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writes:Hi im 16 and i have a male friend whose 18. We used to talk a lot and we even made out, but then he just wanted to be friends because he didnt want to hurt me and after a while he stopped texting me. I finally managed to get him to talk to me, he said that the reason he stopped talking to me was because i didnt like him anymore. So i told him i still liked him and he said he still liked me. So now now we talk all the time. We talk about being physical, and i really want to, but i dont know if i should because he wont commit to anything. Should i and see if it leads to us dating? O and by the way, im not talking about us having sex, just making out and stuff like that.
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reader, TaylorChu +, writes (25 July 2007):
 Seeing how you two arent even thinking about getting married & arent looking to have sex then there is no reason to make out. Making out leads to sex if you dont stop yourselves and for all its worth that is a difficult force to stop.
Enjoy him as a friend. Fortify that friendship. A commitment to each other is flimsy if it is just boyfriend-girlfriend. No promise is made nothing is being creates together by you to. Being physical tells him you want to do more but it is just a tease to him if he EXPECTS more. What you are willing to show you are willing to share. Commitment comes from the heart not touching or caressing a person.
*Dont hope for a commitment ASK for it but just know that being physical upfront just opens the door to being physical ALL the time and loving with your hearts part of the time.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (25 July 2007):
 I think that making out, or sex, are very bad ways to try to get a man to commit. Commitment does not arise from sex. Some men might take the sex and leave when a responsibility comes up. So, if he won't commit, don't make out with him.
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reader, tadala +, writes (25 July 2007):
 Don't ever try to compromise yourself for anyone else. If you feel like you need to make out with him to get him to like you more, he's not the guy for you. If you're comfortable with it and you want to do it, go for it. But don't do it just so he'll date you.
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reader, xMiiSS-CALDERx  +, writes (25 July 2007):
 i dont see why you shouldnt if you enjoy his company and his friendship then i dont see why you shouldnt take you relationship with him to the next level you will never know what happens until you give it a try. but be cautious as their is a change that he doesnt want anything serious with you and if you enter into this situation thinking that he will deffinelty commit then you may become dissapionted and hurt you should keep an open mind and only if you feel right and not in to much of a hurry for a commitment from him. then i guess just enjoy your time with him. Take Care x
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