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writes:Hello dear readers: ok i have a sex issue, i'm with my gf 1year and 4 months....and every time in bed i want to make some kunilingus and make her happy she doesn't want it she told me that every time i do it well she likes it but then we kiss and it's like she is doing it...and she feels disgusted... But on the other hand,doing bj,or if i finish in he rmouth she likes and even adores it...I would like some advice from those who have,had such experience and how did you resolve it.Thank you befor hand for your asnwers.
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reader, alternaterealities  +, writes (24 November 2010):
 Doom I meant oral sex. One day you stop and think and say, "she hasn't licked my lolly in months!" It was kind of a joke though. Kind of. lol Although, if you love giving it back, that should keep her happy and returning the favor. Guys can get just as lazy.
Its just hard to keep things fresh after so long. We all go through that (boy girl straight gay). You said she used to be more wild and has gotten shy... Hmm.
Get her out of the bedroom. Mix it up. Sex in a semi public place is always a good way to jump the batteries.
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reader, alternaterealities +, writes (24 November 2010):
Doom I meant oral sex. One day you stop and think and say, "she hasn't licked my lolly in months!" It was kind of a joke though. Kind of. lol
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 November 2010):
 He means that after the first year many women will stop giving you oral all together. Then you're lucky to get your yearly birthday bj. Been there, it sucks.
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reader, doom +, writes (24 November 2010):
doom is verified as being by the original poster of the question Yes maybe that's true about beeing more calm and conservative, i talked to her about it...she sad that our relationship became more stable so she wil lmake a effort to try something new (new sexy clothes etc...) every man needs it.About the sperm in my mouth, that's true:) hehe,)) so i'll keep it in mind:)
alternaterealities: what do you meen by "That usually goes away after a year."
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reader, alternaterealities +, writes (24 November 2010):
Would you kiss her after you blew your load in her mouth? What? You don't like your sperm sloshing in your mouth? :-)
Everyones comfort levels are different, you just have to respect it. If she's giving your oral be happy. That usually goes away after a year.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 November 2010):
To answer your follow up. I've found that girls will often get more conservative the more into the relationship they are. It could be that she wants you to see her in a different light, or maybe she's concerned that you are only excited by extremes so she pulled back. It's ok to tell her you miss the minx she was sometimes but love her the same regardless. Maybe she just needs to hear it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): My fiance and I have been together for 3 and a half yrs. I won't allow him to go down on me then kiss me right after either. He wipes he mouth and waits a little bit to kiss me. I guess it just bothers certain girls. I am one of them.
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reader, doom +, writes (24 November 2010):
doom is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk i understand maybe it is turns her off, but you know when she does it, i don't mind.... ok maybe going to the bathroom, or having some mouth wash neer, would be a good idea...just the thing is that i LOVE doing it:) hehe, and all my past gf....LOVED it....so that's what bothering me...But i tried talking to her, but she seems shy, don't now befor she was like a wild cat in bed now she is more like an angel, could girls change in one year, from devil to beeing shy....
Thank you for your answers
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (24 November 2010):
 Courtesy wipe, swig of water... takes all of 3 seconds.
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reader, Princess Aunty  +, writes (24 November 2010):
well when my boyfriend first kiss me down there and then kiss me on my lips. its like i can feel the taste of down there and its a bit yuckyyy and disgustful to like taste one own juice.
once you can do it after making cunnilingus wait for some time to kiss her on her lips. :)
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 November 2010):
The thought of our own sex juices on the lips of our partners can be a major turn off for some people. I had a GF who was similar. She wouldn't kiss me after I went down on her. It's not a big deal. I would usually make a quick run to the bathroom and use some mouth wash and wipe my face off. It was quick and didn't kill the mood. If anything it helped because it made her happy. This is something that has never bothered me, but it shouldn't be a big deal if that's what she wants.
Everyone has different hang ups when it comes to sex. It doesn't make her weird, or you weird.
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reader, hotttmess +, writes (24 November 2010):
 Well I personally don't mind it. I try not to think about it. However, most girls are grossed out by it. It is completely normal for her to be attracted to your semen because you are her boyfriend and a male obviously. It's nothing you can fix. i suggest you keep it cute and sensual by just kissing her body in sexy areas after or something!
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