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writes:I am a 28 year old guy. My fiance is 24. We are separated for a few days as I had to go on a work related trip (in my hotel room now) and she could not come with me because of her own responsibilities. When we were in bed the other night, I told her how much I was going to miss her and miss "it" as I needed her like this every night, and that tonight was going to have to tide me over for a few days. She was not mad at me or anything, at least I don't think so, but started to cry. I thought telling the woman you loved that your time was apart was essentially agony was a "good thing"?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2011): i agree with The Realist. find out if it were sad or happy tears. maybe you meant it like "i'm gonna mis making love to you" in an adoring way, and you could have touched her heart by saying that or she may feel guilty and hadn't expected you to say that. don't be upset. if you see her again and she is happy then nothing could be wrong.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (12 April 2011):
 Maybe she's just gonna miss you too, you can ask her if you hurt her feelings, I guess the worst case is that she felt like you guilttripped her, but I doubt that'll be her response.
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reader, Ima FreAk!  +, writes (12 April 2011):
 Hiyaaaaa,Awwww I think she is crying because your sooo sweet to her and romantic kinda thing and chicks like us totally dig that! And also your giving attention to her and cherishing her which is what comes back to being sweet and the whole crying business.She almost might be crying because she feels the same way as you do and misses you and its odd to not see you around everyday or those kisses, smiles, touch or even something sooo random like making a coffee but not for two kinda triggers the missing part. If she cries again you can cheer her up by saying that your gonna get her something and its a surprise or change the topic so that she wouldn't start crying again.Best advice is put your superman suit on and literally do your work at supersonic speed so you can go home and be with your fiancee :)!Hope my advice helps!Good luck!Lots of love,Ima FreAk!x
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (12 April 2011):
 Are you sure they were tears of sadness or could she be crying because she found what you said to be sweet? There are many different types of tears. My thoughts on this one would be that she was happy to hear you say how much you will miss her when you are gone. By "it" I am assuming you mean sex. Correct me if I am wrong. By the slightest chance if she was sad it may be because she interpreted what you said as you will miss the sex more than her. I'm sure that is not what you meant but that would be the case if she was sad. You may want to ask her if those were sad or happy tears.
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reader, DanceInTheDark +, writes (12 April 2011):
 Judging from what you said, I think she saw it as you saying that you're going to miss the sex, not her.
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reader, DrDivine +, writes (12 April 2011):
Perhaps her tears were simply tears of joy. Women are emotional creatures and sometimes ‘nice’ things set us off. Don’t let it worry you. Why not email her now and tell her how much you are looking forward to getting back to her :)
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reader, catcher00 +, writes (12 April 2011):
Maybe they were tears of sentiment? If she didn't seem angry, then she was prob just emotional and you uttering those words touched a soft spot in her heart.
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reader, wiseoldman +, writes (12 April 2011):
Women have odd ways of processing information, and make odd connections. For instance, if she asks if you like her blue dress better than her red dress, and you say you prefer the red, she may decide that since she knows the blue one actually matches her eyes perfectly, the only possible reason you don't like it is because it makes her look fat. Therefore the red one, which she doesn't think is cut as well as the blue one is(whatever in God's name that means) will make her look even fatter. Therefore you must think she's huge. And if you can't overlook the fact that she's put on a pound or two, you obviously don't love her. These connections, by the way, all happen within a microsecond, so you may wonder why, immediately after you have smiled lovingly and said you prefer the red dress, she has burst into hysterical sobs and thrown a shoe at your head.Getting back to your question, she cried either because she'll miss you too, or she has decided she doesn't know whether it's her you'll miss, or the nightly sex. And if you miss the nightly sex and are alone in a hotel room and have an expense account and happen to go downstairs to the bar where forty or fifty predatory harlots are all having a drink and just WAITING for you you turn up...Sigh. Need I go on?Just phone her up and tell her you love her and miss her.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 April 2011):
 did you ask her why she was crying?
sometimes I cry when I'm happy
sometimes when my BF who is not an openly demonstrative person, says or does something that tells me how much he loves me and touches me deeply I tear up...
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