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*ebeccaa
writes:Hello, i hope you can help. two years ago i started dating this boy who kept nagging me (i didnt like him and he was annoying at first) after a while i gave in and gave him a chance as a reslut of this i dumbly fell for him. it was a long year relationship, he cheated at least twice possibly more, he lied about near enough everything he flirted with every girl in sight! For a couple of months i persevered with this then i broke up with him he then cried and begged for me back stupid me took him back. This routine continued for a good five/six months, after i realised this could not carry on we broke up and havnt been together since. He found it hard and even attempted to sexually harras me. It seems like ages ago all this happened but acctually when i think about it its not that long agao, he is now bringing up things that happened in the realtionship and trying to flirt with me and making sexual comments towards me, he is also flirting with my friend she flirts back. Is this acceptable what should i do?
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (10 March 2011):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thankyou everyone else who has helped
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (10 March 2011):
 Tell your friend to be careful, because the only reason he is talking to her is to get information about you.
Ie. she may not be you but sh'e the closet thing to you he can get right now. It has nothing to do with her and everything to do with him trying to stay in your life anyway he can.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (10 March 2011):
 IN TOTAL AGREEMENT with ALL the previous comments!
and Hunnie...
That person who claims to be your friend and is flirting with him?
NOT your friend. Sorry. You might be able to hang with her, you might be in the same circle of friends; but she has proven to you that she isn't trustworthy and you need to believe that.
When people show you who they are; believe them the first time. - Maya Angelou
We all will have many different friends and acquaintances in our lives - you need to discriminate and make choices. She has shown her face; both of them, and you need to recognize that in her.
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reader, monacons  +, writes (10 March 2011):
Hunny dont go back, if it was so bad when you had been in a relationship with him dont put yourself threw that again. He seems like the type of guy who is all for him self and dose not care about anybody elses feelings including yours.. You will meet somebody better but not if you get back with him you have your hole future ahead dont leave him controll it !!!
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (9 March 2011):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou! I appreciate your help. I hope your right!
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (9 March 2011):
 To be blunt - this guy is scum.There are plenty of guys out there who will treat you a hundred times better than this guy did. Guys who will appreciate you, love you and most importantly treat you with respect. I think the other advisers are right enough, ignore his antics and he'll eventually leave you alone. He isn't worth your time or attention so I would strongly advise you not to give it to him, and certainly don't give in to his advances. You can do much better than him, so please give your attention to someone who deserves it.
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (9 March 2011):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou verry much!
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (9 March 2011):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou! I thought that but didnt know if i was right. Thankss
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reader, yomama65 +, writes (9 March 2011):
 Oh honey, this boy is not worth your time. I have found that if I follow my gut instinct about someone, most of the time I am right. You should have followed that little voice in your head that said, "I don't like this dude" right from the beginning. He sounds like a creep and a loser. I would just stop all interaction with him. Don't let him engage you with his sexual comments. Ignore him. Don't react because that's what he wants. But if he's threatening you, phyically or sexually, you may need to report him to the authorities (or your parents). He sounds like an abuser in the making. Stay away honey. You deserve MUCH better! Listen to your gut next time! :)Best to you!
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reader, dirtball +, writes (9 March 2011):
 No, it's not acceptable and you shouldn't tolerate it. Definitely don't get back with him. He's an ass. You're better off without him in your life. If you get back with him, history WILL repeat itself.
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reader, JDinCali +, writes (9 March 2011):
 The best way to stop unwanted attention is to completely ignore it. Things won't be as fun if you don't play along.
Advise your friend to stay away from him, because he craves negative attention, but don't try to force her away, let her make her own decision.
If you're told of gossip he's spreading then just act cool, roll your eyes, as if it's not big deal and say, "Whatever makes him feel better. I hope he gets over me soon."
If he continues to harasses you, then tell the authorities.
Hope things get better. Be safe!
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reader, audrey millicent  +, writes (9 March 2011):
 you can discuss this with a respected elder within your vicinity to talk to him if he still continues take your action.
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