful human being and I am still in touch with him occasionally so I dont regret who it was with in that sence. But it wasnt true love and it didnt last that long. I wish I had waited.
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