Please can you tell me why I have this fear of kissing?
Q. hi umm.. my problems is that i have a fear of kissing. i dont really know why. ive had boyfriends before but of course it doesnt last long because i cant kiss them. i really dont know what to do.it seems like when when my lips become close to their...
A. 20 September 2008: Perhaps you are subconsciously worried about potential disease. Herpes (the oral version) otherwise known as cold sores are transmitted this way. You can get glandular fever by kissing too!
It may just be the grossness factor. Do you think sh... (read in full...)
We both always agreed that we never wanted kids. But now I'm pregnant and getting an abortion, he's changed his mind!? What is going on?
Q. I'm in a relationship with a great guy we've been together for over 2 years now and have had relatively few problems (well every couple has their share but nothing worth breaking up over!)... until now!! Now I have a very big problem! See, neither ...
A. 20 September 2008: Maybe it could be his stance on abortion. Is he Pro-Life? If not, is he only pro-choice in cases of medical necessity or rape or incest? He may not want kids, but he may be against abortion.
Another possibility is that he actually does want kid... (read in full...)
She dumped me because I lied about my virginity! What do I do now?
Q. ok i told my good friend that i wasnt a virgin and told her to not to tell anyone... then i started dating this girl i really like and care for... and one day she asked if i was a virgin and i told her yes and she said ok.. then today my good ...
A. 5 September 2008: Well if I understand what you are saying correctly, you told your girlfriend you were a virgin, but you aren't. You shouldn't have lied about something like that! It sets precedent for dishonesty. Anyway, you can beg her for another chance - but be ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend masturbates to porn and then says, "it's not you". Why does he choose this over me?
Q. Hey everyone, I really badly need to get this off my chest (no pun intended). I've been with my boyfriend now for 3 years and when we first got together, things were great. Then I found out he watches porn. One night, I was feeling ill, and...
A. 5 September 2008: Porn can be addictive. I'm a woman and I look at porn. Not every week, but usually at least once a month.
Porn is part of fantasy life. Fantasising about other people and other situations is normal.
I could give up porn, but I couldn't (perman... (read in full...)
My guy thinks the kids from his prior marriage are enough, but I think I might want to have kids of my own.
Q. Hi, I'm currently in a relationship with a man that has decided he doesn't want to have anymore kids. We've been together 3 years now and he has two children of his own from a previous marriage. I'm undecided if I want children yet, but have al...
A. 5 September 2008: Perhaps you could explain it to him in evolutionary terms. Explain to him that you think it's unfair that he got to reproduce and pass on his genes, but he would deny that for you.
Tell him that the more children he has, and the more differen... (read in full...)
I like kinky sex but my boyfriend doesn't want to play.
Q. This is not the first time Ive had this issue. This is just the first important relationship Ive had it in. Im kinky. Im the type of kinky that you see in porn. I love to be held down, spanked, forced to do whatever my partner desires. Being h...
A. 5 September 2008: You say you both like to look at kinky porn. This is an indication that he probably does like it.
Going from fantasy to real life is a big step - some people can't take that step. Try to break it down into smaller steps as possible.
He need... (read in full...)
She wants to marry me eventually, but wants to date other guys now. What should I do?
Q. Im 21 now I started dating my girlfriend when we were 14. Last year we took a break, b/c she said she did not feel the same anymore. And I felt like our love was dying down. After about 7 months we started seeing each other and after 5 years we ...
A. 5 September 2008: She thinks she loves you, but she wants to be sure there isn't something better. This makes you plan B. If she dates around and finds that you have been the best, she'll come back to you.
I would suggest not waiting around though. Make a fair pla... (read in full...)
How can I get more info on this teacher to aid in my fantasies?
Q. How can I find out information about my TAFE teacher in order to better enjoy my sexual fantasies? I am studying part-time at TAFE (Technical and Further Education - look it up if you don't understand) and working full-time. I am 22 years o...
A. 3 September 2008: I chickened out. I'll just have to wait for an appropriate opportunity to ask. Maybe when he mentions something he's done in the past and I can say, wow - how old are you?... (read in full...)
How can I suggest to my girlfriend that she shaves down there?
Q. Dear Cupid... Me and my girlfriend have just started having full sex, but before we started having full sex, i used to give her oral sex and she really enjoys it. The problem with the oral sex, is that she has NEVER shaved down there, and its...
A. 31 August 2008: First I suggest you find out her reasons for not shaving. Is she worried about the horrible bristles that will occur when the hair regrows? Is she worried about getting ingrown hairs? Is she worried about the itchiness that might occur wit... (read in full...)
I'm 35, single, and still a virgin, but my religion sees sex before marriage as a sin. What can I do?
Q. hi I found this website may be can help in this matter. I am single guy,35 years old.I am still virgin.I am live in uK but i am from Egypt and christian. MY regailion refuse any sex before marriage and in my religion sex before ma...
A. 31 August 2008: Not everyone can find a partner. Some people never lose their virginity - even if they want to. Which is more important to you: experiencing sex before you die? Or sticking with your religious beliefs? Even if you do decide to disregard your ... (read in full...)
How can I make him understand that I'm not easy? He even used the 'S' word...
Q. This is very unfair, I believe... Well, I'll start with some background. My boyfriend of two years has problems with my past. Especially because when I was single, on two ocassions, I made out with strangers at the bar after half an hour of havin...
A. 31 August 2008: What you should do is correct his misperceptions of a slut. Tell him that a slut is a sexually promiscuous woman. Tell him that since you lost you lost your virginity to him and have had not had intercourse since, that means you are not sexually ... (read in full...)
How can I get more info on this teacher to aid in my fantasies?
Q. How can I find out information about my TAFE teacher in order to better enjoy my sexual fantasies? I am studying part-time at TAFE (Technical and Further Education - look it up if you don't understand) and working full-time. I am 22 years o...
A. 31 August 2008: Geez, I don't want to stalk him. I realise now the way I asked this question does make it sound like that though. I mean, what's a good way of getting him to volunteer the answers - like what's a good way of asking? I don't want to go sneaking ... (read in full...)
How should I behave in the office now that this new woman is changing everything?
Q. HI, My problem is related to my professional relations. Actually Im with my company from past 7 years and worked a lot here with full honesty and more than my profile. My bosses used to appreciate in front of me for my work and behave. We had a very ...
A. 30 August 2008: If your bosses are making things more casual and easygoing, then that should indicate they are increasing tolerance. This includes tolerating your formality. You say you would rather be alone than in bad company. Just because you are in bad compa... (read in full...)
He has turned from Prince Charming to a big jerk. What should I do about this
Q. I am a single mother of 3 and I met a guy who seemed very sweet and loving towards my children. He was a complete gentlemen and took me out and treated me like a princess. Well, 2 months have gone by and he has become a total jerk. He made my ...
A. 30 August 2008: Not letting your kid win at Guitar Hero does not make him a jerk. I wouldn't let a kid win at something just because they were a kid! Although he must have done something wrong if your kid cried from losing - unless your kid is used to getting ... (read in full...)
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