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He had me drop him off a block from his jobsite --is he embarrassed to be seen with me?

Q.   Is he embarassed by me? I have been seeing this guy for a few weeks now, we aren't exclusive and really just mess around. He calls me while he is at the bar, but never invites me out. That I can understand we don't have to be around each other all ...

A.   26 July 2007: I don't know about this one. Did you ask him? It could very well be that he didn't want you to worry about turning around. Or, he could be wanting to keep your relationship, "under wraps." The fact that he only calls you when he's at the bar and ... (read in full...)

If his semen comes out of me after sex, is my chance of conceiving reduced?

Q.   i have been sexually active for a year with my partner,as it is both our first times we are unsure if the semen is supposed to come back out of my vagina after intercourse?it appears to be all of his semen and we are trying for a baby at the ...

A.   26 July 2007: If you're trying to get pregnant I would lay in bed for about 15-20 minutes after doing the deed. Of course the more sperm you have in your body, the better your chances. If it comes out though, you still have a big chance of conceiving. Good ... (read in full...)

Are girls only interested in a man with money?

Q.   are there people out who find it as hard as i do to understand what ladies really want? coz it seems very clear to me that all that girls consider in relationships is money.. unfortunately i dont seem to be that lucky coz am still a university ...

A.   26 July 2007: I can honestly say that a guy's money has nothing to do with if I would date him or not. There are girls out there that aren't completely shallow. Good luck!!!... (read in full...)

Any ideas on what to get my girlfriend of 6 months for her birthday?

Q.   Hey .. im just asking .. what should i get my girlfriend of 6 months for ther birthday .. i want to gfet her somthing nice .. and i need some ideas .. thank you .. very much...

A.   26 July 2007: The first thing that came to mind is jewelry. You almost can't go wrong! ... (read in full...)

He set me up to catch me snooping.

Q.   Until two weeks ago, I had been living with my boyfriend for the last year. Over the last 6 months, I have had some major trust issues with our relationship. I had been finding some emails and texts to other girls that were questionable, so I ...

A.   25 July 2007: The fact this this girl is in on the "fake" texting is a little odd. I would talk to him first about how I feel and see if anything changes. If not, and you still can't trust him, I would move on. Good luck!... (read in full...)

Is it easier the second time round.

Q.   I had a baby 3 1/2 months ago. I had a very tough labor. I was induced, and it didn't work, but the hospital staff refused to break my water until the 2nd day I was there. I had really bad nurses who seemed very inexperienced. I was in labor 40 hrs....

A.   25 July 2007: I would ask around and find out a really good OB GYN and also hospital if it's possible. It sounds like your experience was only made worse by the poor treatment of the hospital staff. Good luck and congratulations!!!!... (read in full...)

Shall i give him another chance.

Q.   I need advice. I have just split up with my fiance as he has kissed another girl. i dumped him once before because of the same thing. However, he promised that he could make me trust him and we got back together. Since then, I have never reall...

A.   25 July 2007: Like you said, you will never really be able to trust this guy again. Every time he is late, or his phone rings, your doubt is going to get the best of you. He's already disappointed you and probably wouldn't hesitate to do it again. On top of it ... (read in full...)

I want to get over my online affair.

Q.   How do I get over my online 'friend'? I'll try to keep a long story short. I have been with my husband for 11 years (married for 2). Two/three years after we got together I met one of his old friends. I fell for him straight away, and we sta...

A.   25 July 2007: Sever all ties immediately. If you love your husband and he loves his wife, you two have no business carrying on this way. If you are unhappy in your marriage, perhaps consider a divorce, but waiting for a man who "has no intention of leaving," is ... (read in full...)

Is he still a virgin if he has only ever had sex with a man?

Q.   Well this is not a question about me but it is about a lot of others OK if a gay man has been gay his whole life and never had sex with a woman but a man , technically wouldn't he still be a virgin?...

A.   25 July 2007: I would think that he was a "virgin" with a woman. But he has still had sex...just with a man. I guess that answer is personal. Someone else might think otherwise. ... (read in full...)

He keeps lying to me, why?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend always fight. He spends all his time at home, with me or at work. But I only get to see him 2 or 3 days a week. He lies a lot. And about stupid things. But not it's getting worse. He's lying to me about giving and getting other ...

A.   25 July 2007: I agree with the first response...you need to let this guy go. The only reason a person lies is to cover something up. If he knows it will hurt you, then why does he do it? ... (read in full...)

They told me my boyfriend was dead, and it was a joke.

Q.   Hello there... Okay...I have several problems really. The first one is this: Yesterday, my "friend" and two of her friends played a very sick joke on me, and let me tell you, I am so glad that I only believed them for a split-second. The jok...

A.   25 July 2007: Problem Number One: Those aren't your friends! That isn't even remotely funny. The only revenge I would get is new friends! Problem Number Two: If you've erased every bit of evidence from the laptop you should be fine. I highly doubt the scho... (read in full...)

I've been thinking about taking my ex's pictures and friendship off my Facebook

Q.   Hello everyone, I've been broken up with my ex for a little over a month now, and while I have maintained NC with her, save when she has talked to me a couple of times, I find myself constantly checking her Facebook page. I want to see who is wr...

A.   25 July 2007: I think that if you deleted her, you would still be curious and would want to check her page. Just leave it be.... (read in full...)

After telling my boyfriend about my workday he said it was long and boring, which hurts; doesn't he like talking with me?

Q.   Okay, So I had a really wierd day at work today and I wanted to tell my boyfriend all about it, well after I was done telling him he seemed really irritated and told me that the story was too detailed, long and boring, Well of course that hurt my ...

A.   25 July 2007: Let me start off by saying, "HOW RUDE!" If he talks about his long and detailed stories in front of you, he is required to do the same for you. I would let him know how this made you feel. Maybe he had a long day too, although that is no excuse ... (read in full...)

My 2 year relationship ended a week ago and he's already seeing someone new! How do I get over this?

Q.   My relationship of two years ended only about a week ago, and my ex is already dating someone else. As if the pain wasn't enough to bear already, he doesn't want to talk to me anymore and just pretend like he never loved me or that I even existed. ...

A.   25 July 2007: I can't believe that your guy has already moved on. This tells me that he was already seeing this girl before you two broke up. It's better that you don't talk to him, that way you'll get over him faster. The first two weeks are the hardest, once ... (read in full...)

Should I become a bit more physical with him in the hope of drawing a commitment from him?

Q.   Hi im 16 and i have a male friend whose 18. We used to talk a lot and we even made out, but then he just wanted to be friends because he didnt want to hurt me and after a while he stopped texting me. I finally managed to get him to talk to me, he ...

A.   25 July 2007: Don't ever try to compromise yourself for anyone else. If you feel like you need to make out with him to get him to like you more, he's not the guy for you. If you're comfortable with it and you want to do it, go for it. But don't do it just so ... (read in full...)

I had unprotected sex twice, what are the chances I might be pregnant?

Q.   Hi, I stupidly had unprotected sex twice when I was ovulatating, two weeks ago and I'm due my preiod next week. I'm 17 I just wondered what the likliness is that I could be pregnant? and how long would I have to wait to find out for sure? I wont be ...

A.   25 July 2007: The chances that you could be pregnant if you had sex while you were ovulating are pretty high. Sperm can even live inside your body for a few days after sex. You could find out with a qualitive HCG blood test, that measures a certain hormone ... (read in full...)

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