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writes:1 am 30 years man . I am married with good wife of 28..we have no child... we consulted a doctor , there is some problem in my wife , so there is no chance of child .. my wife has one sister of age 23 ,my wife ask me marry her , whether i can marriage her legally Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2010): its not legal in india. if you are muslim then you are under muslim law. for hindus this is illegal. please don't make a mistake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2010): I think the most important thing is to be happy with your wife, not to have a child. There are too many children in the world as it is. If you love your wife stay with her and be happy. If you both really want children there are many options to explore such as adoption, IVF and surrogates. But you have to want each other first and be happy that way before children enter the picture.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2010): may be your wife is feeling guilty about it.talk to her. adopt a child.
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reader, faenon  +, writes (25 December 2010):
 In this day and age why do people still have such short sightedness. Ok so your wife is infertile talk with your wife on the options of IVF (even if the sister agrees to be a surrogate for you both) or even adoption. Talk the options out with your wife before just jumping onto another ship mate.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (25 December 2010):
 You do not need to marry someone else. Do you love your wife? Do you have any feelings for her sister? If you love your wife, all else should be irrelevant. There are a multitude of options. We live in a modern age where absolutely nothing is ever truly impossible, especially letting two people have a child. Explore those options, the ones everyone has already listed below. Keep treating this marriage as something sacred, as it should be.
I hope that helps.
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reader, cheerwhore23  +, writes (24 December 2010):
My dad was in the same situation as you... And he did end up marrying his wifes sister.. Who is now my mom. My aunt(dads first wife) still lives with us.. I call her mama and I treat her like a mom. She is very happy with the choice she made and we are all very happy
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (24 December 2010):
if it is ok with your wife
and it is legal where you live
and you sister in law (wife to be) have feelings for you and love you
GO FOR IT !
you re such a lucky guy
infact i wish i were you :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2010): Explore the medical options of having a child with your wife first.
If she's infertile then another persons egg can be fertilized with her genes and you can have a child with her that way. If it is a case of her uterus not being able to carry a child then maybe her sister could be a surrogate.
There is no such thing as not being able to have children anymore, if you can raise the money to get the proper fertility treatment for each case.
We can now even splice your genes and your wife's genes into creating an embryo even if neither of you were fertile.
Some of these procedures are very very expensive but they're worth exploring. You're wife is a good woman, there is no reason she shouldn't have her own child.
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reader, _nataliebeebaybee1 +, writes (24 December 2010):
 your wife is obviously caring about you in every way possible. She feels like she is going to cause you unhappiness in life. Could you not consider adoption or ivf with another egg. Could her sister carry the baby handing it over to you. That way the baby will look very similar to you both. I dont know much about this as im not a docter but those two things are deffo most considering xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2010): its simple...your wife loves you unconditionally..and puts your happiness before her own. Im an Indian, i iam familiar with such situations. But please forget about her sister and stay with your wife.
You can easily adopt a child. Its not really difficult in India. Adoption will grant your wife the happiness of motherhood and it will bring light in the life of some lillte child. So please seriously consider this option.
And never forget to pray, miracles do happen. Who knows your wife may concieve in future.
Considering your legal query, you can marry her sister but only after legally divorcing your wife. But please dont do this. Your wife loves you too much. Please dont leave her.
All the best and take care :)
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reader, Abella +, writes (24 December 2010):
 your wife must love you very very much to suggest such a pragmatic approach.
Maybe she is feeling at a complete loss since she cannot get pregnant. Sounds like she needs some caring support and reassurance that you do love her very much, despite her inability to have a child.
The last thing she needs is to be upset, and pressured, in a calm happy, supportive atmosphere, which can make life easier for all people.
Could you love your wife and stay with her, even if she could not give you a child?
Is adoption possible and accepted in your country, or is it frowned upon? Because adoption is another option if both of you could accept this option.
Would you and your wife be able to see a Doctor about treatments that would allow her to possibly get pregnant, such as IVF? (In-vitro-fertilization)
I know not what the cost is in your country, but I was wondering if some searching in your country might help you to locate some reputable firms who have experienced Doctors who deal with ''IVF and fertility research''. Maybe input those words ( IVF and fertility research) plus the name of the biggest cities you can think of in your country I know that in the West: In-vitro fertilisation (IVF)
can be exhausting, demoralising and expensive.
But it is an option, that results in a baby, a biological child of both parents, for many couples.
Good Wishes to you and your wife
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 December 2010):
 To me it sounds like your wife is a good woman, who is putting your happiness before hers. I think she is someone you should seriously consider keeping and forget about the sister.
Could adoption be an option? Someone who cares so much for others would make a great mom most likely.
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