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writes:I'm a gay guy. I met a guy a few weeks ago and we've seen each other a few times since.We always have amazing sex, and he always says how great the sex is.Thing is i text him and it gets ignored.Then maybe a couple of weeks later he will text to say"come round" then we end up going to bed and having great sex again.It really annoys me that he doesn't reply to my texts then suddenly out of the blue wants to see me.I'm so so confused by this situation.It's tearing me apart
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reader, Love Mama  +, writes (13 April 2011):
 Dear Booty Call,
This is not confusing. You are being booty-called. That's it. He obviously doesn't want a relationship, just sex. He doesn't care about your feelings...or YOU for that matter. Move on and leave him in your dust. Those boots are made for walkin', honey!
Love Mama
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reader, unknownreader +, writes (13 April 2011):
 I'm sorry if anything i say may seem harsh, but i believe sometimes to be straight with an answer, is the only way to help. I understand where you are coming from, as at one point in mine and my boyfriends relationship, he was sort of the same. He wouldn't see me for periods of time, but when he did all we did was have sex. He would also be quite rude and snappy towards me and i was left crying myself to sleep most nights wondering what i did wrong and also feeling heartbroken and confused. Now the part you may not like... The thing is, i decided i was worth more than the hurt, and if i was going to put up with it i deffinatly wanted to know why he thought i deserved it. Although i knew i couldnt talk to him, i decided to go on his pc, where i found he had been meeting up with another girl. He had told this girl i was an ex and he hated my guts and told her how he really liked her. It hit me, i was being used. With this new knowledge i didnt give him what he wanted and instead asked him why he was the way he was towards me. In the end he broke down and told me everything that had been going on. And i decided i was worth a lot more than what i was getting. You could try asking him how he feels about you, and just let him know you dont want a relationship built on sex. The question is, do you believe you are worth more than what you are getting ?
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reader, LizBetty  +, writes (12 April 2011):
 Babe to tell you the truth,he doesn't love you,but using you as SEX OBJECT. Sit him down and ask him why he is doing that? If no reply,please i advice you to run from him. Hope i answer your question?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2011): well, sorry to say, but that guy only wants the sex. if he ignores you next time and then after who knows how long he texts you and says to 'come around' then go and try having an serious talk with him about why he only texts you when he needs sex. tell him that you are not his sex toy and if he wants to see you again it's going to be serious, tell him how he makes you feel. try to talk about it with someone who is close to you. and that guy needs to understand and respect you and your expectations about your relationship
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2011): You are probably not the only person he's seeing. Unfortunately I don't know enough about the gay dating scene to give better advice. :\
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reader, DrDivine +, writes (12 April 2011):
Obviously to him, you are just a booty call. If he is ignoring your texts in-between he clearly isn’t interested in anything more. If you don’t like being a booty call and being ignored there is only one thing you can do – do not respond to him the next time he texts you inviting you over. Move on and find someone that doesn’t annoy you and shows you more respect.
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reader, catcher00  +, writes (12 April 2011):
Why is this hard to understand? He says you have AMAZING sex, and you agree--he doesn't say you have amazing conversations or you have a spiritual connection or anything along those lines... so it's purely physical. If that's not what you're looking for, abandon ship. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2011): Not exactly sure what you are confused about. There is no relationship here, just a purely sexual relationship or bluntly put you are nothing but a booty call. If you were hoping for something more you probably won't get it coz your interaction with him is purely based on the amazing sex nothing more. Cut your losses now before you get hurt even more.
Best of luck.
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reader, StarryEyes101 +, writes (12 April 2011):
 Sorry to say it hun. But you sound like a booty call to him. Ignore him. I doubt he will be as bothered by it 'coz he knows with a text you'll be knocking at his door. Don't bother with him hun. Go find someone that deserves you.
Hope this helps x
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