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I missed one of my birth control pills, how likely is it I could get pregnant?

Q.   I skipped one pill i took it as soon as i got home then i took another one when it was time to take it. then the next day i took another one at the same time. ive been on the pill for about 7 months. 2 or 3 days after my missed pill me and my ...

A.   6 November 2010: Take the morning after pill. Don't chance it.... (read in full...)

After 2 days and 100 texts, why did he start ignoring me?

Q.   Ok, So I'm Sixteen, I have never kissed a guy and I am really embarrassed about this. I have had this one particular crush for about a year now. About two weeks ago he told me he liked me and I admitted to liking him. I thought we were going to ...

A.   14 October 2010: In my experience DON'T worry about it. Also, I did not get my first kiss until after 16 and I am a fox! Relax. If he is meant for you, you will get him. Most of these things generally have nothing to do with you but all to do with THEM. ... (read in full...)

Stress induced fighting is ruining my relationship!

Q.   Me and my girlfriend of nearly a year got into a fight last week, which ended with me blowing up at her because we had made plans earlier in the week but she suddenly canceled them without talking to me about it. She said that she felt scared after ...

A.   11 October 2010: I think you can fix it. Stress can hurt a relationship but if you really want to treat her right, you will find a release somewhere else. Show her you can change.... (read in full...)

Should I date him to find out if I like him?

Q.   I am 19 and a thirty year old graduate student at my school went with me to the movies. I wasn't sure it was a date but he paid and kissed me on the cheek afterwards. He acted like a perfect gentleman and suggested another movie we could see and ...

A.   22 October 2008: That was what I was hoping. BUT, a male family member of mine said that men do not look at women well if they date a much older man. Do men feel this way??!... (read in full...)

Husband on the 'down low'!

Q.   Apologies if this is long; but it's really worrying me and I need to get it out in the open. I'm 33 and my husband's 36. We have two sons, one aged 12 and the other who's 14. I live down the road from my best friend, and my children are bes...

A.   21 October 2008: You have to confront him at some point. Do it when you are ready and definitely take care of yourself and the kids during this time. You should also get a therapist and check for STDs. You don't want any surprises. You deserve so much better!!... (read in full...)

Should I change for him or act like myself and see what happens?

Q.   me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 months and here in the past year i have felt like i cant be myself around him. a couple of nights ago we went out and on the way home we got into an aggument and i said something about not being ...

A.   9 July 2008: What do you do that pisses him off? I know you don't want to piss him off so I would like to know what it is that he thinks you do to do that. But you need to be yourself no matter who you are with so that you can be happy. You cannot live a li... (read in full...)

I get a burning feeling when I pee. Can anyone suggest what's causing it?

Q.   ok, I have a big problem. Im suppose to start my period today, and well i kinda did. But the thing is i have to pee or feel as though i have to pee every few mins. But when i pee it burns, and its very litely bloody. I dont know what to make of ...

A.   8 July 2008: A friend of mine had this problem and she had used too much soap or an irritating soap down there. I don't know if that is your problem but don't hesitate or be embarrassed to go to a doctor if it continues. xxx... (read in full...)

My husband caught me having sex with my cousin

Q.   Im married with kids but not long ago my husband caught me having sex with me cousin. I realise that i love my cousin, an that i have tried to ignore my feelings an so as he, but we can't. We love each other, i'm older than he is (by 14yrs)an family ...

A.   17 May 2008: I say no too. It can hurt so many people. You don't need to have kids with a man to show that you love him. The cousin can act like a father to the kids you already have. It takes a village to raise a child. And if you have a child with the cousin. ... (read in full...)

He forced me to give him oral, I froze and acted as demanded... what now?

Q.   Is this wrong? I was hanging out with a college hallmate and asking about homework. He kissed and touched me before one night when I was tipsy, but this night he started touching and I said "I don't think this is a good idea." I kept saying that...

A.   17 May 2008: update: I have had a meeting with him and a dean. He didn't apologize at first; he just said sorry that you felt like I tried to do you wrong. But, then we explained that what he did is WRONG AND ILLEGAL. So he has been reported. He has apologiz... (read in full...)

How do I say "no more!" to rough sex with my married boss?

Q.   Me and my boss playd around alot yesterday for the first time. i went down to his house for a coffee which was totally normal because we have always been close and i always come and talk to him about alot of things. we started 2 talk and the topics ...

A.   24 March 2008: I don't know if he thought you were playing when you said stop but HE SHOULD HAVE STOPPED. I know that it is difficult but you have to be assertive and if you don't want to do that again..DONT..because it can spiral and soon you will start doing ... (read in full...)

He forced me to give him oral, I froze and acted as demanded... what now?

Q.   Is this wrong? I was hanging out with a college hallmate and asking about homework. He kissed and touched me before one night when I was tipsy, but this night he started touching and I said "I don't think this is a good idea." I kept saying that...

A.   17 March 2008: thx for all the responses...to the most recent response. No we weren't tipsy. I said once before when he kissed me, I was. This time we were totally sober. And I told him that I thought it was a bad idea as soon as he tried to start touching m... (read in full...)

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