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writes:I love my boyfriend loads, but there is one problem, he lasts ages in bed. Anything up to 2 hours!The sex itself should be great; we vary positions and really do enjoy ourselves. Its not like I just lie there or anything :PBut, I'm no athelete! And after such a long time I'm a little dry xD And it gets a little uncomfortable :\ Plus my guy likes it deep, but he's quite large so for such a long time it gets too much. We were both virgins until recently, and I don't know how to talk to him about it,so what can I DO to make him come quicker? Thanks!x
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reader, sarahrose20  +, writes (12 September 2010):
because he was a virgin im guessing he masterbated a lot this affects a guys sex life. guys who masterbate a lot last longer because masterbation allows them to go really fast. hes too used to superspeed thats why he likes it hard and fast because it feels good. also if he is still masterbating daily it will take him longer. ask him to go 2 or 3 days without masterbating and dont have sex with him in that time period, then on day three have fun! also if you spend the night the morning is the best time right when you wake up and he has his “morning glory”
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010): LOTS of foreplay, especially mutual masturbation, and even flirting outside the bedroom.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010): Maybe this is not the answer to the whole problem. But I´d think the first thing you should do is to focus onto your own pleasure. Not out of selfishness! I made the experience that it means a lot to a man that he is able to satify his lover. So I´d suggest you let him please you thoroughly and you show him he did well. (Show him so he really gets the message -he`s a man, not telepathic, after all !!!) Then you relax, lean back - and when he goes on and on after that, you gently tell him you are happy now and would like to cuddle up a bit and get to sleep then, because you are fully satisfied and not up to sex anymore. This could be a good step on the way to our relationship....
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010): I have this condition. I have learned to live with it. Treatment is not usually effective. I am able to masturbate to ejaculation with my partner now and that is how we have worked through it. I have tried everything and nothing has worked.
Good luck
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reader, Yos  +, writes (11 September 2010):
 This is a good article on the subject. It's important that you have an open but caring discussion with him on the subject. I suggest you share the article with him too:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/health/physical_health/sexual_health/difficultyejaculating.shtml
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